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16/04/2013 at 13:06
Because I missed the prenatal Nct course because of bens early arrival, I started a Nct postnatal one today but got there to find that the other 4 girls in the group did Nct prenatal together so all know each other really well and am now finding it hard to slot into the group, I'm a bit gutted as its hard to find really local mums to get to know
16/04/2013 at 13:09
Oh no, sorry to hear you didn't feel part of the group - how long is the course? Hopefully it will get better and they'll be a bit more inclusive at future sessions. It's hard, but you just have to try and get stuck in a chat to them xx
16/04/2013 at 13:14
I'm quite shy so struggle with things like that, but its for 6 weeks so hope I can get involved a bit more as they ready do things as a group together
16/04/2013 at 13:21
do they know why you missed out on the prenatal course? I'd hope that they would be supportive and understanding when they know about Ben.
16/04/2013 at 13:23
Yes they know why I missed it but because they all knew each other so well I guess it was easy for them to talk between themselves, and arrange their next meet up, was a bit awkward really
16/04/2013 at 13:26
Could you say something to the course facilitator?
All of my antenatal NCT group attended the same post-natal course except one girl who couldn't afford it. The facilitator made the point in the first week of telling us to make sure we included this girl and let her know what we had been discussing each week so she wasn't left out x
I know what it's like to be shy in those sort of situations. Hopefully you're right and over the next 6 weeks you will get to know them and chat more so that you can be included in groups x
16/04/2013 at 13:27
Stick with it Bailey, could you try and get there a little earlier and grab one or two of them on their own before they settle into a group again. Then it means you don't have to face them altogether and can start a one-to-one chat. I'm a soft touch and am always talking to random people! Xx
16/04/2013 at 13:28
It's so hard when you are an adult making new friends. I had similar problems with Luke, it takes time. stick at it. People I wrote off on first impressions eventually became good friends. Maybe bribe them with cake!?!
16/04/2013 at 13:29
Good idea, I might try and get there early next week and try and talk to one of them early, I think the course co ordination knew so could've done with a heads up really
16/04/2013 at 13:30
I might email the co ordinator and ask to discuss birth stories as they all know each other and its awkward
16/04/2013 at 13:31
Cake bribing sounds good!
16/04/2013 at 13:33
Keep going Bailey.
If they don't "let you in", it says more about them than it does about you.
Friendship groups change all the time. There is always room for another x
16/04/2013 at 13:50
Agree with rusty. Well done for going today. I hope next week is more positive! Pj xx
16/04/2013 at 13:51
Thanks all, I feel a bit more positive about it now, will try hard next week to blend in a bit!
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