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28/10/2014 at 23:58
You guys can call me ice. Im 21 years old andI'm in the second year of my college education. About 2 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant i don't know how far alone i am (i'll find out my first visit). Like most people here my boyfriend doesn't want the baby but i do. Ever since i told him its been abortion abortion abortion. I don't believe in abortion at all and i don't want to do it. he been telling me that I'm stupid, that I'm not thinking about our future, that he is not ready for a baby, and how i'll be on section 8 food stamps and making min. wage. These things he been saying really hurt my feelings and i feel as if i have no body on my side. he want to go back to the army but he told me he cannot go back if he have a child (i don't know how true that is). my plan is to move back home with my parents and still go to school but take online classes. I have sickle cell disease so i know this will be a high risk pregnancy. Im just really lost right now and don't know what to do. me and him fuss everyday about the situation and he never listen to me. i just feel like i don't have no one to talk to. i cry every night and i just wish things will get better. i sometimes hope that later on he'll get over it and start to come around but from the looks of things i don't think he's going to do that and he even told me that he wish he never met me. I'm so sorry for this being so long and me being in my feelings. i just really need some one to talk to who been thru the same thing. Thanks again you guys and i thank you for all the feedback.
29/10/2014 at 01:55
29/10/2014 at 05:27
god this sounds like a very difficult situation for you- im 26, and since i dont know you- i will just give you my honest opinion. Your boyfriend isnt supportive at all, it doesnt even sound like he is asking your thoughts or reasons for your feelings in all this? i would expect him to be shocked/worried/anxious HOWEVER the things he has said to you are out of line!
My honest advice would be for you to do what your heart tells you.... Im fairly certain if you aborted this pregnancy just for him then later on the guilt would be unbarable.If you want your baby- please keep it. Can you get support from your family? There is always ways to help you, and a 21 year old mother- its not a scandle is it?
while im giving out advice id say you need to tell your partner what you are planning to do and why- if he cant support this? If it was me id walk away from him, im sorry.
My advice might not be helpful to you or you might not even agree- but i feel you probably need to hear different bits of advice and make your decision. I wish you all the best and there is lots of people on here to talk to if you need to,
keep in touch xx
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