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03/06/2015 at 10:36
Please dont judge me, myself and my partner are eternally great full for being blessed with this pregnancy however wrong or right we do have a preference we dream of having a little girl.
We have made this vocal in the past to friends and family and those close ones are up there with us hoping and praying its important I state we want a healthy happy baby and there will be nothing different if its a boy but i kid you not its taking over my life, I have a few days until I privately find out what it is and I am that scared I am considering having a secret one by myself before me and my partner even go! I dream about it every single night.. My in laws are driving me up the frigging bend " i bet its a boy - i will laugh if its a boy - its defiantly a boy" PEE OFF! i don't really care why are they winding me up? do they think I wont love it.
What will be will be but its all I think about morning noon and night to the point where I think I am going mad. Ive posted on here for the nub theory and had a big response for a girl and i think thats got my hopes up even more.
is anyone else experiencing a take over? x
03/06/2015 at 12:37
Hi Alba B. I think I know where you're coming from.
I already had two boys when I was pregnant with my third and everyone kept saying how glad I would be to have a girl and it drove me mad. Especially as I could only think about the baby in my tummy as a boy somehow.
Just ignore your relatives. They don't mean any harm, I'm sure, and I'm sure they don't realise just how much they're winding you up.
Hang in there till your scan. And then see how you feel. If it's a girl, well that's grand. If it's a boy, well, you've got months to adjust your feelings - and, as you say, of course you'll love your baby, no matter what.
03/06/2015 at 13:32
I have no experience to comment on only than just to say its in examples like this that I think its good you can have a gender scan as it will either give you the news you want or give you time to adjust your way of thinking before the baby arrives.
Fingers crossed and I look forward to seeing the results - when is the scan?
03/06/2015 at 13:39
Thank you squeak, its first thing Saturday morning x
08/06/2015 at 08:40
How did you get on?
08/06/2015 at 09:19
Its a boy! x
08/06/2015 at 09:22
It's one of those weird ones where I'm not sure what to say!
08/06/2015 at 10:00
haha please don't feel like that!
I am fine honestly the moment I found out my whole mentality changed I just saw my future a different way, the first thing my partner is we will just try and try again!.
Im so exited to meet him, we had a 4D experience which was literally out of this world and that really helped me to connect as I can see what he looks like - and its me
08/06/2015 at 10:25
Wow that's awesome then!
I think its good to find out for those reasons as it gives you the chance to do what you have done!
14/06/2015 at 22:12
I can understand. We actively tried for a boy, eating a certain diet & things like that. I was dying to know if it worked. I would've been happy if we'd had been either sex but I needed to know at the scan. We were lucky that we did have a boy & I'll never know if it was due to anything I did or not. But yes, it's hard not knowing
15/06/2015 at 18:42
Hi Alba, I really feel for you. I'm delighted that you're coming round to the idea, but please don't feel guilty, I think this is quite common.
My old boss is really open about the fact that when pregnant with her second, she really wanted a girl, found out it was a boy and was devastated!! She cried and cried. Whenever anyone said they had a boy and a girl, she used to look really sad and say "well, they don't come in any more flavours, you've got them all, you must feel so lucky...."
As for me, my first I thought I was having a boy and when the sonographer said (at first) "girl", I have to admit there was a pang of disappointment. Then they saw something else and said "boy" and I was delighted again. Weird. Now all I want is a healthy baby and I'm so blessed to have made it this far after 2 miscarriages. BUT......there's a tiny bit of me that would love another boy and I'm a bit scared if it turns out pink...... I can't explain why. I'm delighted I'm pregnant and just desperately want a healthy, happy baby. It's just a little niggle that I try and shake off. I'll be finding out at our 20 week scan so that I can bond with it more and start using the appropriate pronoun
Just hope it's ok. Hope you're adjusting to it now- I'm sure once they're here, we'll not be able to imagine having anything else
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