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22/02/2013 at 01:14
I am feeling angry and upset today. I know I am being totally unreasonable but I just can't help it.
22/02/2013 at 02:03
Oh lovely, stop saying you are BU, you are not - in any way, at all! DR is the toughest part of IVF, it really does f*ck with your hormones and I remember being about 10 or 12 days into it and waking up feeling like someone had died, I was so down and couldn't shake it off and it sounds like you are feeling similar. However it did pass, and pretty quickly, plus once you start the stims you'll have so much more energy and feel brighter about things, I promise.
IVF is a huge emotional pressure, and such a rollercoaster. I was so excited we were getting our shot at conceiving, so scared it wasn't going to work - we knew the odds and our fertility issues, terrified of hoping, terrified of affecting things by being negative, questioning what I ate and drank etc. it's bloody exhausting! However what we also decided was it was 8 weeks out of our lives and a means to an end. Take any bad days as they come, rest, cry, rant and distract yourself as you need and want to and keep talking to each other - it's a scary but special journey you're on together and you will soon be out the other side and all the closer for it.
We only got one NHS go too, and though we were very grateful for if, it definitely felt like more pressure so I tried not to think about it! The fertility counsellor also told us there is nothing wrong with getting our hopes up and feeling positive - that we would grieve the same if it didnt work and we'd been excited than if we'd not let ourselves hope if that makes sense? I think that really helped our attitude and approach.
When it came to the vital bit, we only had one viable emby, grade 2/3 and were devastated - all positivity left the building and I wondered what the hell the last 6 weeks had been for as we didnt know if we'd even make transfer, it is sooo tough and the emotional side should not be underestimated, and that's without having to deal with the added practical issue of managing injections like you do. Do you have any family or friends with transport that can come to you particularly during this first part? You'll feel better soon but the buses sound like a pressure you could do without - I was knackered during DR!
Also, have you thought about acupuncture? It can be pricey but if you can afford any sessions - and don't mind needles, I found it amazing and would leave there a different person.
You must stop thinking you are BU though, you aren't, about any of it and also don't underestimate how rough DR can be emotionally, I am sure you will see a difference in a week or so. Please talk on here whenever you want and feel free to ask any of us about things that are bugging you.
And lastly, the reason I am writing this rambly, ungrammatical message on my phone in the middle of the night is because I'm 28 weeks pregnant with that little emby runt and he or she is currently kicking away, keeping me and my recent pregnancy insomnia company and I am so grateful - every single day for that one shot of IVF. We were told at the time, and it has proved so true - it only takes one, one go, one egg, sperm and embryo and there is no reason you won't be one of the lucky ones - it certainly sounds like you deserve it.
22/02/2013 at 09:21
No advice on the practical side of things but just wanted to say that you aren't being unreasonable this is a huge journey you are on and it is stressful so don't be too hard on yourself. Lamby has some good advice there. Xxx
22/02/2013 at 10:30
PS - I probably sound like a hippy with my acupuncture and meditation talk, but I have a CD that a fellow MD-er copied for me of Zita West to use during IVF, it is so relaxing and encourages positivity etc. I found it really useful, and it helped me sleep and switch off. If you want, I can post it on to you :)
22/02/2013 at 11:04
You're not BU at all...unless you've been through an IVF cycle, no one has any idea of the enormous stress it puts you under as a couple. Try not to be so hard on yourself. xxx
22/02/2013 at 19:19
What lamby said! It is so hard and you are at the beginning with a tough few weeks ahead of you. I am another pregnant with an IVF baby, just battle on through and try not to dwell on what could or could not happen xxx
26/03/2013 at 16:01
26/03/2013 at 16:12
no advice but just wanted to wish you lots of luck for the end of the 2ww
26/03/2013 at 16:14
Oh good luck tomorrow Vivixon. IVF is a very stressful journey without the extra layer of practicalities that you've had to consider like the injections, the hospital stays. I have everything crossed for you c
26/03/2013 at 16:28
Just another wanting to wish you all the best x
26/03/2013 at 16:40
Very very best of luck to you, I will be thinking of you until you get your result now.
26/03/2013 at 16:45
I am also wishing you the very best of luck. Let us know how you get on xx
26/03/2013 at 19:13
Wishing you lots of luck vivixon, I was just thinking about you the other day and wondering how you were getting on. Fingers firmly crossed xx
26/03/2013 at 19:55
Fingers crossed for tomorrow, hope it's good news for you xx
26/03/2013 at 19:59
All the best for tomorrow, fingers crossed for you. xx
26/03/2013 at 20:09
Loads and loads of luck for tomorrow. Really hope it's good news xxx
26/03/2013 at 20:34
Another one who had been wondering how you were getting on so pleased to read an update. Well done on getting this far and I have everything crossed for tomorrow for you. You are an amazing woman. Just wanted you to know that xx
26/03/2013 at 20:35
Every vibes and crossed fingers I have being sent your way xx
26/03/2013 at 20:58
So many good vibes to you for tomorrow. We had just 2 embryos put back in and none to freeze and one stuck, she's upstairs asleep now.
I really, really hope this has worked for you, there is every reason to believe that it has x
26/03/2013 at 20:59
Good luck xx
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