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11/07/2014 at 07:53
Happy due date to me! No signs this morning so looks like a late baby for me, I'm ok about it at the moment I think although the not knowing when is driving my inner OCD person a little nuts. Ordered a few more bits which I'm still waiting to arrive (Mothercare sort out your standard delivery times please!), am watching a chair on eBay for the corner of the room (ikea one currently only £4!). Weather miserable so can't really go for a little walk. Boo!
Baby out vibes for all those ahead of me and a little wave for everyone else! X
11/07/2014 at 08:05
Good luck Kapowski!!!!!
Last day in work for me - 50/50 split of relief and panic on how it will all continue!!!! Will be working a bit from the home office in the next few weeks so not ttally out of the loop :)
Hi to all xxx
11/07/2014 at 09:03
Happy due date Kapowski! Hope you aren't waiting long and lots of baby out vibes!
Sue - enjoy your last day in work!
AFM - 33 weeks today and feel huge! Woke up with sore hips so just sat in bed now, will probably read some more of my 'birth skills' book until I feel up to getting up properly. Have my pregnancy massage later this aft and then it's date night :) H's turn so no idea what we're doing!
What's everyone got planned for the weekend? We have NCT in the morning, then off on our last long travelling weekend visiting people before baby is due! Going to a friend's in Peterborough and then to see H's grandparents in Norfolk! We have friends coming to us the next couple of weekends and then as of August we are on a no travel rule! It's going to be strange as we are always here there and everywhere at weekends but it'll be nice to have that time before baby comes :)
Baby out vibes to those that need them! X
11/07/2014 at 09:47
Hi everyone, and happy due date Kapowski! Hope baby decides to make an appearance soon!
Sue, have a lovely last day in work, then relax!!
Browny, your day and weekend sound busy but lovely. Enjoy yourself!
Me, well, I haven't been on since have spent 2 days being a bit miffed after my mw appt. Basically she is just about agreeing home birth, but we had a massive argument. Situation is that she was saying in life or death situation, she'd get me an ambulance to hospital. I explained that there is no way an ambulance can get to where we are in much under half an hour (just to recap, I'm a paramedic and know how they prioritise, we are very rural and nearest base is 20 miles away IF there's a truck available in the first place) so regardless of complication, neighbours and hubby would load me into the campervan, call direct to resus in the hospital (I have the number through work) and I'd be there in under 10 minutes (border politics mean that although we are 10 mins from hospital, no ambulance would be sent from that area since we live 500 metres inside a different foundation trust area. Stupid but true). Anyway, mw said if that was the case I shouldn't be planning to stay at home, and she would refuse to travel. So basically, for the sake of doing things by the book, she would be prepared to sit around for 20+ minutes watching me or baby die, rather than use available means to get in. I am well aware that that sort of situation is stupidly unlikely and it won't put me off home birth, but there's now a rather bad feeling between her and us. She's coming to the house next Weds and I'm dreading it. I can't ask for a different mw since you need to do that via the supervisor of mws and she IS the supervisor! Aaargh. And breathe.....
Anyway, on better news, finished our NCT course this week which was very very good, and hope to meet up with some of the ladies once babies are here. Spent the last 2 days stripping paint from the skirting down the stairs (nesting instinct decided I need to strip and repaint all the woodwork) and will do the door frames later. Then a friend is coming over this evening and we're having a takeaway :-). Weekend, well hubby is going gliding tomorrow (40th birthday pressie from his brothers) so we'll have lunch out somewhere before that, then DIY and a bit of shopping on Sunday. Hope it's sunny and I can get my new sun lounger out in the garden :-)
Sorry for the essay and rant, just updating and getting things off my chest!
Hi to all who follow, and the usual baby out vibes to all who want them today xxx
11/07/2014 at 13:03
K - Happy due date lovely! Hope your bits arrive quickly and lots of vibes for a cheap chair win! ;-)
Sue - hope you have a lovely last day, and that you don't have to do too much at home!
Browny - sounds like you've a lovely chilled day planned! Enjoy date night and your weekend away - hope the travelling doesn't niggle your hips.
BF - I have to say in your situation there is no way I'd be contemplating home birth (coming from someone completely pro home birth). Although the risks are slim they're still there....and with a first labour especially you never know how it's going to go. Hopefully well for the sake of baby and you.
Ixia and Imp - lots of baby out vibes!
AFM - Not tons to report. Insomnia strikes again but not really in discomfort. Just getting bigger and baby's arrival getting closer! We're pretty much set to go! It's H's birthday this Monday so we've a weekend of nice things planned :-)
11/07/2014 at 13:48
Crashing in to say that BF, had I been in your situation and had a home birth my husband would be raising Isla without me. My 3l PPH was described as life threatening, and that was with doctors on hand immediately to sort me out. I was classed as low risk and counselled to choose home birth, but am so glad I didn't. I had no risk factors for anything, no one could have predicted my complications, and I flat out would be dead if I wasn't in hospital. Ultimately it's your decision, but if the supervisor of midwives says in your situation you shouldn't have a home birth, it's for the sake of you and your baby. I hope you get the birth you want, but I just couldn't help but weigh in, it's still a pretty fresh experience in my mind.
11/07/2014 at 14:00
That's fine Wispa. she's not saying I shouldn't stay at home, just that if I think a drama is likely, I shouldn't. Well, I don't (does anyone?) but just like to be prepared for ALL eventualities. Thing is, the logistical situation I describe is very very common outside areas of relatively large population density, just that most people aren't aware of it and therefore it doesn't factor in their decision making. I was just annoyed she came across as saying "I am supporting you but won't bend the rules if things go wrong", and, given that she knows I'm doing hypnobirthing (in fact she recommended it) she still came out with the unhelpful negative comment "you'll be in far too much pain anyway to make a decision".
Anyway, I don't have to deal with her again for another 5 days!
Glad you and Isla are both Ok and doing well xx
11/07/2014 at 15:11
That's the thing, though. No one ever expects the rare complications because they're just that: rare. It doesn't mean the risk isn't there. And as for her not bending the rules, I can't blame her. It's her job, the rules are there for a reason. If she were to travel with you in that campervan she would, I assume, be liable for things going wrong on route as she would have a responsibly of care. There's nothing to stop you from having your home birth and then piling into the van if things go wrong, but I assume she has her hands tied by rules that she has to follow or otherwise risk losing her job, so she can't recommend you do that or travel with you. And you said she said that in your situation you shouldn't be planning home birth after you explained that the ambulance wouldn't get there in under 30 minutes. So she's not just saying she would sit by and watch, she's saying if you can't be taken by ambulance to hospital in the event that things go wrong, you shouldn't plan a home birth (if I'm reading your earlier comment correctly- 'Anyway, mw said if that was the case I shouldn't be planning to stay at home').
11/07/2014 at 15:35
No no, at no point has she said I shouldn't plan home birth. She has said that IF I am that worried (which I'm not) or think things will go wrong (which I don't) then I shouldn't. Yes I see in my original message that wasn't clear. Sorry! She hasn't refused to attend, she's just being unnecessarily negative.
11/07/2014 at 21:51
Words fail me....If someone doing their job and having a duty of care is being unnecessarily negative, I'd love to know what your expectations are. Sounds a perfectly reasonable response from the mw to me. She is trying to keep your best interests and those of your unborn baby at heart ...but again you can't help but have a dig at the people overseeing your care, as you have time and time again. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I have friends who have had horrific birthing experiences after smooth pregnancies and the outcomes haven't been positive. I can't bear to read someone being so flippant, regardless of their medical background
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