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17/07/2013 at 16:02
Has anyone seen this article on the BBC website? - http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-23328646
I'm only 9+5 but I've been thinking a lot about Maternity Leave as I'd like to give my boss plenty of notice and tell him quite soon after the 12 week scan (all being well). I have to admit I'm nervous about telling him and whether taking ML will affect my role. I know I'll treasure the time off but I am quite protective about my job. My boss is a really decent manager so I am hoping all will be well.
Sorry that was a bit waffly but what are everyone's experiences when it comes to breaking the news and taking leave?
17/07/2013 at 16:19
My experience has been really positive each time, but then I am in quite a unique position in that I teach in my village school which is also where my children go, so I'm there doing drop off and pick up each day which helps with keeping in touch. I also have a female head who has a child of her own so I think she understands the need to be kept in the loop. I returned after 9 months each time (when SMP stopped) and found it fairly easy to get back into it.
17/07/2013 at 17:29
My boss has been great both times, I've worked for him for 10 years now, albeit at different firms, so think he was genuinely pleased for me which helped. My CEO on the other hand, is quite the opposite of PC and give me a bit of a grilling ahead of my return last time, including questions such as if/when I plan on having more children and if I'd return after another one. I've found being honest if a little vague helped.
Since I went on mat leave last time 3 of the 4 other girls that have gone on mat leave have not had good experiences, have all left and got a payout after they threatened to sue. I was therefore more nervous this time, and kept it quiet until 16 weeks when my bonus was in the bank and was pleasantly surprised by the reaction. Maybe my CEO has learnt his lesson though!
Returning the first time worked out well as my assistant who took over my role left to go travelling a month after I returned so i didn't have to assert my authority. This time I have someone in on a 15 month contract and she is obviously keen to be kept on after so I foresee that being more difficult. I'll worry about that nearer the time though.
17/07/2013 at 17:58
When I told my boss he asked when I'd be going of and effectively told me I had to use my KIT days. Knowing the company, I know there will be no communication at all until I go back or get in touch with them to arrange a KIT day.
At the moment I'm looking in to any way I can manage not to go back after leave, either by staying home or finding another job
17/07/2013 at 18:36
My experience was very positive, its a male dominated industry, but there are quite a few women in my office, all who have come back, and many who have had reduced/altered hours agreed.
If I hadnt read that article I would have said that experiences these days tend to be more positive as employers are generally more aware of our rights and nervous of not behaving correctly towards a pregnant woman, but maybe not?!
17/07/2013 at 18:37
I work for the nhs and they have been great. My team leader is amazing and really fought my corner. I've already told her I plan to go back only two days a week. She keeps me in the loop and I don't have to do kit days x
17/07/2013 at 19:28
It's good that on the whole it's seems more positive than that article makes out. I guess it all depends on the company and the individual managers. We have a few at work who I know have asked female employees exactly when they are planning to extend their families which is so inappropriate. I'm the only person in my team who doesn't have kids so I'd be disappointed if they weren't supportive.
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