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08/04/2013 at 21:17
I posted earlier if S's downward spiralling sleep. I decided if give him his night time bottle then put him down to self settle. He normally falls asleep on the in a chair in his room then I put him down, stupid I know. He is 19 months, at the beginning of the year he started self settling but illness and teething in a bout stopped that. He is now waking numerous times through the night and needing a bottle and me getting him to sleep and his latest is waking on mb ring put down again and screaming.
Sorry il cut to the chase. Bottle then laid down with a night light on tonight, he cried and cried and cried. I went in replaced his dummy and said night night and left. Que major hysterics. Then h went in as its me S likes so trying to break the cycle. This angered S even more so about 40 mins from beginning I e just haddock to hold him to sleep and transfere him again.
im not into controlled crying or anything but this is getting silly now. P was the worst sleeper ever....scratch that he didn't sleep until he was gone three years old and I completely lost my marbles. I'm worried S is going just the same way. I know a lot of it or all of it is my own fault, but how do I fix this? Please?
08/04/2013 at 21:47
My 21 month old starts off in his own cot but wakes 2-3 hours later and won't go back down so we co sleep and as soon as he is next to me he settles and goes straight to sleep, I'm also not into doing controlled crying and have never tried it. Not sure if co sleeping is an option for you? We are over the next few weeks going to put a mattress next to his cot and either me or H will try sleeping in his room next to him so it will hopefully get him to start to stay in his own cot through the night
08/04/2013 at 22:01
He comes into us by about 5, just purely as at that time it's even harder to get him back down. Tbh though his sleep is still deserbed with us just that we can shush him, replace his dummy and try and get him back to sleep before he properly wakes when he is with us. Also, we co slept when he was younger and i lived it but now he is at the whole foot in your ear, arm across your face stage..I'm really not for cc or the likes myself its just I'm so conscious of how awful it was with P and that I feel we are heading the same way. I suppose I just need to get my head down and deal with it. At 19 months, if he takes after his brother, then we are half way to it improving!?
08/04/2013 at 22:06
I know the feeling of having those little feet and elbows in your head, they are so strong. I'm the same and don't feel like I could do controlled crying. Did you find anything that helped your eldest with their sleep? It's all new to us as we are lucky that our eldest has always been an excellent sleeper.
08/04/2013 at 22:20
P's seemed to coincide with us moving house, that seems a bit extreme though but maybe il get that desperate yet ! Thanks, even chatting helps me rationalise it yoyo x
09/04/2013 at 04:37
Would you be willing to leave him in his cot, but go in every 10 minutes to reassure him that you are still there? I used to do it with Ella and even though she was crying horrendously and I felt like an awful mother, it only took two days of reassuring and shushing her before she went into her cot without a fuss. I had to do it as H moved abroad and I was on my own, at my wits end with it. (I actually think H leaving caused the problem in the first place as she was a brilliant sleeper)
09/04/2013 at 10:16
Ws are you still about to chat? This is what I'm unsure of, I'm really tempted to try it. The thing is I go in and pass him his dummy that he has launched across the room but when I don't pick him up it seems to fuel his mood even more, as does h going into him? He wants me to pick him up. So if I do go down this route do I go in knowing it will get him even angrier?
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