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01/04/2013 at 21:35
I know that this is a bit unreasonable but can't help it.
A bit of background, when I was pregnant with M we never found out the sex but agreed on a girl's and boy's name within 24hours after our 12 week scan and never changed our minds!
This time round we decided we wanted to know, the only names we discussed up until the 20 week scan were girls names as we both assumed it would be another girl. So after the shock of finding out it was a boy (just assumed a girl as loads of them in H's family), anyway we started talking about names and I mentioned the name that I've always wanted to use for a boy, H said yes to it and we pretty much sorted a middle name as well. We decided not to tell anyone the name but when anyone has asked H has said yes we have a name.
Anyway, here we are 8 weeks later and to wind his Mum up he wrote some first names on a bit of paper (from his favourite footie team!) and made sure that she saw them, he's now told me that he's gone off the name we agreed on and he really likes one of the names he put on this piece of paper!!!! Don't get me wrong, the name is ok but I can't imagine using it, and to make matters worse he mentioned that one of boys he coaches at football has the name and then told me what it got shortened too, which I can't stand.
So the only way forward I can see is to start from scratch again but at the moment I can't get past the fact that he doesn't want the name I love and he agreed with, if he had said no from the start that would have been fine but I've had 8 weeks of picturing my baby with the name etc
Sorry no point to this post but ...........
01/04/2013 at 21:51
Could you suggest that you go with the original name chosen and use the new name he likes as a middle name maybe?
01/04/2013 at 22:08
You have got ages and ages yet, he could change his mind several times between now and when the baby is born. My H won't even discuss names so I have several favourites in my head and they could easily get vetoed. Last time we had pretty much settled on a name although we did have a couple of other names on our shortlist - after 2 weeks she ended up named something completely different.
01/04/2013 at 22:11
Bailey25 - that sounds an ace idea xx
01/04/2013 at 22:44
wJBs about still having aaaaaaaaages. One way to agree or at least move forward on names, is to each write 10 of your favourite names down on a piece of paper, then you can each take it in turns to score 5 names off the others list. Then you've got 10 names that you could both possibly agree on.
Or, just ignore the issue until you've had the baby and then pull the sympathy vote
01/04/2013 at 22:47
Long time to go yet lovely.
We've agreed on a boy's name now and it really is one that I'm not 100% about but I have concluded that I actually don't like any and this is the best of a bad bunch. I have one name that I love and I might throw it back in the mix post delivery after Mr R has seen me go through the pain and see if he'll fall for it then!
01/04/2013 at 23:03
Thanks ladies, I know we still have ages and we could both change our minds between now and then, I'm just not used to being this emotional and hormonal about things, certaintly wasn't like this with the first one!
Bailey - he has suggested using this new name as the first name and our original one as the middle name but I think I would prefer to rule out both and start again!
JB - You're right, plenty of time to change minds etc
Bluewater/Rusty - I'm inclined to wait until post birth, I had to be stitched last time and I know if it happens again I could give H the choice of staying with me whilst they stitch me and using his choice of name or leaving the room and using my choice of name! He'd be out the room like a shot!!!!
Oh well, I'll keep reading the name threads for inspiration!! xx
01/04/2013 at 23:11
Gonna share the names with us?
02/04/2013 at 00:49
You have ages left, write some lists and go back to the books. Ask him what he prefers about the 'new' name to the one you had agreed on.
The 'right' name is out there x
02/04/2013 at 12:57
I've had a few friends who have had similar issues re names but after labour, the men have agreed to anything because of what the mother went through!
02/04/2013 at 13:20
Rusty - nothing outrageous! I've always wanted to use the name Samuel, with it being shortened to Sam, we have a Mollie and I also have a stepson - Finley, known as Fin and thought that the names went well, ie Finley, Mollie and Samuel as well as Fin, Mollie and Sam. Now H has decided he now likes Morgan, don't get me wrong I don't hate it but I just can't imagine using it. H also then mentioned that at the football coaching he does there is a Morgan and it gets shortened to 'Morgs' now I do hate that! I don't think it helps that Bianca yells it frequently on Eastenders!!! xx
02/04/2013 at 13:43
I love the name Morgan...... for a girl though.
02/04/2013 at 14:44
Bluewater - see that was my first thought too!!
02/04/2013 at 14:54
I sympathise; if you've spent a lot of your pregnancy thus far thinking of your baby as "Sam" it must be very difficult to adjust to a new name, especially if you don't particularly like it.
02/04/2013 at 15:52
I always thought that mums get the final say anyway? perk of the job after labour etc. Permission given to play this card!
02/04/2013 at 17:02
To me Morgan is a girls name
02/04/2013 at 17:15
Morgan is either for me but Samuel goes better with your other names xx
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