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10/01/2016 at 13:30
ok firstly you'll all think I'm off my head by the end of this post!!
I am the worst worrier in the world and my head is nipping every day
I worry so much about my health even though I know I'm healthy.. i convinced myself I had a UTI the other day and I obviously don't!!!! I am so nervous about all these blood tests and the scan for the baby, i don't know what I'd do if there's something wrong.. I'm scared about meeting the midwife..
truth is we weren't planning on having a baby..but the decision has been taken out of our hands and we are obviously now delighted!
my husbands brother and his wife tried for 3 years to have a baby.. They even went private and had two rounds of IVF which failed! Thankfully now she's due her first little bundle in April and I'm so excited.
however I've always harped on about how we never wanted children lol like all the time!! I do not want to take any limelight away from her as she has wanted this for so long! She's having a baby shower the first weekend in March and her baby is due the start of April.. I have no idea how or when I'll tell them.. I'm going to hopefully keep it a secret until after her baby shower..i think I'll be 14 weeks by then.. I really really don't want to have any focus away from her.. I know they will be delighted but honestly I do not think anyone in our families will expect our news!! I think my mum and dad will drop to the floor!!
my brother is also getting married in July and I'm a bloody bridesmaid my dress is a size 8!! thwre was something mentioned by another bridesmaid saying "right no1 get pregnant" and here I am!!!!
My heads all over the place with everything that I can't relax
ok now you all think I'm crazy a little advice would be good! Thankyou xx
10/01/2016 at 15:17
Firstly chill, you don't have to do anything right now. Just you and your Husband take it all in and prepare yourselves making sure your healthy. Midwife can help you with that so don't stress.
Midwife and tests will help put your mind at ease medically, either leave it a couple of weeks or just go get it done so you don't have to fret over it, cross it off the list.
Your in law family. tell them when you are ready, no rush. You might find it a comfort to share the experience with your sister in law, she might also find the whole thing more exciting sharing it as I'm sure she will have a lot of worried with what she's been through.
Now with regards to the bridesmaid thing, it's not fair to leave it too long with them but again you could leave it a few weeks before saying if that's best for you. Maybe you could pay to have the dress altered or for a new dress or drop out of bridal duties if mutually agreeable - it's a long way off you may feel different nearer the time.
You could share the secret on a need to know basis closest family only, that way people know and can support you but you won't take limelight if it worries you.
Really you shouldn't worry just be happy if that's what you want
10/01/2016 at 16:43
Thanks meme I feel better already..
Wits the bridesmaid dress i wpuld pay to get the dress altered or drop out and give her the money for the dress..
my midwife app is in two weeks and I know I'll feel better I just get so stressed about the unknown!! It's all I think about but I'm trying to relaX!
thankyou very much for your reply xx
10/01/2016 at 18:21
Your welcome closmith and good luck. I love how we can vent on this site even when we think we are crazy there's always someone to listen and share with that understands
10/01/2016 at 22:02
i really appreciate your kind words.. it means alot to me..
ive got all these emotions and fears I've never felt before
I'm changing my attititide & try to focus on the end result a little perfect baby x
10/01/2016 at 22:57
That's the only way, most of this process is out of our control, down to timing and if it's meant to be it will be.
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