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14/05/2013 at 18:15
Birth and Pregnancy Story
I’m still amazed he is all mine and I get to keep him. At 7 weeks we were told after I had some bleeding that we had possibly lost a twin.
At 8 weeks more bleeding followed, feeling like my pregnancy was hanging on by a thread we visited EPU for another scan, seeing all the other ladies around me get bad news waiting for that appointment was like torture. There was his little heartbeat, beating away. Oh it’s just implantation bleeding, no sign of a twin pregnancy so you’ve had good news today. Here’s a picture and off you go!
Our 12 week scan came, the nerves were incredible. Nuchal measurements 1.1 you say! Hubby shouts phew, we’re out the woods there! I couldn’t let go of that fear, we’ve still got those screening tests to go, let’s just wait and see! Clutching my picture in my hand, I could hardly believe this little playful hyperactive bouncy baby was mine.
A few days later, while we were having breakfast our house phone rang. It’s the high risk midwife team here…hubby was white and passed the phone to me. She was saying 1 in 70 risk of downs syndrome; it could be Edwards, or turners. Fatal to foetus, maternal fatality. We recommend diagnostic tests, a CVS or amnio, very soon. Please make the decision by the end of the weekend. Carries risk of miscarriage, if results are positive we’d recommend termination. There are no words for how I felt as I put the phone down. We decided to go with the CVS test, I wanted to know what we were dealing with so we could help him, maybe they could fix it if they knew what was wrong. The CVS appointment was a few days later, we waited 7 hours in the waiting room. There’d been a fatal mortality which caused the delay, a woman was screaming in the waiting room. I don’t know how I managed to sit there and wait. My name was called and I signed disclaimers, the consultant started the scan and there was that beautiful heartbeat again, but he was saying I’m sorry we can’t do the test your placenta is in the way. We can try again in another week?
Back again, I’m asked to sign disclaimers and take part in CVS clinical research. Sure! Might help other women out in the future, why not. There’s your babies heartbeat and we have a go today. The CVS was all done, it wasn’t as bad as I’d imagined but still they said I was a very strong lady. They confirmed his heartbeat, he was still alive. Seeing that needle pass by his head as it went into my placenta, something I will never forget. Three days later, the phone rang. All clear they said, and it’s a boy. I was on cloud 9. But wait until full screening comes in, something else could show itself, but they were fine too.
16 weeks, and the SPD hit. Great. As if cervical spondylosis isn’t bad enough, now this.
Days passed, and my baby B hung on as I hung on. We got to our 20 week scan, nervous and excited it was a nightmare. The sonographers were silent, no-one smiled. We got taken into a quiet room to be told he was small, too small and his long bones were smaller. We had scan after scan where they kept repeating skeletal dysplasia, placental insufficiency, and small for dates but we hung on. My placental blood flow started to show signs of failing, my water levels dropped and at 29 weeks they started saying early induction. My doctor signed me off work on bed rest. I’d never get to 40 weeks, forget the due date. I kept telling him to hang on; I’d get us through it. He just concentrate on growing, I’d do the rest.
At 24 weeks I started hypnobirthing classes. I wanted to feel like I was in control, like I could get him out safely, with as li
14/05/2013 at 18:27
Sobbing. He is so gorgeous! So pleased you finally have your precious baby in your arms xxx
Oh my goodness, what a gorgeous boy and a fab story! Xx
14/05/2013 at 18:28
Wow! Well done GB!! Ben is absolutly gorgeous! xxx
14/05/2013 at 18:31
He's just gorgeous!
What an emotional story - thank you for sharing. Xx
14/05/2013 at 18:34
Oh GB, amazing story and an amazing mum and baby, your 3rd May update started the tears for me. He's gorgeous and must feel like the most special little boy in the world, well done again on everything, I'm in awe of your strength in all of this xx
14/05/2013 at 18:38
Well done you! Ben is gorgeous x
14/05/2013 at 18:40
He is gorgeous. Such an amazing little boy, with fab parents too.
Thanks for sharing your story. X
14/05/2013 at 18:43
I really enjoyed reading that :-) and what a gorgeous little man! Vibes for the test results and surgery xx
14/05/2013 at 18:51
That's the most incredible birth story I've ever seen. I challenge anyone to read that and not cry!
Thank you for writing it all down, especially the early stages of pregnancy. I can't imagine what it felt like to go through all of that but you are incredibly strong and brave.
Such a nice ending to hear that he is already at home with you. Take each day as it comes in regards to appointments and tests, I wish you all the luck in the world that you get positive results.
Enjoy every minute of your gorgeous baby- I especially love the photo of him in his car seat, very cute x
14/05/2013 at 19:14
What a fantastic and emotional story. Your little boy and you are so strong. I just know that whatever they may find you'll be strong enough to fight it together. Congratulations. He's beautiful. xxx
14/05/2013 at 19:17
What an inspiring story. You may not feel like a superwoman but you clearly are where it comes to your super little man. I have no doubt whatever life throws at you from here on, you will cope. Good luck for all the appointments xx
Amazing story! Thank you for sharing. Ben is gorgeous :)
14/05/2013 at 19:18
What an amazing story. Had me in absolute tears. You have been such a fighter throughout this and it was so special to read about your journey. I have thought of you a lot during my pregnancy, particularly as our due dates were in the same week. What a gorgeous baby Ben is, and is clearly made of the same strength as his mum! I am so pleased that he is home with you already and hope that he keeps getting stronger each day xxx
14/05/2013 at 19:23
I have never cried at a birth story until now, I honestly think you are an inspiration and Ben is lucky to have you as his mum.
14/05/2013 at 19:26
Thankyou for sharing, you are both amazing, so pleased you you are home already x
14/05/2013 at 19:29
Beautiful birth story, thank you so much for sharing. Your little man is gorgeous, huge congratulations! x
14/05/2013 at 19:32
What an amazing story and what an amazing woman you are gb! Benjamin is one lucky little boy to have you as his mummy! Welcome to the work little man!
14/05/2013 at 20:40
What an amazing story, I'm so emotional now and he is really gorgeous! xx
14/05/2013 at 21:23
That is one journey mrs! I'm so so pleased after all the difficulties you got your beautiful boy x x
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