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26/04/2013 at 19:15
Bumped into an old work colleague in town today. Us with our 8 day old baby. Them with a 10 day old baby. Second babies for both couples. Typical conversation when people don't really know each other. How are they feeding / sleeping etc..
Me: Co sleeping, breast feeding on demand, cuddling to sleep, not putting her down when she falls asleep on me. Attachment parenting and totally baby led.
Them: "We put him into his own room at 7pm last night in his Moses within his cot, so we could watch a TV program and eat in the quiet without holding baby, it was bliss, then he only woke once during the night for a feed."
I KNOW it's "my baby my way" but his own room at 10 days old, bed at 7pm.... Watch TV in quiet...??? It was literally all I could do to rearrange my face into an expression that wasn't one of total shock and how I didn't start spouting the SIDS guidelines I don't know.
As we walked away even my H said that he doesn't know how they could do it, as he barely wants to be away from Iris for 5 minutes as she's such a baby drug.
Perhaps she's on a forum somewhere talking about the hippy she used to work with who sleeps with the baby and feeds on demand.....??
26/04/2013 at 19:19
Be as judgemental as you want - own room at 10 days old, poor thing. I wouldn't even want to be separated from them at such a young age, why why why?!
26/04/2013 at 19:24
Poor mite imagine being away from your mummy all night at that age
26/04/2013 at 19:28
Glad it's not just me. God I wouldn't be able to do it. H and I bicker about who's more of a baby hog as we can't bear to be apart from her!
26/04/2013 at 19:30
Don't get me wrong I'd love us to be able to eat without tag teaming the baby but that's too much imo
26/04/2013 at 19:38
I've taken to cooking 'one handed' food! Pasta & sauce, pizza etc - So we can both eat at the sane time and still easily hold baby!
26/04/2013 at 19:42
I cut H's dinner up for him last sunday as it was his 'turn' to hold her
26/04/2013 at 20:16
I have and will happily eat cold meals or have my dinner cut for me for a tiny baby,how lonely at 10days old to be in a room all on your own all night.
26/04/2013 at 20:27
I can't understand why you'd want to be away from a newborn either. Even ignoring the fact it's dangerous! Down one on my FB proudly wrote how her baby was in her own room from first day home as she had intended. Seems bizarre to me!
26/04/2013 at 20:30
This makes me so sad :-(
26/04/2013 at 21:09
I don't see how BF is relevant to your OP but I totally agree with your judgement on the own room thing. In fact my next door neighbour did similar when her little girl was only a week old. I actually did talk to her about the SIDS guidance and explained it to her the reasons why (tbh given my job I felt I had to), she took it very well. I dont know what they did but its her choice I just wanted to make sure it was informed.
I think often people just don't realise how important the guidelines are with regards to SIDS and the reasoning behind them is often not explained.
26/04/2013 at 21:10
And A is still in with us at nearly 6 months and I can't see us moving her before at least 1year old.
26/04/2013 at 21:44
I don't understand how you could leave a baby of that age, and surely you are up loads in the early days so out of pure laziness is it not just easier to have the baby in ur room so you don't have far to go.
Guidelines aside, to put ur baby (not even a fortnight old) in another room ALL night, surely that must be hard on the parent too
26/04/2013 at 21:45
One of our nct group when i had A 3 years ago but their baby into her own room from the night they got home from hospital - and to get to her room from their involved walking through the living room, kitchen and dining room. It actually still makes me sad thinking about it now - your baby has been inside you - actually inside you - for 9 months, i can't imagine then putting it in another room - how scary must that be for the baby?! Nover mind SIDS. I love being close to my babies.
26/04/2013 at 21:46
I don't really understand why anyone would want to put their baby into its own room so quickly. Regardless of SIDS. I want to be with I all the time!! It took me 10 months to move N as I wanted to be near him all the time!
As for why I mentioned BFing in the OP, it's only relevant as I was telling you what I said when I spoke to them about today. I was asked if I was BFing and how she was sleeping, so I said 'Yep, we feed on demand so we co sleep, it makes the night feeds really easy and I don't really have to wake up' and was told that 'boys are so much more needy, we gave him a bottle last night and put him into his Moses in the cot at 7pm so we could eat and actually watch a program, he only woke up once during the night' as though my way was mad.
I'm not criticising non BFers, merely repeating the conversation K_T
26/04/2013 at 21:58
I don't understand that at all. When I put A in her Moses basket for the night at 10 days old I actually missed her (even though she was in the same room and no more than 3ft away from me). As weird as that sounds its true and I guess that's just instinct.
26/04/2013 at 22:02
What is this 'watching a programme' ??? Iv not had peace since jan 2009 to 'watch a programme' , its so strange though, the baby is a new born, life totally changes yet they want to watch a programme, am I the only person that fed and slept in the early days? Iv not had a girl but have had 2 boys. Lucas was VERYneedy but Isaac slept but fed ALL the time but I would say Isaac was much easier! I wouldn't say boys were needier, I'd say her lo was being a baby tbh!
26/04/2013 at 22:07
We are watching a program but Iris is right here too....!!!
27/04/2013 at 05:40
Aw Hepburn. Enjoy all those baby snuggles. We did all the same things as you are doing and I know some family members and friends thought we were mad. Yes we were not in a schedule, no we didn't get an evening to ourselves for 6 months but it was the way we wanted to do things. I have so, so many fond memories of our babies snuggling on our chests when they were tiny.
27/04/2013 at 06:08
The whole boy/girl thing is nonsense, my boy was very needy and my girl is even needier. They are just individuals. I really hate it when people try to make you think your way of doing things is wrong or mad or making a rod for your own back etc.
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