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11/06/2014 at 16:25
My MIL decided to say on fb in a message to hubby that if she is off from work she will come to the scan...er no asking if she could etc... I went mental at hubby (Pregnancy hormones maybe) I just think its really inappropriate.. they will be checking my cervix which I think is an internal scan too.. why does she think its okay to invite herself to a scan?
Its not like it will even be local she would have to drive 2.5 hours to attend.
Luckily hubby has got out of it thankfully!
11/06/2014 at 16:30
I wouldn't blame pregnancy hormones! I don't think I'd be happy about it either. Even if you weren't having an internal scan, if it was me, I'd still be uncomfortable with my MIL there. It's even more strange that she put it on FB?! Did she it privately to you there or put it in her wall?
11/06/2014 at 16:32
Glad its not just me..no she was messaging hubby at the time luckily! Id of been more upset if she had put it on fb..might edit that bit in the main post!
11/06/2014 at 16:42
No way in hell would my MIL be at my scan! Think its inappropriate. Unless she thinks she'll go as you'd be on your own? But then surely she'd be messaging you?!
11/06/2014 at 16:44
I am not driving so she knows hubby would have to take me... hes also off for 2 weeks around when I think it will be.. even if I had to go think my sister would offer to cone with me...I dont think thats what she was thinking...
11/06/2014 at 16:45
It is not ok !!!- it is a medical procedure not a form of entertainment for other people to "come along to". Only you get to decide who you want there - stick to your guns!!!
11/06/2014 at 16:48
OMG it's a medical examination not some day out, what is she thinking? Now my mil came to a private gender scan with Isaac purely because she had found out the week before she was terminally ill and given 8 weeks to live, I was 18 weeks pregnant and had booked a private gender scan (no medical examination at all), she sat out side and was wheeled in once we knew the gender as h was really upset that she might not see the baby iyswim. However that was the only time we allowed anything like that. Tbh the sonographer won't let anyone else into the scan room anyway whilst the examination is going on
No it definitely sounds like she just wants to come to have a look - isn't that what scan pics are for?? As Alocin says - it's not some kind of entertainment that anyone who wants to go can go!
Tell her you can only have one person in the room with you so no point her travelling all that way to sit in the waiting room! X
11/06/2014 at 16:51
Completely inappropriate! My mum is a nurse in the X-Ray department and she was always working when I went in for scans. I invited her in at the end of each scan just for a look, but only because she happened to be there anyway and after checking everything was ok.
11/06/2014 at 16:53
I was a bit shocked..it was the way she just said I will come too the scan if I am off... no could I come? I still wouldnt let her but thats not the point.. although like you said its a medical examination.. she is a funny one lol!
Alocin that was a lovely thing for you to do and of course I would allow similar if we were in that boat.. but its a precious time for me and H after loosing Jack I dont need the stress of her inviting herself along.
11/06/2014 at 17:08
11/06/2014 at 17:11
Ugh I don't blame you for being miffed CC. At my 20 week scan they suddenly decided it would be a good idea to scan my cervix to check I wasn't at risk of pre term labour. I felt embarrassed enough with hubby there since it's an internal. Wouldn't have wanted MIL within a mile. Or my own Mum. Or anyone actually!!
11/06/2014 at 17:23
Aw barefoot.. bit of a shock for you lol.. I have 2 potential checks of my cervix at 12 and 16 weeks just taking it in my stride and hubby is fab and doesnt bat an eyelid thankfulky lol... but having mil in the room is really strange! I really dont know how she thought it was a good idea!
11/06/2014 at 17:44
Batty. I probably wouldn't have minded my MIL being there if there was some reason, I dunno if neither H or my own mother could be there and I wanted support I'd happily have her but NOT if it was an internal and she would never, never in a million years dream of asking me, let alone not asking and just assuming she could!! What are some people thinking?!
11/06/2014 at 17:56
I have no idea... she has form for just making plans about visiting with her daughter and kids and then informs us it drives me insane!
11/06/2014 at 18:03
I just toldmymum and she said I will come too and bring the sandwhiches I love my mum lol
11/06/2014 at 18:10
I was only allowed one person in the scan room with me, and it was only going to be H! If H couldn't have been there My Mum would have been next on my list. I'm not sure my MIL would get on the list. I don't mind her being there, but if something was wrong she wouldn't be the person I would want with me.
11/06/2014 at 19:10
No, just no!
11/06/2014 at 19:12
Just read my leaflet and it says one person only yay haha!
11/06/2014 at 21:26
Very bizarre, I know it's more common at private scan places but then they are more for viewing rather than medical (even if some of us do use them as early reassurance).
She'll be wanting to be at the birth next.........!! I know my MIL would if she could but even she wouldn't dare suggest that
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