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27/03/2013 at 11:19
ive pretty much ruled out a VBAC i think and am going for a CS. I've told H though that I don't want anyone to know the date we are booked to have it though as I want the date to be a surprise like a normal birth. I think it's exciting when someone you know is due and you get excited thinking any day now it will be born and getting excited when the phone rings. We will have to tell one person though as will have to arrange for someone to have W when I go in. But will make sure they don't tell anyone else.
i would tell them the due date though as I assume its rare you get booked in for your due date is it? Does it just depend on availability around that date?
What did you do and why?
27/03/2013 at 11:24
I haven't had an elective but I would also keep it to myself for the same reasons. I would tell my immediate family though x
27/03/2013 at 11:25
We told our parents and two close friends then my parents told all my brothers, aunties, uncles etc which was a bit annoying. I didn't put it on fb though.
Sections are usually done in the 39th week. In England I had N when I was 39+4 and here it was 39 as they thought doing it any closer was too risky for going into labour. They were right as I went into labour hours before!
27/03/2013 at 11:32
Electives don't guarantee the date either. Remember poor Margot was put on the list for one day and then sent home because they were full of emergencies and had to go back the next.
I don't think I'd tell many people this time... besides those I need to child sit Matilda for me!
27/03/2013 at 11:34
This is an interesting question. I think i would be more inclined to keep it a surprise like you say, but just letting immediate family know.
27/03/2013 at 11:37
If we have a #2, and if I decide to go for an elective (which is a high possibility), I think we'd probably only tell those we need to, although whether my Mum would be able to restrain from telling others is another matter!
27/03/2013 at 11:48
I told people if they asked but didn't announce it - as Rusty said, it turned out to be slightly irrelevant anyway! Will do the same this time but hopefully won't get bumped to the next day again.
27/03/2013 at 11:49
Rusty- that's another reason why I wouldn't want to tell everyone as the phone calls from people assuming I had had the baby when in actual fact I had spent the day nil by mouth at the hospital only to be sent home would drive me mad!
Lindtbunny- I didn't know when they normally book you for so thats interesting to know its 39 weeks. I see the consultant when i go for my 12 week scan so i assume they will go over all that then. The later the better as I'd rather it stays cooking in there as long as possible, and I doubt I would go into labour early.
27/03/2013 at 11:54
Haha that's what I thought too as my bump hadn't dropped at all but alas!
27/03/2013 at 13:54
I told most of my family and friends at work. With my first set of twins it was an emergency as I developed severe pre-eclampsia and the girls were born 2 months early. Most people wanted to know with the second set as I had been so ill the first time they were really concerned if they heard nothing from me - it was easier to tell them when it was so they weren't worried.
27/03/2013 at 14:17
We just told parents and siblings. I was told a planned section will be done at 39(ish) weeks as that is when there is the least risk of any complications.
27/03/2013 at 15:44
My planned section with Jacob was done at 39+5, although I was originally booked in for 39+4. I've been told this time it will be between 39 and 40 weeks again - AFAIK, they prefer to get past 39 weeks to minimise the risk of any respiratory issues for baby.
27/03/2013 at 16:27
With both of my electives we only told our parents. I have them strict instructions that they were not to tell other fmsily members as I didn't want people randomly turning up when we wanted some time. With J it was also because I needed my parents to look after E. with E it was because of losing my first that they were all so involved and needed to be there for us (if anything happened to baby I wanted H to go with baby and so needed someone there for me).
27/03/2013 at 16:37
I kept it secret with Tate but then told everyone with Rafferty. I know everyone was very excited on the day Rafferty was born waiting for the announcement and I had lots of good luck messages in the morning which was nice too so I'd probably tell everyone again if we had another.
27/03/2013 at 16:53
Albania that's a good point about the good luck messages as that would be really nice
27/03/2013 at 18:27
Well my ELCS has just been booked today. I was told they normally do them from 39 weeks but if I wanted to delay it to see if I went in to labour naturally it could be booked for a later date. As it is it is booked for 39+2 and while we will be telling my mum (for babysitting duties) and a couple of close friends that will be it ... oh and of course all of the internet weirdies on here that I have just announced it to.
28/03/2013 at 07:39
I wouldn't want you to tell anyone. I think if I'm offered with number two I'll have elcs. In fact I'm not sure I'd tell anyone about the elcs because I can imagine the negative comments I'd get. And is the world and his dog booking hotels to see us right away which I really wouldn't like. I'm not fussed about the actual date per say. It would stop the "any sign yet" questions if you told wouldn't it..
28/03/2013 at 08:34
That's interesting jelly baby about being told you could delay it until you go into labour naturally. I would really like to do that but didn't think they would let you as thought they would want to be able to schedule CS theatre slots etc and be able to bump you back if they happened to be busy with emergencies. If you wait until you're in labour they can't bump you back. I'm really surprised you were allowed this option and really hope I get offered it. I bet I don't though as im assuming like everything else it depends on the hospitals policy
28/03/2013 at 10:31
YES!!!! - with both!!! Would have told the whole freaking world if we could :) We live really far away from all of our family so there was no risk of being bombarded with visitors - perhaps wouldnt have told everyone if this was the case. Friends considerately texted to find out when we wanted visitors.
28/03/2013 at 20:31
Sorry I didn't explain very well, if I went in to labour naturally then it would be a vbac not section.
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