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05/06/2014 at 18:44
I have two roles at work. My first has been externally covered, they seemed the best out of the applicants so fingers crossed they will be ok. My management post is being internally covered. I'm ok with this, the candidates could all do it and several have come to me to talk about the Role. But I'm so fed up of being asked when im coming back (taking 9 months and will be back full time.) by both the external and internal candidates. When I tell them I get immediate, 'oh don't rush back' or 'so you will come back full time then?' or today it was 'your priorities change when you have children so you may not be up for the extra responsibility when you come back.' Then either a slightly condescending or disappointed expression depending on their response.
i appreciate I may be over reacting but it feels a bit like people are very keen to jump into my shoes so to speak. and they clearly know better than I how I will react to having a baby. I'm not explaining myself too well but I feel so annoyed about it!
Anyone get where I'm coming from?
05/06/2014 at 22:06
Annoying! Not exactly the same, but I had colleagues in other parts of the business suggesting I would change my mind, my boss said he was happy with my return proposal in principle but was concerned circumstances may change. Some colleagues mentioned it several times, as if they were stirring a bit. Wound me up. I'm a grown up, I know what I'm doing, I know myself best.
It's hard to ignore when it's at work and in your face. :)
06/06/2014 at 17:21
It is annoying, but i suppose you've got to look at it from the perspective that if you change your mind, it's good news for them as they'll get to keep doing the job for longer. I know when i was doing Mat Cover for someone, i hoped they wouldn't come back so i could stay in the job, but then, i didn't have the nerve to ask them what their plan was, i just waited to hear what was happening through the right channels.
06/06/2014 at 23:18
I had a colleague tell me that they wished I would hurry up and get pregnant so they could take my job. Not exactly what I wanted to hear when I had been trying for 12 months without success and had enough pressure already. Some people are very insensitive.
07/06/2014 at 07:11
I think that's the main problem counter, that they know better than me about what I want!
RKB- I see that they would prefer to know, but it's advertised as maternity, if my boss thinks I'm coming back I'm hardly going to tell others different, it would be so unprofessional (and not true!) so why ask me?!
That's tough parky, people can be insensitive.
I feel better about it all today. As H said, it's just getting used to the change& ignoring the comments that I find condescending. Thanks for letting me moan.
07/06/2014 at 07:36
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