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02/08/2013 at 14:31
I don't know if this is an impossible question but thought maybe someone might have a good idea -
baby number two is due in October. I'm have an electivE CS. Already W is very good at walking, getting up stairs etc so I feel confident with most aspects that I should be able to manage relatively ok post-op.
the only problem I can't find a solution for is for getting her in and out of her cot bed . She's a brilliant sleeper and great at bedtimes at going down without any fuss . I know I could take the side of her cot bed but I'd really rather not as I don't want to get her out of her good sleep routine- I'm worried once the side is off she can get out of bed and will just play with her toys etc rather than going to sleep.
The only thing I can think of is to take the side off and put a bed guard up . I've never actually looked at these before but I assume they don't cover the whole length, so she will still be able to get out to play with her toys? I want something like a gate rather than a rail where I can move it/ open it for her to climb in and out of bed herself but then it can be closed shut do she can't get out once she's in her cot. Does anything like this exist?
Im really hoping you lovely ladies will have the answer to my problems!!
02/08/2013 at 14:42
It's still a while off yet, do you not thnk she will be ok with no side come that time? My son got a toddler bed for his 2nd Birthday, and by then he was ready for it (and I wanted a gap between taking his cot and giving it to new baby!).
Maybe try the bed guard thing, although I reckon they cold be a faff to to put on and off as they tuck right under the mattress?
02/08/2013 at 14:46
My H did the lifting of E in and out of the cot when i'd just had S. She was only just 12 months old, so it was too soon for her to have the sides taken off. When he was on a late shift then my mum or dad would pop over and help me put her to bed.
02/08/2013 at 14:47
I just think she will be up out of bed playing all the time- especially for day time naps.
Did you find you lo stayed in bed or did they keep getting out?
02/08/2013 at 14:50
We moved E into her big girl bed at the age of two. She has been really good, not getting out or anything in the middle of the night, she's just got a bed guard on, but she knows that if she wriggles to the bottom of the bed she can get out. It actually does us a favour now because in a morning she's quite happy to get up and play with some toys in her room rather than screaming the place down to come into us.
02/08/2013 at 14:59
My son has never got up out of bed to play with toys. Bedtime is bedtime.
The obvious question first - I take it you dont have a drop side?
Miss CV has a bed guard on her (normal single) bed - it doesnt cover the whole length of the bed but does cover a surprising amount so might almos cover a cot bed? Also, I think there is a lot to be said for attitude. Other than mornings, Miss CV has only ever got out of her bed once - it was either the first or second night she was in it and she came scampering out again with a grin on her face, but I just made sure she knew it wasn't an option. I'm not an overly strict parent by any stretch of the imagination and Miss CV isnt some stepford child, but she just knows she stays in bed once she's in it.
02/08/2013 at 15:02
Chids how did she do with day time naps?
I think W would be ok at night time as she actually loves to go to bed and goes straight to sleep. But during the day she normally shuffles about in her cot for a while before eventually falling asleep. I'm just worried that if she could get out then she would and do would end up not having her daytime nap and getting really grumpy.
Maybe we need to do a trial run for a week before baby comes and if it doesn't work put the side back on
02/08/2013 at 15:05
Cv - hopefully you're right. W knows that bed time is bed time and never ever cries. But during her day time nap she will lay there for a while/ or stand up chattering a bit before going to sleep.
All the guards I've seen seem to say they are only 90cm long and her cot bed is 144cm long do there would be enough gap at the ends for her to get out.
02/08/2013 at 15:34
We took side off the cotbed and put a Bedguard up when LO was approx 20months. We bought a Bedguard from Argos. it left a gap at each end big enough for her to squeeze in/out of and it folds down. And can be folded up again once LO asleep. She did used to get out in the middle of night but she didn't play with toys, she would come running into our room. This waa marginally better than before side came off - screaming from her room in middle of night. She mo ed to big girl bed at age 2. If she wakes in night (30% of nights) she still comes running into our room!
02/08/2013 at 16:55
How long will your H be off work for? You might find you're ok after 2-3 weeks.
Is he normally back from work in time for bed time? If so he can do the lifting there and you could see if she'll nap in a bed (your bed) during the day. Or in a buggy?
A is 26 months, still in a cot and I've no intention of moving him until baby needs the cot (have a crib for first few months) or he climbs out. Like you bed time isn't my concern, it's day time naps. If I end up with another section I'll probably try as above, although I'm lucky that H has agreed to take up to 4 weeks off of I have a section.
02/08/2013 at 17:06
BG H can only get two weeks off. He gets home in time to put her to bed at night but obviously not during the day.
She is an amazing sleeper, but ONLY in her cot. She never falls asleep in a pram even if I'm out with her for ages. She won't sleep on anyone and has never slept in our bed and doesn't understand it's for sleeping in- she just climbs and jumps about in it as she associates it with daddy on weekend mornings!
I can't remember from last time how quickly I felt ok lifting heavier things so as you say maybe by the time H goes back to work I might be able to manage to lift her in. I really don't want to ruin how good we have it at the moment with get sleep, she never makes any attempt to climb out if her cot so if it wasn't for the CS I would have no intention of taking the side off.
02/08/2013 at 17:21
My son sometimes gets out of bed 5 mins after he goes to bed, but not often and never to play, just wants yo see what iI am doing. He stays in bed all night and comes into us on the morning. That said, he only naps on sofa or in the car now so no idea what he would do in daytime?
02/08/2013 at 17:24
I'd see how you go, I can't remember exactly how I felt at 2 weeks last time but I know it was a lot better than at 1 week. I think I may have carried A in his car seat at that point which as a dead weight was probably equal to lifting a toddler.
You could always put something like an upturned box in her cot when you want to et her out and see if she'll climb onto it and then it'll be easier to lift her from there.
02/08/2013 at 18:18
C was just a bit older than your daughter when she moved to her big bed as I wanted the cot for S and wanted a long enough period of time to pass for C to forget it was hers. We put. Bed guard up to start with, which didn't cover the length of the bed, but took it down quite quickly as she didn't really need it. We had no more trouble with her getting out of bed, than we did her standing up and messing around in the cot. Even now she rarely gets out once she's gone down as the rest of the bedtime routine has stayed the same. You may find that she'll start to drop some daytime naps soon anyway, so I wouldn't worry too much about that really.
Then other idea I can think of if you want her to stay in the cot, is to get a step stool for her to climb up and you support her over, if you can't life her. Not ideal as she could then start climbing, I know. Or get a playpen that can also be used as a room divider and have it run across the length of the room the she where the bed is with the gate that you can open. Don't know of that would actually work though! X
02/08/2013 at 20:29
I like the idea of her stepping in something to get in and out. May have to give that one a try
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