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06/05/2013 at 12:14
And I'm struggling..
Haven't been on here for a while as everything was so difficult. My due date for my first mc would have been this coming Saturday and its hitting me like a brick. I should be counting down to meeting my baby but instead I'm not even pregnant ever feel that I will never have my own baby.
I've got a consultant appointment tomorrow and then due to start chlomid in September. Been ttc for over 3 years and had 2 mc and so no closer to having a baby then before. Im hoping that once I've got through next weekend and pass my due date things will become easier.
Any advice or words wisdom to get me through this tough time without turning to food as always!!!
Thanks in advance
06/05/2013 at 12:18
No experience but didn't want to R&R. Be kind to yourself over the next few days-grieve for the baby you so dearly wanted, feel sorry for yourself-it isn't fair, and know that once this date is past, you have a new fertility chapter to look forward to. There are loads of us on clomid on DTTC so come and join us when you're ready. Ttc is a roller coaster and we're all here for the lows as well as the highs. Big hug xxx
06/05/2013 at 13:06
Firstly, huge hugs to you. Due dates and anniversaries of mcs are always difficult, you do spend a lot of time thinking about them. I was pregnant at them time of my mc due dates and I felt very guilty about it, the what ifs of not having the losses in the first place and if it weren't for those losses, I wouldn't have had L. You've just got to go easy on yourself and do something to remember your LO, if you wish, I lit a little candle for mine. It does get easier with time, and when you are feeling down about it, we're all here for you xxx
06/05/2013 at 14:39
hey lovely - i know exactly how you are feeling, i have recently been though the due date myself and like you have notfallen pregnant since my MC. If you need a chat please please let me know X
06/05/2013 at 15:14
Thanks everyone, I really thought that I was on an up and was moving on however today I've gone straight back down. Just been comfort eating and fed up with that too. Hate being fat, that's stopping me becoming a mum yet I eat more. I just feel so out of control at the moment!
06/05/2013 at 16:25
awww hun. My friend has had 2 Mc's but is still conceiving naturally. She always remembers the due dates of the 2 she lost and has confided in me and me that she remembers how old they should be now etc. You are still on the up but you will experience blips every now and then and you would be strange if you didnt. You can still be on the up and grieving at the same time. Sounds to me like you are doing very well starting the clomid and having appointments with specialists, that to me is very much an UP time. As for the weight issue, Im a terrible comfort eater, but my mum got into the habit of making me eat fruit instead of my normal comfort foods and its something I still do now. Maybe that might help you? Im thinking of you and sending massive hugs and work clomid work vibes xxxxxx
06/05/2013 at 17:11
Minnie, just take some time for you, look after yourself for a bit.
I split up with my H the month after we were due to start clomid after 2 years of ttc then been ttc with my oh for another six months and only just got my very first bfp. It's still early says for me now but I cannot imagine how you are feeling having had 2 mcs. But I remember thinking I would never ever see those two lines and thinking it would never happen for me so I know how hopeless you feel.
I can also understand you not being around here, I had a tendency to keep disappearing too but the support is incredible and we will all be here any time you want to talk.
I hope you get a sticky bfp soon x
06/05/2013 at 18:31
Sorry you're going through this. Around my due date I knew about 3 people who were also due and it was awful, I was pleased for them but all I could think was 'our baby should be coming too'.
For me I found the anticipation of the actual day worse than the reality. It was a normal day, I was at a sales meeting actually which made me dread it even more but I got through it. You just do but be kind to yourself. There are all sorts of things that bring it to the fore again.
You will have your baby to hold eventually x
06/05/2013 at 20:31
My mc due date was a fortnight ago, and I took the day off work and had a lie-in and long bath and things, just did nice things for me. It wasn't as bad as I'd expected although I'd hoped to have been pregnant again by then and I'm not. Just be kind to yourself and keep talking about how you are feeling we are all here x
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