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22/11/2013 at 20:01
Just a pondering really. I do all the night feeds/ changes/ settling as I am conscious H has work. As I have been trying to bf I obviously do the majority of the feeds. Just wondering what your OHs do for baby or what other things around the house he has taken on with your time being spent on baby?
22/11/2013 at 20:08
I deal with the baby at night. If my H isn't working he deals with the other 2 if they wake up. We take turns at getting up with them. I nag him a lot but he's better than some men Ithink. He's currently washing the dishes while I bounce S' s rocker lol. He doesn't tend to get the baby dressed though unless I leave clothes out and needs a lot of reminding about stuff
We take turns doing the kids bath and bed and other housework
I do the majority of washing and ironing and tidy the kids rooms. I moan about this some times but then he does the gardening, washes the car, takes bin out etc
22/11/2013 at 20:09
Slightly different as O is FF, I do all the night feeds sunday night to thurs he does fri and sat night. He always takes O out first thing sat morning so I have a lie-in. He is and always has been useless around the house but I will take that for help at weekends haha. Hope your all getting on well sam.
22/11/2013 at 20:20
when disco was tiny H did night nappies while he was off work and fri and sat nights.
He used to to settel disco after his last evening feed
he did and still does the majority of weekend nappies.
Post 6 months he tends to do discos baths when they are needed and he does the bed time routine most of the time so teeth, nappy, story, song bed is all H. H also often does getting readdy in the morning at weekends
While disco was BF and tiny he would bring me drinks, make me a packed lunch if he was going to be in work and he would also leave my drink and snack out readdy if I was coming downstairs to do night feeds
22/11/2013 at 20:22
R is exclusively BF (on demand) so some days ALL I seem to do is feed him! Unfortunately H had to go back to work when R was 7 days old, so since then I pretty much do everything overnight and all day, but H then tends to make sure he gets a few good cuddles in the evenings and will do most of the nappy changes in the evenings too. Also R tends to have a feed around 9-10pm, and then I often go to bed for an hour or so and H has him downstairs whether he's asleep, awake or crying, then he brings him up when he starts cueing for feed again (around midnight usually) and H goes to bed at that point.
H has always been the domesticated one, and he still does all the cleaning and currently sorts our evening meal (which is always freezer meals from my mum at the moment!) and I do the washing. If H isn't up for work the next day, he'll also take R during the night if he's finished feeding but won't settle so I can get some sleep, and weekend mornings he will take him downstairs after his morning feed so I can go back to bed.
I currently spend about 12 hours out of every 24 feeding, and 8-10 in bed myself and being slept on by R, which really doesn't leave much time for anything else, although I do get to the horses once a day and either take R or leaving him with my parents or H (if an evening) as I can be there and back in about 40 mins.
22/11/2013 at 20:27
With Zoe, MrJB would take over as soon as he got in from work (which was around 6pm). He was then in charge of her and I would potter around tidying up the kitchen & preparing dinner while he bathed and put her to bed. I liked having the baby free time but he would equally have done the housework stuff while I put her to bed if that was what I wanted. He did all night weekings if he wasn't at work the next day.. He was really hands on.
This time around, he works away Mon - Fri and yet it is still me that has Orla with me at night when he is home and he sleeps in the spare room. According to him she is very noisy in the night and wakes several times, yet I have never heard her and her crib is right next to me. I really do think that because he is away he just isn't tuned in to her. He wouldn't think to feed her unless I asked him to. He doesn't do much around the house other than his laundry (we do our own as that way I can make sure mine and the girls is all done before he gets back and can then get his stuff washed and tried ready for packing on Sunday) and occasionally empties the dishwasher (he thinks that I never do it but doesn't seem to have realised that it is on every night so clearly I must do it).
H did the baths when he got in from work, that was his thing. He'd leave me a sandwich/pasta salad for my lunch. In the morning I'd feed, he'd then make me a brew and get himself ready for work, I'd be out and about during the day then h would get home, do the bath, make me a brew. Then I'd do the evening cluster feed. L was a horrific sleeper so h was up anyway as you couldn't not hear him but he'd do the nappy and then wind him.it was different with Isaac as he slept ALL night but L was up v regularly.
22/11/2013 at 20:29
He gets up if the kids wake at night. When babies he would do nappy changes, bring to me of need fed etc.
He gets the kids dressed in the morning and makes their breakfast before work. When he gets home he cooks dinner most nights the puts the kids to bed/does dishes (we alternate but he mostly does bedtime) The ironing is his "job'
22/11/2013 at 21:24
M slept really well as a baby - did 11-5 by 4/5 weeks old, and 12hrs by 10 weeks, so it wasn't much of an issue at night but I think it was day 10 and I was literally on my knees because she wouldn't sleep and he was wheeling her round Tesco in her pram at 3am to try to settle her so I could get an hour's sleep (not that I did, I sat on the sofa crying instead obv). We FF from about 10 days so he did a lot of feeds, he felt like he was missing out when he was at work so did her bath/bed routine and still does most nights even at 3.5yrs. He takes her to her swimming lesson, picks up from nursery (I do drop offs), sorts both our breakfasts before he goes to work, he gets up with her most weekend mornings to let me lie in (more so now I'm pregnant and knackered). Housework wise he puts the bins out
25/11/2013 at 16:14
I'm another very lucky person but slightly different circumstances. Hubby does feeds (C is FF), he tidies the house, and is working overtime too. C is sleeping through the night atm luckily so I do the day feeds unless hubby wants to on a rare day off, I cook our meals and do the laundry. hope everything is ok sam xxx
25/11/2013 at 16:44
Loads, we split parenting equally.
H did the night feeds on the weekend and let me sleep. This then changed and we took it in turns even when he was working! He gets up overnight with him, looks after him when I'm at work and he comes home every night and baths him. He also takes him and picks him up from nursery. Changes him, makes him food, cleans him up. I couldn't ask for more!
25/11/2013 at 17:04
During the week H works, so he's away from about 7am through to about 6.30pm every day (Thursdays he's not home until 9.30pm) So i do pretty much everything with W. On the weekends I still pretty much do everything even though H is there. Although recently he has been getting a bit better and lets me lie in on a Sunday.
25/11/2013 at 17:47
I do 99% of it all. With baby and toddler.
With #1 he used to have 'daddy Saturday' which meant I would make him do any changes and carry a change bag if we went out and genrally do everything except feeding as he was BF. this sort of fell by the wayside as he got older.
Now I do pretty much everything with #2. Hubby maybe done 2/3 changes a week I reckon? No point him getting up at night as I do quick feed and back to bed. 20 mins max. Bath time with a baby and a toddler can be a bit hectic but I manage. He works away every so often so it's just easier to do it all myself. It's quicker if I do it anyway.
25/11/2013 at 18:10
25/11/2013 at 21:15
Bit different here as when my H works offshore, so when he's at home he doesn't have work in the morning. But when A was little he'd do all the night nappy changes, and get me a drink while I was feeding. During the day he'd make all the meals, hoover, get drinks while I was feeding etc.
Now A is older (9 months) H gets him up in the morning, gives him breakfast, gets him dressed, and then we pretty much share everything else. Depending on what each of us is doing the other makes lunch/dinner, plays with Angus, etc, although I do all the bath times.
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