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05/04/2013 at 12:38
Did anyone have one of these during pregnancy? He's starting to drive me a bit mad
This morning: 'Have you had measles?' 'Did you hear about the bird flu in China - killed lots of pigeons and is heading this way' 'Get out of the bath before I leave for work in case you slip.' 'You shouldn't go into work today' (I have quite bad back ache, but, I've got to work!!)
I would much rather he be like this than not bother about me and baby and he is being totally sweet wanting to look after us both, but I still have 6 weeks to go and he's been like it for ages - I need him to chill!
He tells me off (jokingly) for standing on chairs to get things down in the kitchen (safer than reaching though, no?), and every day insists I'm overdoing it - I'm not, I'm just working and doing the other things that people need to do in life!
On the plus, he has demanded I go for a massage next week and ever since I've been pregnant has insisted on doing all hoovering and cleaning of the shower, so I don't want to stop him fussing and fretting in that respect
05/04/2013 at 13:03
Oh god you're really lucky!! My H is rubbish at sympathy or being considerate like that, I had to throw a strop every now and again when I was pregnant to get him to realise I needed help. Make the most of it, it may be a little annoying but like you say, sooo much better than him being like my H!!
05/04/2013 at 13:09
Mine is the same RE: slipping and lifting and carrying etc, not so good when he wants me to get up and make him a cup of tea though!
05/04/2013 at 13:10
Don't complain, just enjoy it! Probably more to do with the fact this is our third but my H seems a little bored by pregnancy, I just get the whole 'your pregnant not ill' comments from him! Obviously he doesn't let me lift anything heavy or do anything dangerous but he's definitely not taken on any of the housework and I wish he would sometimes!
Your H sounds lovely but I know it can get a bit over the top sometimes!
05/04/2013 at 13:11
I was like your H Bless him, he loves you and wants to take care of you, albeit a tad annoying.
05/04/2013 at 13:26
Sorry yes, I bet I sound like a right spoilt cow
Think his response has taken me by surprise a little bit and I'd been meaning to post for ages to ask if this was a common thing - he will be back to being a lazy git in no time at all I'm sure!
TBF he still rolls his eyes when I'm huffing and puffing trying to get comfy or get up from the sofa, and last night burst out laughing during my (admittedly OTT and hormonal) hysterical sobs when something happened to a child in a film we were watching, so I think you're right that I should just go with it, as the novelty probably will wear off soon, or definitely if we have another!
05/04/2013 at 13:29
Aw he is taking care of you but I appreciate it's probably a bit annoying at times! What do you think he'll be like at the birth? Sounds like it's behaviour you'll be glad of when you've got the baby though, take advantage of it!
05/04/2013 at 13:55
Aww, bless him. Can see why it might be a tad annoying, but better than the alternative! Glad he is looking after you and baby lamby x
05/04/2013 at 14:03
Aww Vik, that's lovely and you know I bet I'd be exactly the same in reverse. It must be quite strange for the partner, wanting to protect the big girl and the precious cargo, I'd probably fret too!
Popcorn - I think he'll be good at the birth - I'm hoping he will be calm, have told him not to pass any fretting on to me! I hope you're right and this is a sign of how he will be once we're both sleep deprived with baby, I'll be very grateful and definitely not a spoilt cow if he is!
Thanks ladies - will go home tonight and be more appreciative
05/04/2013 at 14:20
Erm well my h had no qualms about me going into the loft at 32 weeks to get all the baby stuff down , in first tri and half of second tri he did the house work as I wasn't allowed but he'd have driven me mad if he wouldn't let me do anything, god it would have been a long 9 months, h dies help out at home etc but things just carried on as normal tbh as there was no reason to wrap me in cotton wool.
05/04/2013 at 14:40
You don't sound spoilt at all, I think it just seems to be one extreme to the other with most of our OHs and whether it's them being over protective or lazy either way is annoying after a while!
Its a shame they can't all just ask what we'd like help with and then leave us to the rest-prob because they know they'd get stuck with the hovering and washing up!
05/04/2013 at 14:53
My H would tell me off for doing certain things but I was the only one who was going to do them! He was good in a practical way but not much in the way of sympathy when my back was bloody killing. After my section he was brilliant an did everything, it lasted two weeks and now muggins here is back to doing absolutely everything round the house
05/04/2013 at 15:00
Aww he sounds really sweet- I was still carrying shopping bags up 3 flights of stairs at 38 weeks, he did go ahead to open the doors which was something!
05/04/2013 at 15:07
Your H sounds fab! Mine is still oblivious to housework and will only help if I ask him to do something, pregnancy or no pregnancy! However, he has ben good at fetching me stuff when I can't be bothered to move whereas before pregnancy he would have told me to get it myself!
05/04/2013 at 15:59
Mine is being similarly protective and I'm not quite 8 weeks! I'm not knocking it though, my exH was extremely rubbish in terms of help/support during my first three pregnancies. OH has been fab. My favourite part so far is that he spent his day off shopping and batch cooking so I don't have to (he's out of the house 16hrs a day).
He can be over protective and it does get a little frustrating but having seen the other side of the coin, I'm happy to let him continue!
05/04/2013 at 16:14
Mine was the complete opposite so am slightly jealous although can understand it being annoying.
yes i have one of these! I'm having twins so the consultant mentioned bed rest and H takes it extremely seriously, can be a bit of a pain in the bottom but I dont think he realises he may be making a rod for his own back...he is proving quite capable at doing the additional chores so may just leave him to it haha!
05/04/2013 at 16:41
Libby - That's very true - if he just asked what I needed I'd tell him to let me do whatever I please, but to always fetch me chocolate and clean the bathroom
Spicey - Oh bless your H, I would cringe if I heard the term bed rest from the Cons - H would be exactly the same and I imagine it could get very tedious! Funny though that he is proving himself a bit too capable - he may regret that As an aside, hope you are doing ok, I can only imagine how puffed out I'd be carrying two babies!
I do realise I'm very lucky really, especially thinking about the other side of the coin. And of course I'll be gutted if he suddenly becomes unhelpful once we have baby and the demands on him are far bigger than doing more housework and bringing me cake!
05/04/2013 at 17:10
Lamby....mine was EXACTLY the same! Wasn't allowed to paint nursery (fumes), go near in laws dogs (in case the jumped at me), have a bath when in house on own (in case I fell, balls to that!), cut grass (too much strain!!)...the list goes on! My favourite though was H telling me to rest up and take it easy whilst on maternity leave, so I have a nice long shower, and come out to 10 missed calls from him, 2 answerphone messages from in lawsand my brother knocking on the door to cgeck I'm ok, as a parcel that he was waiting for had apparently been attempted delivery with noone in (it hadnt!) and he thought I had an accident as a result!!!!! So much for the relaxing shower...if I hadn't answered to him I certainly wouldnt answer to the MIL!!!!! Haha! X
05/04/2013 at 17:54
Coco that really cracked me up! Relax....but remember to ring me if you are going to leave your phone for a whole 10 minutes Oh bless him, he must have been imagining allsorts, fellow fretter that he is!
H told me yesterday he panicked during a meeting realising he had left his mobile on his desk, and was imagining me trying to get hold of him, lying, alone, injured or in the midst of giving birth. I'm not even 34 weeks yet, and was at work anyway!! x
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