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04/08/2013 at 20:08
Did you tell people or keep it to yourself?
If you decided to keep it secret did you manage all the way through?
I quite fancy finding out the sex but wouldn't want to tell anyone, not sure how I'd manage to keep it to myself for 5 months though!
04/08/2013 at 20:16
First time we found out but didn't tell anyone that we knew. We did manage to keep it a secret for the entire time but I felt like I was lying all the time so this time we've been honest about finding out and told people that we're having a girl.
I think it was easier for us as we lied about even knowing, if we'd said we know but aren't telling I think people might have tried to dig a bit.
04/08/2013 at 20:20
We found out and told people. I don't think it'd be possible to keep it a secret easily, not for me anyway as i'd use he/she without thinking. I guess if you told people you hadn't found out you could but don't think it'd like to lie to close family about it.
04/08/2013 at 20:25
We found out and didn't tell anyone. People knew that we knew, but the baby was nicknamed tigger after it wasa bouncing around at the scans, so we just continued to call it tigger. Weirdly everyone was convinced it was a boy, apparently I unintentionally said "he" a few times ... as expected we had a girl!!
04/08/2013 at 20:27
We found out and did tell people. My uncle asked not to know, but I forgot and accidentally spilled the beans by talking about it in front of him about a week later! I can't keep secrets!
04/08/2013 at 22:21
We found out at 16 weeks and very few knew :-) our families and a few close friends but no one in work knew and I lied on her and on Fb and said he didn't know.
05/08/2013 at 00:22
We found out, and told people.
Everyone was going to find out at some point, so I didn't see the point of keeping it to myself.
05/08/2013 at 06:09
I dont see the point of keeping it yourself either then you need to.sneak about. Each to their own but its still a surprise no matter when you tell people.
05/08/2013 at 06:15
I loved keeping it a secret. Everyone knew we were trying for a baby so the bfp was no surprise and I just didn't want my work mainly to know as most people said finding out was a shame and ruined the surprise which I obviously disagreed with and I couldn't be bothered explaining my reasons.
05/08/2013 at 06:29
You told me so that doesnt count lol
05/08/2013 at 06:55
I told most people, just not facebook. Was difficult not slipping up, I def referred to him as he a few times to people that didn't know
05/08/2013 at 07:19
We found out at the 20 week scan & yes I told everyone, didn't see any point in hiding it.
05/08/2013 at 07:27
We found out but haven't made a big deal about it. I didn't announce on fb but if people have asked I've told them. D knows it's a little sister and calls it girl baby. All the family wanted to know too so it worked out well for us x
05/08/2013 at 08:03
TP I'm in the exact same boat as you. I'm SICK of people at work asking if we are going to find out and then promptly telling me not too and I'm ruining it etc. We plan to find out but I've told most people were not sure if we are going too. I'm telling people at work that I don't know and we are only telling immediate family. If anyone else asks I'm just going to say I don't know. H thinks its a boy which I've mentioned to a few people so if it is a boy and I say he and anyone picks up on it I'll just say that's because of H talking about it being a boy and if its a girl and I say she, I'll say it's because H keeps saying he so I'm balancing it out! I'm so used to saying 'the baby' now hopefully I can keep just saying that!x
05/08/2013 at 11:07
I couldn't find out and not tell so we announced at 16 weeks. I bought so many dresses and pinky things I'd have not been able to share much of my pregnancy and the fun of buying things with people otherwise but I wish I could have kept it a secret ;)
05/08/2013 at 12:19
We found out and started off telling no-one but did tell family a few weeks ago (about 10-12 weeks after the scan) as my sister had started buying stuff and thought she may as well buy for the right sex - I got v bored of all the neutral stuff I'd stocked up on last time!
It wasnt hard at all for us to keep it a secret, but my pregnancy isnt a huge topic of conversation here - maybe woud have been different with my first? A few people have asked if we know the sex and we just say we do but we're not sharing it, and no-one pushed it.
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