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10/05/2014 at 21:47
I know there are often sleep threads but it seems to be 1 of those ongoing problems (frustrating even more as all I currently want to do is sleep!!).
Basically my daughter has had her moments but on the whole has been an ok sleeper. We changed her cot into a bed in January & had a few issues but she settled ok. Then a few months ago she discovered she could open her bedroom door and has been really hard to get to sleep ever since. I thought it would just be a phase but on average it takes us between 1-2 hours to get her to sleep. She still has a 2 hour nap in the afternoon. I've tried to drop it but then she falls asleep on me around 5. It's hard enough to wake her after 2 hours (she mostly wakes herself just before 2 hours) but I guess I could try waking her after an hour to see if that'd help. I seem to have slipped into the habit of stroking her forehead & singing her to sleep during the day & I've done it a few times at night as I know she is tired but just fights it. We've just put a night light in her room as sometimes she just comes out of her room to stand next to the motion sensor light in the corridor.
Any tips greatly received, just going back upstairs to put her back in her room,
Forgot to mention that the timing of this is also along the same time I got pregnant & it was as if she sensed it & became a lot more clingy wanting to be with me all the time & wants to sleep on me. Although that could be a co-incidence.
10/05/2014 at 21:59
Oh Blackkat I don't know what to say as we are having sleep problems with N too!
Going for naps or bed results in temper tantrums and screaming. He doesn't ever want to go to bed, and cries and want us to sit with him. Sometimes we can sit there for an hour and a half! If I sit there he chats and wants to play and read endless books. If I leave he cries. If I go back in it makes it worse.
We haven't taken the sides of his cot bed yet as he would be out of it and so far he hasn't tried to climb out so we are leaving it as it is!
I realise I've hijacked your thread slightly! Do you think it's their age?
10/05/2014 at 22:05
See I wondered if it's an age thing as she's asserting her independence in all areas of life so maybe this is what this is. Thing is she's fine when we're in there with us but when we leave she either cries or leaves it a few mins & tries to follow us. It's just so tiring. Especially living in a townhouse & constantly up & down the stairs! Hopefully someone else will come on with a solution. Hope you're feeling ok LLL x
10/05/2014 at 22:09
Another with a 2 year old taking an age to get to sleep of an evening just now...O is happy and generally just calling for me in a sing song voice. Even though he's in a bed he stays in it, doesn't get out to play with his toys etc so I know he's tired. It has helped where I've started cutting his nap down in time....I now try no more than an hour (he'd easily hm take 2 hrs + otherwise) and so far it's resulted in less of a bedtime battle and a bit of a sleep in in the mornings (though of course I'm awake with the pregnancy aches and pains ;-) )
Sorry I've no tips but I think reducing her nap may be a good first step xx
10/05/2014 at 22:12
Thanks Coco, will try a reduced nap tomorrow & see if this helps x
11/05/2014 at 06:08
Another one here with a sleep resisting toddler! She's got all sorts of tricks up her sleeve - she'll throw her teddy out of bed then fake cry because she's lost him, she stands on her bed and "bangs" her head against the wall (only gently as she's doing it herself) and then fake cry because she's banged her head, she'll shout for me, want me to put my head on the pillow next to her or hold my hand, she wants her blanket then 2 seconds later she doesn't want it. If I leave the room she screams which I can't have as at the same time we're trying to get A to sleep. I just try to "ignore" her as much possible and not give her too much attention of engage in any kind of conversation with her and hope she just gets bored of me! She's also started waking in the night (yawn!) and needs me to go in and resettle her - and only me!!!! If my H tries she just screams for me. I have to admit, I'd kind of got into the habit of falling asleep on her bedroom floor which I don't think helped as I think she's got used to be being alseep in there with her so I'm trying really hard to stay awake and leave as soon as she's asleep which when I'm getting up for the 3rd or 4th time between her and her sister is quite hard as I'm shattered!!!! Hopefully this is jut a phase and they'll all grow out of it soon!
Blackkat, E was pretty good at self settling (with me in the room) before I got pregnant with a but then seemed to sense it like you say and got really clingy at night! I didn't help as I used to sit and stroke her hair, rub her back etc as I felt guilty and felt like I wouldn't be able to do it once I'd had A - yet here I am!
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