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28/03/2013 at 00:58
I know I've been annoying everyone with my nursing posts but I am really getting to end of tether, d has been awake since half 9 already demanding to be feed the whole time. We've tried everything other than dummies, she is now fussing as soon as she has done a minute initial drinking pulling away but without delatching. How can I be a human dummy this long! It's bad enough during the day she wants feeding every hour and half for about 30 minutes she shuts won't sleep at night sand won't come off the breast! I'm not even sure she is getting any milk anymore! Although it does sound like she is. I am finding it really hard as just not getting to sleep because she isnt
28/03/2013 at 02:44
Have a hug HF have you tried a dummy? I know they're not for everyone but they may give your nipples a rest. Has her latch been checked for TT as this May cause the fussing.
It may be worth offering a top up feed of expressed BM/ formula just so you can grab some sleep. Its exhausting when they are a newborn, make sure you have plenty of drinks and snacks.
28/03/2013 at 02:56
Unfortunately I've been going through the same thing and still am now. She's cluster feeding so most of the time will be getting bits of milk but others she will be using you as comfort. It's normal about Ds age to have a growth spurt too which could be the reason behind it. Not a lot you can do I don't think, I'm into 2 weeks of no sleep and still haven't found again cure, just got to ride it out and the good old phrase everyone tells me: it'll get better ;)
Perhaps consider a dummy or top up of formula like la suggested if its really that bad, that's my next move once I can't cope any more.
28/03/2013 at 03:31
Oh its blummin hard isnt it. E is every 2 houts but i am mansging to sleep in betweepn. Can you sleep mote in the day to try and catch up? I hawent to bed at 9 tonight judt because e was asleep at the time and it gave me an extra hour. At the moment night time is more like day. Huge hugs xx
28/03/2013 at 03:36
Also is she well winded? E only settles once she had had a god belch especially if she is fussy S she takes in more air. I spend about 5 to 10 minutes to get a burp snd she feeld a lot better.
28/03/2013 at 03:52
The days and nights just blend into one don't they! Agree with Willow about winding, also another trick I do is to keep M on me for 15-20 minutes once he's fallen asleep after a feed before putting him into his basket. Sometimes this works and gives me an hour or so between feeds.
28/03/2013 at 06:24
Thanks girls, the problem is at night when she is like that I literally cannot take her off the boob, there is no mapping or dosing in between. She has been checked for tongue tie. Her latch also seemed ok after we were checked last week but will
Speak to midwife tomorrow. Our bf support class isn't on next week due to bank holiday. I'm sure she is fine and getting enough as is content the rest of the day. I feel mean but after 90 minutes on one breast yesterday I but her in chair and just let her cry. This woke h up, who has now done night shift and try to give her at least an hour between feeds so I could grab some sleep. I am trying to grab sleep in day but its only half hour here or an hour there. I really feel like I'm doing a c r a p job. It's not even just a cry its ear curdling screams. I know/hope/pray it will pass but that's been four nights in a row and I don't know if the end is anywhere in sight with it
28/03/2013 at 06:33
HF- M did this for a month and it was exhausting. From 6pm until he finally fell asleep at 10pm he would fuss about at my breasts. Drove me mad! Apparently you have a lower milk supply at night- M is a big feeder. It's not everyones cup of tea but at 6pm I gave him a bottle of formula from 6 weeks and it stopped the problem.
Is she winded before you put her down in her chair- M will screech if he still has wind after a feed.
It will get better xxx
28/03/2013 at 06:59
Can u un latch her once u think she has finished actual feeding? Then wind and rock to sleep as pinky said dont put her down till she is in a deeper sleep or they know! You are not doing a crap job at all its just about finding what wirks for you. Hope u can get some help xxx
28/03/2013 at 07:23
You are NOT doing a crap job. It's such early days still, your milk supply is still trying to work out what it needs to do, as is she. Definitely sounds like she may have a bit of wind too, have you tried various ways to get her to bring it up? Over your knee, shoulder etc?
This will not last forever, she's days out of her nice warm bump. Sleep deprivation is the absolute pits, but it will pass.
28/03/2013 at 07:29
Also, do call one of the bf helplines, or get someone (BFC, not a mw) to come out to you, if nothing else to help out your mind at ease that she is feeding ok.
28/03/2013 at 07:44
Big hugs to you HF, it's so hard isn't it. Lack of sleep makes everything so much harder, I had a bit of a breakdown myself last night. I can't offer anymore advice than the others suggested, but wanted to say you are not doing a c r a p job and you are certainly not alone in finding it hard. I keep reminding myself that it will get better, but that doesn't always help. Hope you manage to get to a breast feeding group, I plan to go next week to get some advice too. Take care xxx
28/03/2013 at 08:34
Dummies are there to help the parents not the child. I couldn't have managed to BF two of my kids without a dummy, I just wasn't cut out to have a baby stuck on my boob all hours of day and night. Well worth a try, they saved my sanity.
28/03/2013 at 10:06
If you're doing a crap job then so am I as M is honestly the same. I'd really recommend the Kellymum website as it goes through all the 'normal' BF queries and it made a lot of sense to what we're going through. Unfortunately it is all normal and like you I just keep hoping it will pass soon. You should have a BF support worker that you can ring and speak to, or your HV or MW.
28/03/2013 at 10:24
You are NOT doing a crap job! If you were crap then you wouldn't care so much! I always tell myself that with B
B used me for comfort rather than always feeding and using a dummy bought us extra time on the breast. Are you set against using them? B had them until he was nearly 3 and they were easy to wean off, well I just took them away one day and said I was giving them to the baby monkeys lol.
KellyMom is a great site as already suggested or you could contract your local breastfeeding counsellor.
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