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06/03/2014 at 13:26
I always knew going back to work was going to be difficult, but it's really hit me hard today. My sister is Ws carer while i'm at work, which is great because she sends me numerous updates and texts and pictures throughout the day so that i can see what he's getting up to. But it's not the same as being there.
This morning W pulled himself up to a sitting position from lying down for the first time unaided (he has been able to sit up for a few months) and then he proceeded to pull himself up into a standing position holding onto the couch. Now he's been on his feet for a while, just hadn't mastered how to pull himself up properly. I really feel like I'm missing these big steps because i had to go back to work.
I'm still off on Mondays and Fridays, but he always manages to do these amazing leaps of ability when i'm not there, and then my mum sits and tells me about all these things that he's been doing, and if i mention that he's done something that i think is new, shes like 'Oh yeah, he's been doing that for ages' which just makes me feel even worse because i didn't know that's what he's been doing.
Sorry to rant, I'm just feeling like a rubbish mummy today.
06/03/2014 at 13:36
It's totally rubbish, I know - but it doesn't make you a rubbish mum at all, don't be hard on yourself. There are pros and cons to going back to work, same as there are pros and cons of being a SAHM. Missing stuff is definitely a con - I just have to be sad about it for a while then try and remember why I went back to work and how it was the best choice for my family. Not particularly helpful I know, but you're not alone, so rant away! x
06/03/2014 at 14:15
Big hugs! I don't really know what to say, I hate the thought of missing anything too but the reality of life/money means I'm probably going back part-time.
If my mum was saying that, I'd have to say to her 'I wish you'd told me he'd done xyz, it really upsets me when I feel that I'm missing things'
06/03/2014 at 14:19
Hi RKB - it is hard knowing you miss anything being at work - however try and console yourself knowing the extra money you make will enable treats and holidays. Try not to dwell on it because it eats you up then.... hugs though - its very hard -I was back full time when little Sue was a year....
06/03/2014 at 14:21
You're all right. I need to be back at work if we're going to be able to do stuff as a family, like going on holiday and the likes. I'm not proud of myself, but i did have a wee cry with my line manager and work colleague. I now feel quite silly. I know he'll do it all again when i'm there, so it's not like i'm never going to see him do it. Just feeling a bit rubbish today :-( The thing with my mum is that she doesn't seem to realise what the problem is and thinks i'm being overly hormonal about these things. She upset me the other day just by saying that for W's first birthday that i didn't need lots of helium balloons, and that just having a bunch on the floor would be fine. I was like "It's my boys first birthday and if i want to fill the rafters with balloons then that's what i'm going to do"
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