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21/07/2014 at 20:59
So my placenta has moved enough to allow me to give birth naturally. my high levels of anxiety due to a horrific HSG experience & having endured operations for Cancer last year mean I have been given a choice of birth & have a return visit in 2 weeks time when I should advise how I wish to proceed.
Whilst part of me thinks I might regret not attempting a natural delivery, experiencing contractions etc the other (admittedly larger part) thinks an elective c-section which is calm & controlled may be the best option for me mentally & physically. I know it's a large operation & I'm not making light of it, I know it has it's own range of complications - but I feel they are more contained & managed than a natural delivery Where anything can literally happen. I have done 2 lazy daisy birthing programmes & feel I am clued up on various types of natural deliveries, both positive & negative.
Basically I had a positive surgery experience last year (despite the reason) & whilst recovery was slow & painful, i was & am fortunate that I have a lot of support around me to help during the recovery period. I would go through a thousand more plastic surgery operations than an HSG ever again. We only intend on having 2 children (god willing) so not concerned about the restrictions on future births.
Im not looking for people's opinions on having this choice nor am I interested in the whole 'only gas & air for me' ideal discussion - what I am interested in is hearing elective c section experiences - if anyone is willing to share.
21/07/2014 at 21:12
I was induced and wound up electing for a section at the end. When we have our next, I will be opting for an elective section as it is everything that you've said. Calm and controlled and on your terms. I understand what you're saying about a natural birth and experiencing the whole thing, and I did feel like that after my section, even though i did go into labour, but the need to have my baby arrive safely did overpower those feelings considerably.
21/07/2014 at 21:15
Recovery from a section takes about 6 weeks, as I'm sure you will be aware. Recovery will be easy with the support system you seem to have too.
21/07/2014 at 21:47
I had my second and third babies by elective section following a failed induction and emergency section with my first. Both were really positive experiences, calm, controlled and I felt great afterwards. Recovery was far better each time, and I was back to normal easily within the six weeks. I have no regrets at all over the choice I made, it was the right one for us. Any other questions, I'm happy to help x
21/07/2014 at 23:22
Thanks for replying ladies.
One of my big concerns is having problems breastfeeding after a c-section - do either of you have experiences to share?
Can you also tell me a bit about wound management afterwards, any hints or tips?
21/07/2014 at 23:38
I had an elective C sec and was an incredibly positive experience.
Mine wasn't classed as emergency. I was told I had to have one in next few hours but they were willing to wait for my H to get back from London.
Mine was in very difficult circumstances, as my health was deteriorating wasn't quite 35 weeks and my bubba hadn't been growing properly. It was a really anxious time but it was handled so well. It was calm and collected. I knew what was happening and where. I had a chance before hand to speak and ask questions, separately, to the anaesthetist, the paediatric doctors, the surgeon etc. I felt excited to meet my little girl. They played music, it was relaxed and an incredibly positive experience and I knew it would be happening, and how long it would take etc
22/07/2014 at 07:13
My breastfeeding experience wasn't a positive one, but I don't feel it was down to having the section, but rather the advice I was given was poor. My son was a big boy at 10lb 4, and Istruggled to, but managed to feed him myself for a month which is why I don't feel that it was the section that caused the problem.
22/07/2014 at 07:19
First baby was bf for 3 months, second till he was 2.5yrs and third still BFing now at nearly 1, no impact from the sections at all here.
22/07/2014 at 08:53
First baby was emergency c section after 30 hour labour, very painful recovery afterwards, I assumed this was standard for a cs though.
I opted to have second baby by elective cs as first baby had been very big compared to my size and I didn't fancy my chances of actually being able to deliver safely, and didn't want to go through a long and tiring labour just to end up with a cs again.
I actually went into labour 3 days before my cs date so it was classed as emergency cs but wasn't really.
It was a fantastic positive experience, the surgeon told my husband to stand up to look over the screen before they pulled her out , he got to cut the cord. I got to hold her while still being stitched up.
Recovery was a million times easier, the planned cs was much less painful, and I felt back to normal much quicker.
Both my babies were breast fed for six months.
I think the only issue with bf and cs may be that apparently I was told by one mw in hospital that it takes a little longer for your milk to come in as your body doesn't know straight away it's had the baby like it would with a natural delivery.
22/07/2014 at 09:07
More than willing to share my stories.
I was in labour with LittleSue for 24 hours - tried EVERYTHING to at the end she was born by C section and it turned out she was stuck and was'nt able to move down by herself. It was a huge relief and in hindsight I should have pressed for one earlier on in the labour. It was quite traumatic with the babys heartbeat coming and going at the end and me needing medication to speed up my heartbeat (horrrible and scary experience) so they could find her's quicker.
