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01/08/2013 at 20:52
E is EBF and I generally feed on demand which, during the day, can be anything between 2-3 hours. At night he will feed at about 7.30-8.30pm and last until a dream feed at 11pm. This last week my H has been doing the dream feed with expressed milk from a bottle which E has taken although each time, he has been asleep.
We have been invited to a wedding in two weeks time (E will be 9 weeks by then) which has a very strict "no baby" rule. My in laws will be looking after E but I am nervous about his feeding as we will be apart from lunchtime, aiming to be back for his dream feed. Breastfeeding was very difficult for us to establish at first and took a lot of persistence, pain and tears from everyone! Even now we have some difficulties where E will root for a while and refuse to stay latched on.
My in laws have said that they will do whatever we want on the day including wondering around the village where the wedding is being held for the afternoon and bringing him to us for feeding at the venue (after a discussion, the bride and groom agreed that they would bend their rules to allow E to come to the venue for feeding only). However, I feel bad about asking my in laws to wonder round a village all day and am also concerned about what they will do if the weather is bad.
So my question is, do you think a day of expressed bottles will have an effect on continued breastfeeding and is it worth introducing the bottle a bit more to prepare E for the wedding day if my in laws look after him at home? Perhaps I am being a paranoid first-time mum, but I don't want to do anything to jeopardise how far we have come with the feeding. Would be grateful to hear of your experiences
01/08/2013 at 21:37
Tricky. What time is the wedding? Do you have any kind of timing routine for feeds other than 2-3 hourly? For example, if the wedding started at 2pm could you tank him up at 1pm before a lunchtime sleep (maybe your parents could eat a pub lunch or something in the village whilst he snoozes in the pram). Then they could stick around to bring him to you for the next feed before the wedding breakfast then could disappear and do his early evening feeds with ebf and put him to sleep. You could then be back to do the dream feed. That way he'd probably have max two ebf which wouldn't be too much of a change from routine.
Weddings are such a pain with tiny ones as you can't control the timing aspects of the day at all which makes it really tricky to fit their routines into the day - our most stressful days with the kids have always been at weddings so you have my sympathies.
In terms of prep for the day i would get one of your parents to watch your bedtime routine so they can get him to sleep in the evening and perhaps try your H or your parents giving him a bottle of ebf whilst he is awake so at least you'll have the peace of mind knowing he'll take it awake. Good luck!
02/08/2013 at 08:17
Thanks RS. Wedding starts at 2.30pm and H agrees that if we can try and limit the bottle to 2 feeds it will be a lot better. E does have some regular feeding times even though I am feeding on demand so hopefully we can work around it. Will try and give a bottle when E is awake and get my in laws to come over one bedtime to see how he settles. I am sure that I will be worrying more than E will be upset about being left for the first time!
02/08/2013 at 08:34
How difficult for you. How far away is the wedding from home? I was also thinking it would be good to do one good feed at the wedding - and would also save you having to pump! But I guess I'd have to weigh that up against doing a big two way journey with S unless I was confident he would sleep on the way there, especially if he decided he was hungry right this second thank you very much (speaking from stressful experience!)
I'm really no expert and appreciate your worries about bf after a rocky start but I shouldn't think a day on bottles will put E off bf at all. S has just finished 4 weeks on gaviscon, given 4-5 times a day in a bottle, just before or in the middle of a bf. it didn't confuse him at all even with that frequency and we're now back to just bf and he's fine. I know they are all different but given E's age, I wouldn't worry.
I don't think you're being over anxious either though. I left S for the first time at 8 weeks just to go for a meal locally, I left him with H but still felt weird and sad about it. It was totally about me as I knew he'd be fine - it just shows how bonded you are :)
02/08/2013 at 10:37
The wedding is only about 30 mins away from home so not too bad of a journey. Good to hear your experiences of giving S a bottle. Seems like he was unfazed by it and hope that E will be the same. We will definitely do a test run to see how we get on and hopefully I will then be more relaxed and able to enjoy the wedding!
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