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14/04/2014 at 12:05
W has always been a fabulous sleeper. right from the get go, he was sleeping right through the night, and i know we were very spoiled as a result. He's now 10 and a half months and he was sleeping every night right through from 7 to half 5/6am without fail. For the past few nights however, he's been waking earlier and earlier, and last night wouldn't go to bed until nearly 8.30pm and woke every hour from 12am through to half 5 when we were getting up for work. All he needed was a drink of water and he went back over again, but i don't know if he's possibly going through a phase, or if he has just outright broken and is going to be a horrible sleeper now :-( Perfect timing seeing as i'm back to work full time from today.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
One very tired RKB!
14/04/2014 at 12:30
14/04/2014 at 12:39
I started back on a phased return at the beginning of February 3 days a week, but this is my first full week back (although we are off on Friday/Monday because it's easter)
I'm thinking of moving his bed time to 8pm as we don't normally get home until close to half 6 and his bed time is 7, but he'll happily stay up until 8 if we let him.
14/04/2014 at 13:11
No idea lovey, doesn't sound like it would be work related if you've been back for a bit already.
Sorry to hijack the thread but I just wanted to ask are you back full days? And are you going up to 5 days a week? Just wondering how you and W were finding things?
14/04/2014 at 13:38
I went back 9 to 5 for 3 day at the start of Feb, but i'm now back 5 days a week 9 - 5 as of this week. (don't actually leave to come home until 5.30 because that's when H finishes his work and we drive home together which takes about 45 to 50 minutes)
Generally speaking we're doing ok. my sister looks after W while i'm at work, so i know he's well looked after. I miss him terribly when i'm at work, but It's a necessary evil. We just can't afford for me to not be at work as i'm the higher earner.
14/04/2014 at 13:47
Hi RKB - sorry to hear it's all gone a bit wrong. Hopefully it will pass very soon.
It could just be a phase, but just one thought, how much sleep is he getting in the day. we found with E that she started waking early and had a couple of spells of being every awake in the middle of the night. Capping the morning nap and moving it slightly later in the morning seemed to do the trick for us. I think she was getting a bit too much daytime sleep and so was just not tired enough when she went to bed and it was affecting the amount she slept at night.
Going back to work sucks - I am also the high earner, so went back full time when E was 6 months old :-(
14/04/2014 at 14:06
I'm in the exact same boat RKB, I also have a fair commute too and dreading going back as I can't really afford to cut much hours since I'm the higher earner and looks like in going to end up back 5 days, hopefully getting away about earlier at night though as before I went on mat leave I didn't normally get home until 7pm and I can't stand the though of not seeing O at night. I'm hoping to maybe do 9-4 with a half hour lunch and get home for just after 5 but I'm not sure how my work are going to be about it.
I know this sounds silly but it makes me feel better that other people are in a similar position as everyone keeps asking if I'm going back (not an option!) and obviously I'll be part time, so am I doing 2 or 3 days, I feel like the worst mum on the planet saying that I'll be doing 5.
My mum will have O so similar to you, I'll have no concerns about his care or worries about him being left at nursery but it's still a hard thought!x
14/04/2014 at 15:02
Alocin - That thought had crossed my mind that he was sleeping too much during the day. yesterday he slept from 9.30am to nearly 11.45am and then napped again on and off in the afternoon because we were out and about. He always used to have 2 naps in the day. Do you think that we should try and reduce that down?
MDD - I feel like an awful mum because i'm at work constantly now too. I kind of feel like people are looking at me and saying 'why did you have a baby if you're not going to stay home and look after it?' My work is flexible and i could work 8 - 4 every day if i wanted to, which i would consider if i could get home easily, but I stay in a really awkward place that has a very rubbish bus service and is 18 miles from my work, so i kind of have to work around H's work which is rubbish and is a 9 - 5.30 stint
My sister is my little ones carer while i'm at work, and she does an amazing job, but i feel like my sister is raising my baby instead of me. It sounds really selfish, but i wish H would get another better paying job so i could stay at home and raise W myself. It's also making me wonder why i'm considering having another as i'll still need to go back to work.
14/04/2014 at 15:11
RKB - it's so difficult to tell how much daytime sleep they need as they are all so different. All I can do is tell you what E's like!
Her rough routine is
7am Wake Up
10:00 Nap (we cap this at 30 mins now)
14:00 Nap (anywhere from 60 - 90 mins) We wake her up at 15:30 at the latest to preserve bedtime
One of my friends who's little one is a similar age to ours does a longer morning nap (starting about 10:30/11:00) and then a catnap at 15:30 ish.
E would previously go down to sleep earlier in the morning, but it seemed that her wake ups were getting earlier and earlier. Pushing it a little later seemed to help her - we gradually moved it by 15 mins every few days until it started at 10am.
Being a working Mum sucks sometimes, however I am not sure I could happyily be a full time SAHM either. I have luckily been able to drop to 4 days a week, so I get a whole day of just me and E which I love. I know it's not an option for everyone, but if you are feeling like the balance isn't right is there any way you could do your hours over fewer days or start eaelier/finish earlier or possibly work 4 days per week?
14/04/2014 at 15:57
Just now our sleep pattern is (on a good night)
5.30am wake up (he shares a room with us, so i think us getting up wakes him up)
8 - 9.30 am - nap for 1 - 2 hours
2 - 3pm - nap for 1 - 2 hours (if he sleeps past 4.30pm we tend to wake him)
7pm bed time
We usually let him sleep for as long as he wants to during the day as i didn't want to wake him, but i think i might have to start.
I'm going to give it a couple of months at work and see how we get on. my work have been really good that i'm sure if i really wanted to, i could drop to 4 days, but that would affect my pay, unless i worked longer hours, which i don't think is feasible tbh as i'd have to work 8 to 6 Monday to Thursday in order to make up for the extra day.
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