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04/11/2013 at 09:23
Off to get N weighed today and need to gear myself up to nod and smile at the HV!
We have two HVs in the village, the nice one came to do two home visits for N and was lovely, saw that I was confident and able to trust my instincts. On her second and last visit, N's weight gain had slowed slightly so she suggested getting her weighed again two weeks later to check it was progressing still.
Went to baby clinic to have her weighed and it had slowed more, although she had put on 9oz in a fortnight which seems fine to me. HV proceeded to give me lots of pretty dire BFing advice - eat more, express if she doesn't empty the boob and give it to her that way, and to make her feed for longer as 10-15 minute feeds aren't enough apparently. I just smiled and then ignored her!
Off to get her weighed again today, and feeling a lot more militant if I get shoddy advice today, but would appreciate moral support from anyone else who has had similar experience. I keep reminding myself to look at the baby, not the graph - and N is smiley, healthy and clearly nothing wrong with her!
04/11/2013 at 09:28
Do you really have to go today? And of course a baby's weight slows down as they get bigger!
If it helps, C was born on 91st centile, and by 5.5 months was midway between 25th and 50th, and none of my HVs ever tried to give me any of the advice you're getting.
Good luck x
04/11/2013 at 09:38
I could not go, but I'd like to check for my own peace of mind and planning on combining it with a walk for the boys as it's an inset day today. She's between 25th and 50th centile atm, which seems strange to me after two 91st centile babies!
04/11/2013 at 09:42
I know what you mean, I liked to know how C was doing, and was more worried about his weight than the HVs.
Where was she on the charts when she was born? I don't think what they're born at is necessarily where they'll stay from C's experience - he's been consistently on or just below the 50th centile since he was about 7 months after being born on the 91st.
Just smile and nod. x
04/11/2013 at 09:54
She was 75th centile born (8lb 6oz at 39+1) so has dropped down the lines but she's still gaining and meeting milestones, pooing and weeing etc so no concerns there. HV also said she needs to feed longer to get to the hindmilk but I know the idea of foremilk and hindmilk has been largely disproven now anyway. I'm intrigued to know what advice she will offer today if N hasn't met her slightly arbitrary target today.
04/11/2013 at 10:06
I was supposed to get S weighed a couple of weeks ago as he had dropped one percentile. I phoned and cancelled the appt - she was coming to the house to do it. She kept telling me that i was obviously too busy running after the other 2 so wasn't letting him finish his feeds
Hope it goes well and you get no hassle :-)
04/11/2013 at 10:21
Ally, what a load of rubbish. Sure it will all be fine, hope you are getting on better with S's feeding now too x
04/11/2013 at 10:30
My daughter was on 91 per cent weight at birth, then slowly dropped down over the r next 9 months to 25percentile. One HV told me to fatten her up and give her gold top, cream, etc to get her to put on weight. then another HV told me that was the wrong advice and her weight slowing down was fine. she's a healthy v tall and slim nearly 6 year old and nothing is wrong. she put about 4-5 oz on a week at N's age. My HV told me that they can get most of the milk out in 4-5 minutes, both of mine were like that and my son put on a lot more weight, so wouldn't worry about it.
04/11/2013 at 10:35
Thanks KC, I hate how she's made me question myself when I know everything's okay - w all know weight gain isn't linear anyway and can go in fits and starts.
04/11/2013 at 10:42
I just hide from the HV's now! M was between the 50th and 75th and then dropped like a stone to justbbelowmthe 25th where she has tracked for about 8 weeks now. I questioned and doubted myself as well but she is happy, content, plenty of wet and dirty nappies and is gaining every week, just at a slower rate than my other 2. Trust your instincts she sounds just fine and dandy to me xxx
04/11/2013 at 10:58
Getting better now thanks margot. I think the problem was as simple as me not drinking enough. Some days I barely get a chance to eat or drink much at all so I've been making sure I drink loads of water and my supply has been much better
04/11/2013 at 11:03
Glad it's improved Ally, the only bit of the HV's advice I actually took was to eat more (had been trying to lose weight by counting calories with extra for BFing but stopped two weeks ago) and I feel a lot better for it.
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