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03/04/2013 at 20:07
I know I'm being unreasonable but I need a rant!
5pm H is supposed to finish work and be back home by 5.30. Where is he? Still in the office!! I wouldn't mind if he was paid for it, or if it was the kind of job where you sometimes need to put in extra hours. But it isn't, and I know because we have the same job. The only reason he would have to stay late is his own disorganisation and slowness. I NEVER had to stay late, in fact I always got my work done early (to have time for Hitching!!).
I took A to our local sling library today and forgot to get breakfast first as A was in a clingy mood and wouldn't be put down. Didn't get home until 2pm and grabbed a bread roll thinking H would be home and we'd have a proper dinner. Well he's not home and I'm frigging starving, even when he gets back one of us will still have to cook. A is being a right monkey, perhaps he is teething or something but won't be put down and won't tolerate the sling which he liked when I tried it on earlier! He keeps crying unless he is being carried (NOT in the sling) or attached to my boob so I've just left him on the boob.
I just want to cry!
03/04/2013 at 20:16
Not unreasonable - and a bit mean of your H - does he know you are waiting to eat?
03/04/2013 at 20:19
not unreasonable, has he called to say why he is having to stay? if its because of his own disorganisation, I'd be ordering yourself a takeaway and get him to cook his own tea when he gets home
03/04/2013 at 20:20
Oh dear we women always come waaay down the list dont we? I kind of understand as my H works quite long hours and for a few days each month he is permanently attached to his laptop. Also understand the hunger thing, everyone else always seems to eat (what I have cooked!) before I get to have a few cold mouthfuls due to a whiny and/or clingy baby.
03/04/2013 at 20:24
Just eat without him? Order take away or something. Or call and ask what time he'll be home?
If my H was this late I'd certainly have called him and already eaten by now.
But TBH I don't think he's done anything wrong? Perhaps that's just me though!
03/04/2013 at 20:31
I couldn't eat as we don't have anything in the flat not requiring cooking and A won't let me put him down. I mean, obviously I can physically leave him but I just can't bear to hear him cry.
It's okay now, he came home with chocolate and is cooking. I am so easily bought
03/04/2013 at 20:32
If I was hungry enough, or wanted to make the point enough, I'd eat without him. Or use the "late" situation to my advantage and have it strengthen my argument for ordering in a lush takeaway!!
Maybe just explain to him that its been a long day and that he hasn't helped matters by staying at work late. Maybe in future he could call home to see if it would be feasible or not as every day is different for you and him.
03/04/2013 at 23:13
Hope you managed to eat something, my H is like this. I've had soooo many conversations about it & occasionally it gets better but then he falls back into his old ways. Hope you're able to talk to him so it doesn't happen again x
04/04/2013 at 02:41
I would be the same, when H has come home late in the past I literally throw J at him, he once made the mistake of telling me he just needed 10 minutes after a busy day.......I nearly punched him in the face as I knew full well he had been out for lunch that day and had a chill out in the car on the way home!
In these situations a takeaway is a good shout and so I chocolate- at least H knew he had some making up to do!
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