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08/04/2014 at 22:56
No more, am done but feel so guilty. He's 17 weeks tomorrow and the 16 week growth spurt has hit me hard. We attempted to switch at 8 weeks but he refused bottles after a few days and I carried on.
He's still quite a constant feeder, can't settle without my boob and I just feel so drained. I ache from co-sleeping. He won't take a dummy. I've lost my confidence feeding in public and dread leaving the house.
For my sanity I think I need to stop but how at 17 weeks?!
I think I'm being selfish but I've always said happy mummy=happy baby and I'm definitely not happy :( I feel all over the place and like I've messed it all up.
08/04/2014 at 22:58
...but part of me says just to see what happens after this growth spurt. Arrgh.
09/04/2014 at 00:05
I didn't want to read & run. If it's making you this unhappy then it's probably not best to carry on but only you can make this decision. The best thing you can probably do is get advice from a breast feeding counsellor who will, I'm sure, be able to guide you in cutting down breast feeding & swapping to formula. Something you'll need to do slowly as you can end up with infections. Sorry I haven't got better advice. Take care x x x
09/04/2014 at 04:00
Ahh Chimp, hugs to you! I think BK's suggestion of getting some advice is a good idea. It's not selfish if you stop bf, it's not like you're going to stop feeding him!
You know growth spurts are hard and this is a big one! Generally I feel that bf is getting easier, O does feed often still but he will sometimes go longer, I just try not to overthink it. We don't cluster feed anymore though gratefully. Sympathise on the aches from cosleeping, O goes to bed at 7 and normally ends up in bed with me in the early hours, like now. I try not to bring him in too early but it just depends on how tired I feel when he wakes. No dummies here either, he is not a fan!
Hope your night is going ok xxx
09/04/2014 at 10:32
Thanks ladies xx
He still clusters, last two night from 7-12. I think this has fuelled my desire to stop more if I'm honest.
Last night was ok in the end, he went in his moses basket at 12ish so OH and I got some um..cuddle time lol, then he came into bed at some point and slept with me until morning. I feed guilty taking his comfort away. Going to try and get him to take a dummy and see where we are then.
09/04/2014 at 10:51
Whatever you decide to do you shouldn't feel guilty. You've clearly given this a lot of thought & whatever you decide to do is in the best interest of the 2 of you & your relationship. & good idea to find him something else to comfort him. Remember that doesn't just have to be a dummy it can be a soft or a toy with a plastic ear or similar that they can suck on. Good luck x
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