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26/03/2013 at 11:07
At the moment I can't leave E for a second, he starts screaming like mad, horrible angry tantrummy crying. He's crawling now so I can't take him with me into the bathroom as it drops down onto the stairs and also the radiators are on and he heads straight for the pipes if i shut the bathroom door and leave him on the floor. So I put him in his cot with his toys so i can have a quick wash and get dressed (no chance of a shower or hair wash! ). As soon as i leave he starts and it sounds like he's being tortured. He stops instantly if i return and pick him up. Instantly, like magic. But i need to get dressed so i have to leave him and its hideous. This morning i'm at the end of my tether as we had little sleep again and i shouted at him to shut up then i turned my ipod on and went to get washed with him screaming, crying my eyes out i felt so guilty and so fed up. I've tried to tell H what it's like but he doesn't really understand as E is a treasure with him. I just feel like he hates me sometimes and i don't know what to do
26/03/2013 at 11:10
if he hated you he wouldn't cry if you left the room... can't advise though, sorry - i've got all this to come. x
26/03/2013 at 11:13
Thank you Pombear, i guess if we knew what it was really going to be like no one would have babies would they?! He's just so much better with H than me, feel like he gets fed up with me and just wants Daddy as he's all smiles when H gets home and I don't think he really gets why i'm exhausted and ratty xx
26/03/2013 at 11:14
Do you have a mobile for the cot? Might distract him if its a stimulating one.
Otherwise I'd just let him cry. It takes 5 minutes to shower and wash your hair, no harm can come to him in his cot.
It's just a phase, N did the same.
Another option is to put him in a bouncer chair or bimbo in the bathroom but that won't work if he can get out.
ETA- It's not the end of the world if he cries for a few minutes remember. He'll be fine so just get on and have a proper shower. You'll feel better if you do as well!
26/03/2013 at 11:16
I had this with little Sue. Yes I absolutely hated the crying but I was insistent that at least a shower was necessary for my sanity. I left her in her cot and had a quick shower. They have to learn but saying that its very hard. I remember the first days of showeing + crying my eyes out. Any option to shower while your H is still there?
26/03/2013 at 11:17
Sounds like a separation anxiety thing so he certainly doesnt hate you - he cant bear for you to not be there. I hate to say "its a phase" but it is and i promise it will get better. Might also be frustration at being "contained" in the cot if he is crawling now......
Or just shower while he naps?
26/03/2013 at 11:18
Door bouncer in the bathroom door way ? Cot mobile ?
26/03/2013 at 11:19
Thanks Hepburn, he won't go in the bouncer anymore, he twists himself round in it now til he ends up with it on his back like a turtle! And he hated the bumbo and flipped himself out of that so we sold it. Now he's mobile its exhausting. Hope you're right and it's a phase, i'm not bothered about leaving him in the cot, its more that the neighbours might think i'm torturing him! We don't actually have a mobile so i will have a look for one today, think a long walk in the fresh air is necessary today. Thanks for reading xx
26/03/2013 at 11:20
I used to take the jumperoo upstairs with me and put M in it whilst I showered, she could see me and had great fun bouncing around, distraction is key!
26/03/2013 at 11:23
Oo never thought of the door bouncer, doh! Thank you everyone. Feel better already knowing it's not just me
26/03/2013 at 11:34
Very normal it only stopped really when Molly decided she would shower with me - that was a whole new experiance!
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