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29/05/2013 at 00:19
I'm sure I'm over thinking this but how did you tell you older children that their sibling had arrived?
I'm having an elective and M will be at my friend's house. Do I phone her and tell her? Or does Mr R tell her when he picks her up? It feels a bit wrong that the world may know (thanks texts and FB) before she does. But then she's four, why on earth would it matter if she wasn't the first to know?!
29/05/2013 at 01:02
The plan here is that zoe will be with my mum, we will ring and tell mum who will then tell zoe (i hadn't thought if telling zoe myself) when they are going to be coming to the hospital. I am hoping I will feel up to it the day noodles is born.
I hadn't thought about how that fits in to announcing to the world, although like you it doesn't seem right for z not to know first.
29/05/2013 at 02:13
You know I don't actually know who told S! Presume H did as he picked him up the following morning to visit me
29/05/2013 at 06:05
N was at school until 1 and I had A that morning. He knew the day before what was happening and H told him when he picked him up at 12 to come and see us. I would never have told anyone before telling N as I felt that would be mean somehow. Plus I wanted to hold her and have a bit of family time before letting everyone else know.
29/05/2013 at 07:30
I never even thought about telling the kids first. I was already in hospital so they knew there was a chance baby was coming. They went off to school and nursery as normal and H collected them both early and told them He didn't tell them whether she was a or or a girl though - they found that out when they got to the hospital.
JB - fingers crossed you'll feel better than you think. The kids were in visiting me 3 hours after I had M. I was absolutely fine, if a little spaced out on drugs!
29/05/2013 at 08:15
C knew I was in hospital having a baby. He was with me when I went into labour, and his parting words to me, as he went off to my Mums were "Mummy, please bring my brother home. I don't want him to die like the other baby" (referring to my mc)
C was at school when I had J, so when my Mum picked him up, she told him they were just coming to see me in hospital. She never told him i'd had the baby. She was picking me up, to take me home.
I met him as he entered the ward, and told him his brother was here. I didn't want him to walk in, and see me holding J, I wanted to be able to tell him, and hug him so he didn't feel left out.
I'd packed C's presents off J in my hospital bag, along with a "i'm a big brother" badge, so after he'd said Hi to J, and cuddled him, I gave him his presents. Lucky, as they kept him entertained whilst waiting to be discharged.
29/05/2013 at 08:17
When p was born H text a photo to our close friends and family, Our children were at school so werent the first to know but bil told them when he picked them up and drove them straight to the hospital as I wanted them to be the first to see her. x
29/05/2013 at 08:24
As you know, R was born late evening and we didn't tell anyone until the following morning. H had got home about 1am so when Holly woke in the morning he showed her a photo and told her. THEN we told the rest of the world via text - you don't have to text the minute baby is born, and we wanted Holly to know before anyone else (hence the loooing radio silence and you lot all speculating )
29/05/2013 at 08:39
O was just over 2 years when L was born so he didn't fully understand what was going on. He was having sleepovers with MIL and she brought him to ours after we had been discharged. The first thing he did was smile at L and then proceeded to lick her face so I knew he liked her!
29/05/2013 at 08:43
L will be at school when I go in for my CS so she will be aware but she won't "know" until H picks her up tells her and brings her to see me. By then lots of people could have found out depending on the time it all happens. I don't think it really matters if they are or aren't the first to know
29/05/2013 at 08:44
I wouldn't not tell my Mum though SL. Who would then spread the message on and it's no doubt end up on FB before I'd text people!
29/05/2013 at 08:45
Ah OK then Rusty - with my family being miles away/technophobes it was a lot easier!
29/05/2013 at 08:48
I would love to do what You did SL but it wouldn't be possible for me. How nice not to be bombarded with texts etc for 1 night at least. Bliss!
Lol! She will be on a train to Reading as soon as she can get off work!
29/05/2013 at 09:32
Grandad told M. Z was born at 11.22pm - so others knew before M as she was asleep...she was told as soon as she woke up. We were out soon after, so she was the first to see him aside from me and H.
29/05/2013 at 09:37
My mum told N in the night that I'd gone to the Dr to have baby as he woke up briefly after we had headed to hospital, then when he woke up in the morning they told him mummy had had the baby and he had a little sister. All morning they kept telling him that I would be coming home with his sister and also read him the 'house inside my mummy' book and related it to his sister coming home.
As you know, N is a bit younger though, and I really wanted him to be prepared.
In your case could you tell her you're going in to have her baby brother or sister and then tell her that Daddy will call and tell her the name when mummy has had it?
29/05/2013 at 11:04
I had a home birth. O (3 years 3 months at the time) was upstairs in bed when i decided it was time to call the midwife so we all decided to leave him there, MIL came over to be here if O woke up. He woke at about 4:30am and M was born at 5:12am. MIL had told O that if he listened carefully he might hear his sister, as soon as M was born O heard her cry and shouted down to her it was lovely. Then after i'd been sorted and the midwife's had cleared up MIL brought him downstairs to meet her.
29/05/2013 at 16:11
I'm hoping for a home birth this time but J might be at school. In an ideal world I'd like him to be the first to know but I'll be all over excited and will phone my mum pretty much immediately (unless she's here with J if I go into labour overnight)
We didn't tell anyone J had been born for a few hours as it was 5.45am and I didn't want to wake anyone!
I can't wait for your BA Rusty!
29/05/2013 at 19:54
E was 5yrs when J was born. I was getting her sorted for school when I went into labour so my sister took her. I told her the baby would probably be here by the time she finished school. Luckily he was, H left the hospital to pick her up from school and he told her. She was apparently running round the yard shouting woo hoo I've got a brother.
29/05/2013 at 20:01
L was only 3, mil came up. Isaac born at 0010, h phoned mil straight away as she was worried and then when L woke up next morning h told him that I was here. L was the first person to meet him (other than h) he was a tad excited
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