I knew if I replied here you'd get it, so thank you for the reply re my going back. You aren't wrong in what you say, and it's totally unfair that women are put in this position, but what he says is true. I'm trying to get what I want out of it (part-time suits me better) not just now but one day we have a hope to do it all again and I see it as an investment in to taking more time (a lot more) next time, if you see what I mean. I have to weigh up my career vs time at home and as I'm the main earner it's not an easy decision. But I'm going to read your post again and appreciate you writing it x
Hope the achy tiredness has lifted come morning :)