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31/03/2014 at 20:12
W has decided today she doesn't want to wear a nappy so looks like we are potty training!
Ive got the potty out and this morning she did a poo which I was extremely proud of! gave lots of praise etc and she got a sticker.
Tonight she's been sat on the potty for over an hour and done nothing. Each time she started to walk off id ask her if she wanted to sit on the potty or put her happy on and she'd say potty and sit back down.
eventually I put a happy on her but five mins later she wanted it off so she sat on the potty again. After a while though she got up and wandered about and eventually did a wee while stood watching tv all over the carpet. So I sat her on the potty and explained that was a wee and if she wants to do a wee to sit on her potty or tell mummy.
i feel totally clueless. I can't make her sit on a potty all the time shes got a red ring on her bum bless her! But she doesn't seem aware when she is doing a wee or poo so it just comes out wherever she is, but she doesn't want to wear a nappy. Do I just have to put up with lots of wees all over my carpet? I'd purposely not attempted potty training yet as she didn't seem aware or to care if she had done a poo or wee but it looks like I've no choice! I feel totally lost and clueless and I've no idea what to do ! I've ordered a princess potty book for her and a Gina ford book for me but in the mean time please does anyone have any advice?
i have no idea at all what I'm meant to do. Am I meant to make her sit on a potty the whole time she has no nappy on until she does a wee? I'm scared about doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing and it affecting her/upsetting her. If she gets bored sitting on the potty for so long (books, tv, snacks, drinks are all good but she cant sit for over an hour!), do I let her wander round and just wee on the floor as she doesn't tell me she's doing it, or do I make her sit down or say she will have to put a nappy on if she doesn't?
Sorry for the long post but its a stage I've been dreading and it seems so hard!!
31/03/2014 at 22:44
I have zero experience lovey but just a thought, can you ask her if she wants to wear big girl pants like mummy and not a nappy and move her to pull ups? That way if she's doing nothing on the potty she can at least put her 'pants' back on to wander around and save your carpet!! Then you can work on her telling you if she needs a wee etc?
01/04/2014 at 04:33
JT, I feel for you know I've got this coming up soon with E and I'm dreading it! I've heard that Gina Ford book is supposed it be good and keeping meaning to good and keep meaning to get myself a copy so I can read it in anticipation! I don't really have much advice I'm afraid although I seem to have a couple of things stuck in my head(not sure if they're right or wrong!) I think I read somewhere about taking them to the loo with you and letting them see what's in it and it being flushes away so they learn where it goes if that makes any sense? And also, I was told by a lady who ran a music class I used to take E to that when the time came to just take a week off, let them have a week of no nappy and prepare for accidents but they will get it apparently! I also read somewhere about putting them in pants so of they have accidents they can feel the uncomfortableness of it being wet (Whereas a nappy keeps them dry) so they learn to go rather than having wet pants. I don't know if any of this is right or wrong or even if its how I would do it but its all I could offer! Sorry I can't be more help!
01/04/2014 at 12:20
She's seen us going to the toilet for ages- she's says "bye poo" when you flush !!
This morning she sat on the potty after breakfast for a while but nothing came and eventually I put her nappy on and got her dressed and she's been happy to wear the bappy since. It would help if she did a poo at a similar time each day but she's totally random.
I think for now I'm just going to let her sit on it in the morning for a bit and in the evening stick a Disney film on and she can sit on it to watch that! She's seems ok for now to be wearing a nappy during the day . My plan when the time came was to not leave the house for a week and spend all day every day letting her do it, but I didn't want her starting until she was aware she was doing poos and wees. She obviously likes the idea of the potty and no nappy before she's understood shat it's really for :(
Fingers crossed my book arrives soon and has all the answers haha!!
01/04/2014 at 18:08
I potted trained Lucy 3 weeks ago and we haven't looked back. Its great! Lucy is 2yrs 8mths.
We tried just after xmas (she was horrified that the new baby wore nappies and refused to have them on "nappies are for babies" but she basically kept weeing on the floor and didnt seem to 'get' it at all.
When we tried this time, i sat down with crayons & paper and the potty right next to her. Gave her loads to drink and took nappy off (had nothing on her bottm half) I told her she would get a sticker if dhe could wee ont he potty and then a drew a picture of a stick person called Lucy sat on a potty and wee coming out of her ........... I sweat to god, she got up, sat on potty, did a wee, was massively chuffed with herself that she 'knew' how to do a wee and when i gave her a sticker, wow, she sat down and tried to squeeze out another drip of wee - this went on for approx an hour the first day - with her earning herself approx 15stickers. (I was exhausted running back+forth emptying potty, to sticker book etc!!). Then we did something else and every 20mins i would ask if she wanted a wee/sticker and taadaa ......
we did this for 3 days or so and by then i was REALLY bored of being at home. We ventured out, planning a route via every toilet in existence (LOL) and with several pairs on knickers+trousers in change bag. Yes we had accidents - mainly because she gave me 10seconds notice that she needed a wee and we simply couldnt get to a toliet in time. I just took wet stuff off (no fuss), made her sit on the toilet anyway, praised any further wee ....
Within 10days she was sorted for wee. Poo was different. Partly i guess because it doesn't occur as often so difficult to practice and partly because she always hid with a nappy on to do poo and refused to admit she had done one (despite overpowering smell to the contrary!)
HOwever i offered 2stickers + biscuits as bribary for poo on the potty and she defineity has 'got' it now
01/04/2014 at 18:09
She isnt dry at night BTW. Well i thought she was - and she went nappy free last night for 1st time and woke at 2am with soaking PJs, bed etc .................. DO'H!!!!!!!!
01/04/2014 at 18:53
Thanks for that HF. She's at nursery tomorrow but after that I may stay home and do the bribery thing!
I think it's common for them to take a lot longer to be dry at night than during the day.
01/04/2014 at 22:41
Definitely use a reward for each wee/poo on the potty. Like HF, C was dry in the day at 2yrs 5months in 3 days. She's only recently been fully dry at night though and it also took a bit longer to crack the poos. Apart from the first day, i didn't stay in, but took a carry potty everywhere and would put her on it wherever we were (it was summer, so mainly in the park) as they won't be able to hold to get to a toilet to start with. If they are ready, it won't take long for them to get it. X
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