12/01/2014 at 13:07
12/01/2014 at 13:49
W was. 22 months when I had B.
I'm a stay at home mum so before I had B I was taking W to groups every day.
I still go to the same groups and bring B along. W is pretty independent and is happy doing her own thing anyway so I either sit down with B, stand chatting to other mums while holding B, or hold B while playing with W- helping her do coloring, play doh etc.
everyone is really lovely and often help me out, for example if I've sat down to feed B and it's the toddler snack time someone will pass W a drink and some snacks etc .
I would suggest if you can go to groups with P as soon as you start your mat leave , you're bound to get chatting to various mums as a big bump is always an easy conversation starter, then when you go back with baby you will be a familiar face and people will again want to chat to you about new baby .
I have both girls at home every day except Wednesday when W goes to nursery. On that day as I just have B I take her to baby massage. I don't think it would be suitable to take a toddler along with you as it's meant to be quite a relaxed calm environment. I really appreciate that time to spend just with her as I worry I'm not able to give her the same attention I did to W as a baby.
You could call your local children's centre to ask what groups they have that would be suitable for both ages. But in my experience all toddler groups are also fine for babies, and often have some baby toys- activity mat, rattles, rain makers etc. but baby groups tend not to be that suited to a toddler.
12/01/2014 at 14:05
This poor baby is going to be dragged around Ms activities, she has ballet on a Monday and gymnastics on a Tuesday. H takes her to swimming after nursery on a Wednesday, but she's at nursery on a Wednesday and Thursday so thinking of finding baby sensory, baby massage, something like that. We also go to a toddler group on a Tuesday that has a baby area so will continue with that.
Our HV was a good source of info for local groups that would suit us before, that might be worth a try?
12/01/2014 at 14:08
Thanks jt thats reassuring. At the moment I have monday and thursdays off and p has swimming and baby ballet those 2 dsys. As I said swimming we can mive and im not sure anbout ballet yet, she relies on me sitting with her and helping her a lot for that.there is a baby/toddler coffe morning type group on wednesdays that mum takes p to so ill do thatas soon as I finish. Also found similar on another day in the next vvillage which ill try and go to as soon as I can too. Im a bit far from the childrens centres I used with p but illhave a look and see if there are any closer, beung in a slislitly different area is a bit trickier
12/01/2014 at 14:11
Thanks weekender, I think m is just that bit older than p and so probably more independent at ballet etc. If p was 6months/a year older I think itd be easier. Thats good you have m's nursery time. Im definitely going to do a baby sensory group with baby from september once p in in pre school. I did postnatal baby yoga with p which was fab. I might see if my mum will have p a couple of hours once a week whilst I do that with baby as it really helped my spd recovery last time
12/01/2014 at 14:16
A was 2 years 1 month when J was born and poor J was just dragged along to her classes. He was the same age when S was born in July and I don't do much now as it's difficult with the 3 of them. I take the boys to toddlers when A is at pre school and I have to take them all to her swimming lesson which is not fun lol
12/01/2014 at 16:30
From what I can gather locally here the best bets are baby/toddler groups in halls etc with free play etc...I will be at preschool from September a couple of mornings but otherwise not many structured classes accommodate both a toddler and a baby. Our local children's centre offers a baby group that older siblings can attend too, and there are some toddler groups that have big toys for older children and a separate baby corner. Sadly bits like sensory etc I'm unlikely to be able to do this time but I'd sooner do stuff we can Al do together than special stuff with baby iyswim
12/01/2014 at 18:03
We do alot of things aimed at D and J is dragged along in her sling so I'm free hands for D. There are two days week we don't go to groups but we tend to go dogwalking in the forest or do messy play at home. Wednesday is the day that D goes to nursery so J and I have some 1:1 time. I have some friends with children same age as D so try and get tofether every so often
You just have to find what works for you.
13/01/2014 at 14:48
I didn't feel the need for groups so much with J, but then I lived right next door to a massive shopping centre so I used to go there a lot. I still took S to his music class and J came with us. When S was at nursery I took J to mum and baby cinema and swimming but didn't really do any other classes.
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