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28/04/2014 at 13:42
(Me again ladies - trying to kick start the board a bit!)
How many weeks pregnant were you (or are you going to be) when you started maternity leave?
Were you happy with your choice of when to start or did you wish you'd started it sooner/later than you did?
28/04/2014 at 13:55
Day before EDD.
VERY glad I didn't go off sooner. Totally the right thing for me. I felt rough, being at work distracted me. Made me get up and out. Made me stay cheery when I felt like being a hermit.
Once I was off it felt like this: waiting, waiting, feel like $hit, waiting, waiting, feel like $hit, waiting, waiting....
Plus, she was very late so if I'd gone off at 38 weeks that would have been over a month of the above.
BUT... I get no enhanced time off, every day I spent pregnant was one day less with baby so I was extremely motivated to stay at work as long as poss.
28/04/2014 at 13:56
I'm taking AL from 36 weeks, and starting ML at 40 weeks. I am also cutting down to PT from next week, so I'll have 3 weeks of 4 days, then 2 weeks of 3 days! I can't wait to cut down to shorter weeks, as I really struggle with tiredness on 5 day weeks now.
I started mat leave at 37+2 (actually I had a week of holiday, then started mat leave), and had my baby at 40+ 6. It felt as though I was working late in the weeks that ran up to it, but once I finished work time seemed to stand still and I just felt like I was waiting, turns out I'm not that good at doing nothing! If I had a shorter commute I think I may have stayed for another week, but as I had to get a train and tube it was getting too much for me.
I was lucky to have a fairly easy and straightforward pregnancy though, I probably would have finished earlier if I had struggled at all.
28/04/2014 at 14:13
Sorry should of said to include any holiday you took ahead of time on there too. Basically trying to work out how far gone people were when they stopped working if that makes sense!
At the moment I've pencilled myself in as 37 weeks but work has asked that if I feel up to it can I continue to 38 weeks instead. Obviously situation might change by then and I have to leave way earlier than that but I was trying to decide if I'll regret having any proper time off to myself as I've got to have a c-section for medical reasons and they've already stated they'd like that to take place at roughly 39 weeks.
28/04/2014 at 14:19
I started at 36 weeks with O but could only afford 6 months off - he ended up being nearly 2 weeks late and I went back to work when he 4.5 months old, which I hated. With L, I worked up to nearly 39 weeks as she was due in the Christmas holiday and I had about 7 months off. With this one, I plan to leave at about 37/8 weeks (mid-November) and go back at the start of July. I don't get annual leave due to being a teacher.
28/04/2014 at 14:26
I finished work at 35 weeks and had two weeks annual leave so started maternity leave at 37 weeks. I'd also used some annual leave to go down to 4 days a week for the three weeks before I finished. It was nice to do that as I felt like I was winding down rather than stop work cold turkey. It also gave my replacement some time to do my job without me there before I left completely.
It was the right decision for me but then S arrived only two days late. If he'd been any later, I would have gone nuts!
28/04/2014 at 14:29
In your situation PS, I would personally go off a little earlier. Everyone is different but I really really loved having the time at home nesting. It was very special. I left at 35 weeks, using annual leave (and Christmas bank holidays/closure days etc, I was lucky with the timing) and then official mat leave started at 38 weeks. A arrived at 39+2 (waters broke at 39 weeks).
I did also do 4-day weeks from 30 weeks, so had every Weds off meaning I was never in work more than 2 days in a row. Was really good, I was able to schedule deliveries, appointments etc for my days off. Can you do something like that? It kept me in work a little longer than perhaps if I hadn't done it - I got very tired towards the end and I do suffer from tiredness/low mood etc in the winter months anyway and A was a winter baby. I'm just thinking that if work want you to stay later for anything particular, perhaps you could achieve it in shorter weeks? e.g. from 33 weeks you could drop to 4-day weeks, then drop to 3-day weeks from say 35/36 weeks and arrange them however is best for you, that way you might feel up to continuing to 38 weeks? I used my annual leave to do this.
