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29/12/2017 at 16:34
I feel so bad and I don't even know if it is 100% yet but I had my scan at 14 weeks and 5 days and he showed us between the legs and their was a willy their and I just had my heart set on having a baby girl my partner already has three boys in his previous relationship so I am thinking that it is going to be right at my 20 week scan because he has so many already how accurate is the genitals at 14+5 ??
29/12/2017 at 22:57
All I can say hun is that with my youngest son I saw the willy at a scan earlier than what you have and it was confirmed at my 20 week scan. X
29/12/2017 at 22:59
At least you have time to deal with your feelings before baby arrives. You can't choose the sex of your baby, however much you may want to.
30/12/2017 at 15:22
It’s hard to tell prior to 16 weeks of pregnancy what gender a baby is via a scan due to the female genitalia and male genitals being a similar size and shape. The most common thing visible before this stage is the cord. That’s why when you go for a gender scan they don’t look for a penis they look for ovaries. If they aren’t 100% they won’t tell you.
I wanted a girl with my 1st and got her. With my 2nd we hoped for a boy but we have the most gorgeous content happy little girl. I wouldn’t say I was disappointed but a part of me was a little bit upset, more for my OH as I knew he woudl have loved a little boy. we aren’t having any more children and there are so many benefits to having children of the same sex.
as said above you can’t decide the gender, it’s a 50:50 chance. I hope you are able to find out the gender at your next scan x
02/01/2018 at 12:02
I feel like I can really help with this.
When I was pregnant with my 1st baby I was 100% sure that I did not know what I would do with my life if I had a boy, I just couldn't see my life as a boy mummy all I could see was pink and bows and princess's. After my 14 week scan I also posted a thread very similar to yours on gender disappointment and I want you to know that it is nothing to be ashamed of. The fact your able to own up to your feelings is great.
I was in the same boat, I had paid for a private early scan at 15w, I even told the stenographer to be prepared for my reaction and not to think badly of me if she told me it was a boy, she did not even need to speak because I could very clearly see a willy on the screen! as many of the ladies have mentioned its much easier to spot a boy for obvious reasons however I must add I do not want to get your hopes up but when I went for my NHS 20w scan the lady was so angry with me that I already knew as she said that changes of the private scans being wrong are so high as some girls have a prominent labia. - it was a boy let me add.
I want you to know that I cannot imagine my life without my son, the feeling of wanting a girl has never left me and I am currently pregnant with my second baby and for many reasons but one inclusive of the above I have decided not to find out the gender, I do think its good to have time to prepare yourself for the feelings however I also know that that second they put a baby in your arms you forget any kind of disappointment.
Its really common and you are not alone, I cannot speak for all women but I think there is a natural sense of wanting a girl inside most ladies. x
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