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08/04/2013 at 14:23
Prompted my MissusS' post earlier.
How is/was sex during pregnancy for you?
We havent DTD properly since Christmas, firstly because I had lots of bleeding and was too scared to, and now I think as a combination of getting out of the habit and H thinking it weird to go 'there' when Bean is 'near by!' We do other stuff sometimes but not often waaaahhhh!!! DOnt get me wrong there is still kisses and cuddles and affection to I'm not that bothered.
We only got married in September, and we decided to refrain for 18 months before marriage so we've had about 6-8 weeks of a 'normal' sex life so far!! lol wondering if we ever will again once children come into it!!
08/04/2013 at 14:35
Definately not the same as it was for us. We've only dtd a handful of times since bfp. It's not that we don't want to its just were not coordinated at the same time at the moment. I've had horrendous ms so haven't had the energy and when I have H feels too upset about the ms and worried about baby. I think it's normal and as long as the intimacy is still there were not too worried. It's just the start of a big life change, im sure the early days of baby wi be the same judging by the other sex post.
We're away next week for first wedding anniversary and I'm determined to enjoy it!
08/04/2013 at 14:42
It's not the same for us as it was but we're still managing occasionally.
Like you, I had some bleeding although only minimal very early on. We didn't DTD for pretty much the first 12 weeks. Now I'm feeling a bit more confident we've managed a few more times.
Agree though that as long as the intimacy is still there and you feel like there's enough affection I wouldn't worry.
I think it's driving H mad though as he's a bit of a boob man and the enhanced pregnancy cleavage seems to just be teasing him
08/04/2013 at 14:44
I think we've actually DTD about 4 or 5 times since the BFP. I was soooo sick at the start I couldn't think of anything worse and since then I've really not felt in the mood at all. I'm one of these people who has to be in the mood already - I don't generally get in the mood once we start. I've "looked after" H in other ways, but I'd happily go without for the rest of the pregnancy if I had to!
08/04/2013 at 15:19
We had a quiet spell when we got our bfp as I felt so sick all the time, it was a shock to poor H after ttc! Then we picked up a bit and it got more regular but the last month or two we've struggled, mainly as my bump is big and I've got terrible pain i the tops Of my legs and lots of pressure down below so I'm hardly in the mood much! H isn't bothered at all by the bump (though he says he doesn't want it touching him at this time incase baby moves and puts him off) and I do feel bad for him! I also had bleeding After sex at this stage in my last pregnancy so I'm afraid of this happening again this time too!
08/04/2013 at 15:37
prior to bfp we had sex all the time. like rampent teenages. now its very rare. its not none existant and for some couples it might be normal but its like every 10day-2 weeks kind of thing, im just not horny. which is a new feeling coz like i say...rampent teenagers.
08/04/2013 at 16:25
We were at it like rabbits ttc now we probably manage twice a month. We last dtd a week ago and it felt weird physically so not keen on doing it again now unless i feel the need to try and evict bubba!
08/04/2013 at 17:35
We haven't DTD since conceiving. First tri I felt too sick and tired, but also had bleeding so was too scared. Still bleeding now every couple of weeks. Plus I had a dream last week that we DTD and then gushed red blood afterwards. That's pretty much sealed the deal on abstinence for me! In any case, my libido is at an all time low. My poor H was quite up for it, but now says he doesn't think about it much anymore. That makes me quite sad.
08/04/2013 at 17:40
I really enjoyed it especially at the beginning. Was nice to have sex for just that and not TTC. Plus it felt amazing everything heightened. It has tailed off a bit now though, but then I may need to give it ago for eviction purposes soon!
08/04/2013 at 21:03
We relly struggled at the beginning. We'd just been reunited after six long months apart, but the sickness was unbearable. We went from a few times a day to a few times a week! It was better during second Tri, but third Tri I was tired a lot so it lost its enjoyment, probably 3 times a week towards the end, but most days after 38 weeks.. We wanted the baby out and were on Xmas leave and loved up. So glad we did, i can count on my hands the number of times we've dtd since E arrived, albeit H has been out of the country for 7 / 13 weeks!!
08/04/2013 at 21:39
We've hardly had sex at all since my BFP. Mostly as I would probably vom all over him. Secondly due to being exhausted.
Now, at 31 weeks I am feeling much better but could not feel less attractive if I tried.
08/04/2013 at 21:44
My H refuses to have sex with me during pregnancy, it's just too weird for him. At first I was fine with it, especially after TTC had become a bit of a chore (all 6 weeks of it). I'm not that bothered tbh, although I do find it funny to wind him up to trying seduce him.
I find it weirder that he's happy to do it with a newborn, or even a 6 month old, sleeping in the cot next to us.
My friends husband is rampant when she's pregnant, and I prefer my H's stance to that!
08/04/2013 at 22:29
I am 8 weeks now and the combo of painful boobs, nausea and exhaustion is putting me off. We have had sex maybe 8 times in the last 4 weeks. That's very little for us. I do want to but it just hurts and makes me want to vom! I have no qualms about sex while pregnant. Just sex while I feel like *** haha.
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