28/04/2014 at 14:30
Oh and because you know you won't go later than 39 weeks, you don't have the problem of sitting around waiting that others may do/have!
28/04/2014 at 14:41
28/04/2014 at 15:11
I left work at 34 weeks. I had a rubbish pregnancy and was still throwing up until 39 weeks however the main reason was we altered my meds for an existing condition in the 3rd tri and the pain whilst trying to work was just too much. I was bored by the end though because I knew I'd suffer when we reduced my meds so I had the nursery etc.. ready before I even went off.
I like you knew I wouldn't go past 39 weeks so that made it easier to leave at 34 weeks, than if it could have been waiting until 42 weeks.
I also didn't have to worry too much about mat leave pay as we'd been saving for a long time and I did intend having a year off with G and my OH. However now G is here I know I won't last a year as I'm already missing work, but as I only work part time from home I'm going to go back before my mat pay finishes and let my OH be a SAHD for even longer.
28/04/2014 at 15:39
I finished work at 35+3 and took 4 weeks holiday so started mat leave at 39+5. It was a long long time as I ended up with nearly 7 weeks before he arrived but I have a really heavy manual job which were 13 hour days so was glad of the break!
28/04/2014 at 17:18
I'll go to 34 weeks, but because of the summer holidays I will start maternity leave on the EDD. Good for me!
28/04/2014 at 17:37
I was 37.5 weeks but F was 12 days late so wish in hindsight Id have gone a little longer.
28/04/2014 at 18:30
I was due to finish up at 36+3 on holiday with my mat leave starting at 38weeks. I arrived at 35+3 so a week before I was due to finish up work so I got zero time off before he was born but my story is an exception. Again though in hindsight I was huge and could have easily finished up at 34 weeks and really wish I had!
28/04/2014 at 18:52
Hmm... my H and I have chatted about it since getting in from work this evening and he's adamant I should tell them 37 weeks is my limit and refuse to do the extra week. I know things could change and like you've said missdeedee things can be totally different and baby might surprise all of us but assuming things go to plan it would be nice to at least have a couple of weeks between work ending and baby arriving rather than just a few days between the two.
If it's a hot summer I'm going to struggle even more at work as the office is tiny, I've been overheating just in the recent warm weather to be honest! I work at a holiday park so August is always our busiest month and August Bank Holiday the busiest of the lot, realistically will I want to be dealing with literally hundreds of people streaming into the office all day long when I'm ready to pop - more I think about it the more I'm thinking maybe not!!
28/04/2014 at 20:24
I'll be 35 weeks pregnant, but then have 5.5 weeks summer holiday (I'm a teacher) before starting Maternity Leave on EDD 31st August. Don't have annual leave really, so am just very lucky with how the dates have fallen. That said, I work in a special needs school so it's quite physically demanding and mentally draining. So, getting to end of July will be a slog for me I expect!
28/04/2014 at 22:01
I went off at 36 weeks knowing my induction was at 37 weeks.
In hindsight, a week was a short time to get everything sorted but I would probably try and squeeze it all in again for more time with baby after the birth.
Work were unbelievably supportive with this pregnancy and so there was not much stress at all in my third trimester and I got quite a few late starts and early finishes with no questions asked. I was also off most Thursdays for scans/obstetrician appts.
28/04/2014 at 22:25
First time I went at 34 weeks which was half term, ML started the week after at 35 weeks. For me it was far too long, everyone I knew was at work and I was bored by the time he came.
Second time I went at 37 weeks, knowing I would have a planned section between 39 and 40 weeks, it was nice to have some time with my toddler before baby came.
Third time I stopped working at 36 weeks which was the end of the school year, ML started the day of my planned section which was in the middle of the summer holidays. I was shattered by the time I stopped but actually work was easier than being at home with two kids during the holidays!
28/04/2014 at 22:29
I'm aiming for 39 weeks but have a desk job and drive to work and so far been very lucky to have easy pregnancy. I am also lucky in that my work already have my replacement in working so I felt if I really needed it, I could go off a week earlier or so!
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