Straight after the section my My H got to hold her and have skin to skin while I was being stiched up. Right after I was wheeled into recovery LittleSue was placed on me and she drank straight away which I was relieved and thrilled about. The midwives looked after me very well and helped me to feed in a comfy position. I had a great recovery - was up (albeit wobbly) and showered on the same day. I was in for 5 days but whad absolutely no probs.
This time around around # 2 was a little more complicated - like you I had a very low lying placenta for a long time - it has moved up and there is a 2cm gap between my cervix and the placenta so consultant said a natural birth would be an option. However - it turns out that the baby is not lying in a perfect position - a little bit sideways so from a medical point of view they are favouring a c-section. My H and I discussed it and our first birth experience actually was quite traumatic and a natural birth is not a ''Must have experience'' for me we are going for a planned c section in August.
I hope thats its as good an experience as last time and that Breast feeding works as well too!
Ask away if you have further questions
Good luck xx
22/07/2014 at 10:00
How did you all find the healing process?
I am a bit concerned the hospital staff might look down their nose at me & not have a great bedside manner considering maternal c-sections are not favoured, especially with first time mums. I know I'm going to need a lot of support, kindness & hand holding whatever I choose,
Consultant said he was going to write up a report & ensure I get a sh!thot medical team with me given everything & I really appreciated that but I know it's not guaranteed - how would I know anyway?!
22/07/2014 at 10:37
I found healing was very straightforward for me. I did find it hard to not over do it as I'm a naturally a busy person and can't sit for long.
22/07/2014 at 11:29
i had a crash section under general anaesthetic for my first and it was honestly horrifc, it took almost 3-4 months to feel like me again, so due to that i was adamant id not be in the postition of requiring that sort of intervention again, so iv opted for electives for my pregnancy this time and also last pregnancy.
despite the crash section for #1 i breastfed till 14 months and he didnt require any formula top ups or anything (not that theres anything wrong with that i jsut meant my milk supply was there despite a huge blood loss so i realise i was lucky).
with isaac from the word go i was saying about an ELCS and my consultant is very realistic and blunt which i liked and he'd no issue, no mw had any issue with it either, only one dr at 28 weeks asked me to consider VBAC and i refused, isaac was a transverse lie anyway and was always going to be a section. as it happened i went into labout with a transverse lie with bulging waters and was 5cm on arrival to hospital so it was another emergency, but it was under spinal this time and it was extremely calm considering it was an emergency. he was bf maybe about 40 mins post birth and fed for ages, i was in hospital for about 36 hours and could have honestly skipped out of there i felt fantastic and only required oral morphine on the first night otherwise it was the odd ibuprofen here and there. i was back driving within 2 weeks.
with this one, theres never been any suggestion of VBA2C and itl be elective again, hoping for a vvv quick discharge again.
i hope you dont find any one looking down their nose at you in hospital or even after discharge, i had one mw with L on a post natal visit, say o so a section then and it was her tone of voice and the look on her face as if she was implying it was a cop out so i think my hormones got the better of me and i said about thereasoning for the section was staff incompetence and we both almost died (which was true)
22/07/2014 at 21:35
Thanks ladies. From here, google & friends elective c-sections seem to be a positive thing.
I'm still scared of the operation etc but I'm mainly thinking it's the less of 2 evils. At the minute I'm focusing way too much on birth & not on the end result, which isn't very healthy for me!
Thanks again for replying & sharing.
23/07/2014 at 09:09
Hey lovely. My recovery was great and not an issue at all. I had c sec at 2.30pm and was up walking around (albeit extremely slowly) at 11am the next day. The inbetween bit is fine because you are drugged up and I was absolutely shattered.
Don't be fobbed off with paracetamol thought in the first 12 hours. I heard another girl ask for something stronger, got jealous and requested something else so got a liquid shot of morphine. After that I just took paracetamol (sp?) for a few days to help with general soreness and found they really helped. I also found I had to walk slowly for a good few days. I was told that even though sore, it is much better to move around if you can, and it made me feel a bit more human again.
The above being said is caveated by the fact that I didn't have my baby with me to look after for those first few days when I was sore and moving around slowly.
I actually found the pain from my contracting uterus worse in the week afterwards, which would have happened c-sec or otherwise. You also need to have an injection (anti-clotting I think) every day for seven days afterwards which is quite sore.
As to bf, my body wasn't prepared at all for pregnancy - c sec at 34 + 6 days but I started expressing 2 days after birth. At first quite demoralising as nothing comes out, but if you follow mw advice, do it every 3 hours I think, wthin a couple of days your milk comes in.
Finally,with regard to mw attitude, I really hope that would not be the case. My hospital has almost 200 midwives I think, and in my 2 week stay and after care for a third week, I met probably 20-30 who cared for me. All extremely professional, caring and kind. Not one who didn't put me at ease, friendly, professional etc.
Hope that helps!
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