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14/02/2014 at 17:15
14/02/2014 at 18:50
I did it for 4 months with L. I sat on the floor in his room until he fell asleep. Most nights I was there until 11pm- midnight. I never made it further than his door before he was ill and it went to pot.
14/02/2014 at 18:54
Yes, I did sat with my hand on her back for 3 nights, then just next to her without touching for 3 nights, then a bit further away then right by the door but whenever I tried it sitting just outside the door she would not have it and screamed and screamed until I came and sat by her again (I'm a wimp and cannot bear them to cry!) I try it on and off but still haven't made it to out the room, at the moment I just sit in the chair in her room until she falls asleep. God know what I'm going to do when A goes into her own room! Hope you have more success!
14/02/2014 at 20:13
We do (a version of) rapid retreat here with E. We really don't believe in letting her cry and creating a negative relationship with the cot, so it works for us. Basically we do bedtime routine, same thing every night, same order.. Not necessarily same time, but upstairs after tea, cuddles, nappy and pj change nursery rhyme or book time, bottle, and then into bed. Dummy and taggy handed over. Then I'll kiss her and say "night Ella it's sleepy time", hold her hand for a second and then walk away.. She'll now (mostly) self settle to sleep. If she doesn't I leave but the second she cries I go back, and pick up, sloth, and start again at the give taggy, kiss, phase and back out. When we first started it was sometimes a second before she cried, sometimes I'd barely stood but always went back, and kept doing it. We do regularly break this if she's poorly or some nights I know she heeds comfort, but on a normal night it works well and she's happy to sleep. As I say though, if not I'd revert to stroking her face or leg.
23/02/2014 at 17:18
Sorry I'm so late back to this, stupid, tired, forgetful brain!
Hmmm, doesn't sound like it's going to change our lives like I'd hoped then! Maybe it's not the right thing from LR's and MD's experiences.
LM - Thanks for sharing. I think you have said before that Ella ss from an early age, Sam has never done this. I feel like we need a bit of a 'programme' - for want of a better word as the only thing that works is rocking and I physically can't take it anymore. Not to mention the fact it is adding to the multiple night wakings as he isn't able to resettle himself back to sleep from drowsy. We've tried lots of things from the no cry sleep solution, some of which have helped a little, but not actually made much difference, hence looking at a next step from that without leaving. He has been poorly since I wrote this and only just getting better so am only just starting to think about it again. Will probably take another week or five before I actually do anything!!
23/02/2014 at 22:12
TBH it sounds like GR wouldn't work for you and Sam. I think it would only work on babies that have shown they can self-settle and who are comforted by your mere presence, but you say S needs rocking. I slowly came to the realisation that we wouldn't be able to do "no-cry" with Alex, because he didn't seem to be comforted by my presence and needed to suck to go back to sleep... I couldn't even rock or cuddle him back to sleep!! He wasn't hungry, I mean it was literally a couple of sucks. We tried everything in the No-Cry Sleep Solution too. I've said it on here before but I ended up just refusing to let him feed to sleep and I would stay in the bed with him. He cried and it was anger that I wouldn't give in... understandably as I was changing what he'd always done, but I needed to for my own sanity. I started off refusing to feed him until it'd been 3 hours (previously it wasn't uncommon for him to want a few sucks every hour), and then I think he realised there wasn't much point in waking so often as there was no boob waiting for him. It'd be similar I guess if you refused to rock S and just stayed with him instead. It took three nights of him angrily shouting at me but it did work.
Day before yesterday he slept all night!!! he did touch my hair for comfort a couple of times but he didn't wake for food. Last night he only needed one feed. I say this not to taunt you but to say there is light at the end of the tunnel. Sending hugs xxx
24/02/2014 at 11:21
SaisiDay before yesterday he slept all night!!!
24/02/2014 at 13:52
I feel your pain with non sleeping children. D only began to sleep through last June when she was 26mths. We tried everything but nothing worked. When we moved her bed to the other side of the room and she was able to understand what we wanted did she finally do it.
I'm still breastfeeding J at 6mths so she does fall asleep on me and I then transfer her but she wakes often. Hoping it's a growth/development thing but we'll see. The girls will be sharing a room until we get our extension done so who knows how it'll work then. J is still in with us and will be until I can no longer squeeze her into the crib.
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