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05/08/2014 at 09:46
05/08/2014 at 09:52
I would call her beforehand. If she is a close friend it will be better than a text -which is what I would go for if they were a less close friend. As someone who has been in your friend's situation, I would much prefer the chance to compose myself before being in front of other people. MY SIL called me to tell me she was pregnant and I managed to say congrats etc before I got off the phone and cried for 20 mins. I couldn't have done that if it had been face to face. However, be a bit more sensitive than my SIL and don't bang on about how it was a total accident and completely unplanned...grrr....still sore about that one.
Good luck and I'm sure once she is over the initial jealousy (which is inevitable) she will be over the moon for you! xx
05/08/2014 at 10:04
I would go for the phone call too. We have a couple who are friends that had been trying for 2 years that we told by text. It definitely gives people a chance to digest the information in their own time. Telling them at a friends birthday lunch wouldn't be good incase she was upset.
05/08/2014 at 10:35
Phone call prior to the lunch for def.
and don't say too much if that makes sense, like rods SIL. Just keep it as factual as possible.
05/08/2014 at 17:12
I had two friends in this situation. I texted them after the 12 weeks scan as I wanted them to know before it went public (not that did a big fb announcement but these things get round) and I thought they might like time to get used to it rather than having to be happy straight away had I told them in person. Both had guessed we were having issues conceiving which may have helped. One friend text straight back (4wks later she told me her good news which was awesome) the second took a few days but we've talked several times since, met up etc and she is ok, but it's still tough for her I think. I know for me it was a bit gutting each time someone else was pregnant and finding out by text allowed me to compose myself.
05/08/2014 at 18:29
I would speak to her before as well. It's an awful situation when you have trouble conceiving and other people get pregnant!
05/08/2014 at 19:21
I've not shared my experiences/problems with anyone else but H, hence why it may appear to her that it just happened very easily and first time as it were. I'm not sure ill end up feeling 'guilty' for being the one to break the news and tell her.
It's such an uncomfortable situation to be in. I wish before all of this happened, I was completely transparent and asked the what if question. Does that make sense?
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