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18/05/2015 at 13:04
We've just been reading some gobsmacking stories on the new campaigning website Pregnant Then Screwed, written (anonymously) by women who feel they've been demoted, badly treated, denied promotion, even made redundant by their workplace purely because they're pregnant or have had a baby.
And it's made us wonder how common this kind of discriminatory treatment is. So we thought we'd ask you!
Have you – or anyone you know – been treated badly at work because you're pregnant or because you're returning from maternity leave? If so, what happened, and how blatant was it?
Or maybe your employer was brilliant throughout your pregnancy and maternity leave? If so, what was it they did that made the difference?
Do please share your experiences with us. We'd love to hear them.
There's no need to name your employer (it might be wise not to, anyway). This is more about general attitudes to pregnancy in the workplace rather than actual naming and shaming...
18/05/2015 at 13:57
Yup, I was with my first pregnancy. I was really good friends with my boss and we got on fine, the moment that I found out I was pregnant I told them (as I worked in a care environment, although at Head Office, not in the homes, but still had contact with clients). Everything changed.
She wanted to know straight away when ALL of my appointments would be, even before I'd had my booking in appointment with the midwife. I had to get the midwife to call the HR department so that she knew that my booking in appointment was the last available appointment of the day (at 3pm) and I wasn't just 'skiving off early' so I could then have time off afterwards. Then once I had the booking in appointment she wouldn't believe me that I couldn't give her the dates of the other appointments until after my dating scan, in the end I had to take my maternity notes into my work (bearing in mind that no one else knew I was pregnant) to show her that I didn't have the actual dates and prove it to her.
One day in work I was so sick that I didn't leave the loo for three hours, and she thought I was skiving off work, I went to HR telling them I needed to go home and they were incredibly cruel (as they were friends with my boss) so I left anyway and told them I'd get a doctors note.
I had to take in written proof of all my appointments and my midwife had to ring HR on about 4 occasions. In the end I complained to HR but they didn't do anything above the bare minimum, told me that 'they knew how to look after pregnant women in their employment' because they'd looked after plenty before and I was just being 'overly irrational'. They made me feel like utter sh!t, but blamed it all on hormones and basically made it out that I was going crazy! In the end I couldn't cope anymore and went on maternity leave at 31 weeks pregnant by getting signed off by the doctor, and then I chose not to return to work.
By contrast this time around has been brilliant - but then that could be because I'm currently employed by my Dad!
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