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22/05/2013 at 13:40
I'm not sure if I'm imagining it but the number of people TTC'ing seems to have plummeted. Is it because the ladies who had been posting have already got their bfp's and moved on to the tri threads and MD isn't attracting enough new members to fill the gaps left behind?Are there any ttc'ers out there lurking but not posting? Please join in the threads, I am feeling like I've been left behind! I know there is a few of us still around, few new ladies in the TTC thread and those who've gone on to MTTC and DTC but it still seems excessively quiet on the baby making front now a days :(
22/05/2013 at 13:42
I'm a bit of a lurker. We have just recently stopped using contraception so not actually going the whole TTC hog yet!
22/05/2013 at 13:54
Hi Purplestar, I've not been on here lately as I am trying to avoid obsessing about TTC as I don't think its good for me at all. Unfortunately the TTC threads and the talk of symptoms and CDs etc just makes me more and more obsessive and I want to try and be as relaxed as possible about it.
I know it helps some people to talk about it. I'm really sorry you feel left behind you most certainly are not, I imagine there are lots of other lurkers out there! x
22/05/2013 at 14:03
I've said it before, I'll say it again, I think it is the style of the board. It is like being thrown in at the deep end for people thinking about TTC or in the very early stages of TTC. I think it can be off putting for lurkers.
During the hitched days, people migrated over and lurked and it not was less of a big step as they could hop back to WP or OT. There needs to be a TTC area IMO, to ease neebies in and a place where it isn't all about poo and milk.
However I know my opinion is unpopular amongst old BTers.
22/05/2013 at 14:07
I'll be coming back in July PS!! I dont really have anything to say at the moment but will probably start easing back into it in another month. I'm not sure there have been all that many noobs that aren't already pregnant (I could be wrong).
22/05/2013 at 14:16
Oh Ducky, that's made me a bit sad. Us old ones, as you say, have lots of TTC advice to give. I hope all the actual baby talk doesn't put people off. :(
22/05/2013 at 14:25
Haha I don't mean you are actually old!
There would be no reason to stop the 'old ones' hopping over to the other board. A big like OTers still go back and offer advice on WP. Some of us TTCers have more experience and knowledge of getting pregnant than slme Mum's because of our journeys taking the long route. I know many of the DTCers actively avoid the boards because of its set up. Overall I do think the baby/toddler talk can be a bit much for people TTc having a down day or people who have just taken their last pill and want a less daunting place to chat.
22/05/2013 at 14:29
I am around but yes it seems a little more quiet, i will be posting more when I get back from honeymoon :) Hopefully have some new ladies over the next few months when lots of wedding's have happened :)!
I don't even think the TTC FB group can be blamed as we are all here, and half are pregnant!
22/05/2013 at 14:34
I just thought that everyone was on the Ttc fb group.
22/05/2013 at 14:59
There is very few non pregnant ladies left in the TTC group cherry pie! They are a very fertile bunch haha x
22/05/2013 at 15:03
Maybe it's something in the water lol... Must drink a few gallons lol
22/05/2013 at 15:05
I think it's because people used to migrate over from WP, just lurking ot begin with and then slowly joining in. I know that's how i started. I'm not sure where MD plans to get its natural flow of new traffic from.
22/05/2013 at 15:07
I used to post on BT back in the Hitched days but found it harder and harder to post about yet another BFN, so left. I've only just recently migrated over to MD. I have to say that I agree with Ducky. A TTC board would be nice.
22/05/2013 at 15:10
That's what I thought it might be AutumnRose. It used to be as more ladies got married some would wander over but I've not see MD advertise itself in any way for new members.
Also Ducky I understand what you mean as when you first look at MD it does come across as being a parenting forum. There is no obvious place for those trying to start a family to go. I know if you rummage around you'll find TTC threads but I'm not sure how many potential new members would know to do that when browsing the site, or if they'd even get beyond the front page.
22/05/2013 at 15:17
I assumed it was all being posted on the fbook group TBH
I don't 'get' the idea of a TTC board as I don't think you'd get non TTCers posting over there, I certainly wouldn't actively go over to a TTC board, I struggle enough popping over to OT!
It's all about what you put in, if someone has a TTC question they should post it, then we'd reply. If there are no questions then there's no TTC talk.
22/05/2013 at 15:22
I still read the forum pages, especially the TTC ones, but I felt I had to take a step back with it all because it was becoming all-consuming and a bit stressful. I find that posting about where I am in my cycle and the symptoms I have (or haven't!) got makes me all too aware that I'm failing at TTC right now, so I just try to avoid it where possible! Hopefully you guys understand where I'm coming from, but if I do see a post where I think I can contribute and help someone, I certainly will :)
22/05/2013 at 15:24
The TTC board definitely works on other forums. So that is a good reason to consider one, it sn't an alien concept.
I think Baby Talk aspect of Mumdrum is really picking up. However, Mumdrum does seem a little stuck in its ways (maybe trying to remain as hitched BT forever!) and I think it needs to be brave and take a fresh approach. Perhaps by taking on a handful of noobs onto its panel? And asking what would entice them to get stuck in.
22/05/2013 at 15:34
I think mumdrum is aiming more for the parenting audience rather people trying to become parents. I am tempted to find a pregnancy related forum instead and come back here if/when I actually have a child but in reality I think if I moved to another more appropriate group for my current situation I wouldn't return because I'd of become part of their community instead. (not sure if I've worded that very well!)
22/05/2013 at 15:38
If they are then I think they are missing a trick!
Ladies trying to conceive are biggest worry worts that exist and always seem to google and look for advice and support. Plus, those trying to conceive often go on to become parents, and then they fill up Baby Talk. Win win.
I'm also part of another forum, have been for 3 years, it is set up in a much better format than here but doesn't have my Hitched lovelies so I flit between both.
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