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07/05/2013 at 07:04
A has had a dummy almost since birth as she fussed and cried such a lot sometimes it was the only thing that helped soothe her a little. She's not such a crier anymore but if she's not in the sling or really tired and in a moving pram she needa a dummy to get to sleep so if she's in a bouncer or crib. She usually spits it out as soon as she's properly asleep (which then wakes her up!). What I'm worried about mainly is that she is now starting to need it at night rather then feeding or cuddling to sleep which I actually prefer at this age as it can be rectified in time. I really don't want to be one of those parents which have to constantly get out of bed to put a dummy back In but how can I stop this? During the day it's fine for now but it's nighttime that worries me. The advise seems to be to wean a baby off a dummy by six months to a year - how exactly is that possible if they rely on them for every sleep?
has anyone gone cold turkey and it's worked? How dependent did your little ones get on them?
07/05/2013 at 08:12
C has one for naps and bedtime and in the beginning it was a life saver. Then we got to the point where he would wake up for it and it drove me crazy but I just got up and gave it to him. I didn't want to stop the dummy because he falls asleep within 5 minutes of having it. We bought the dummy clip things that clip to his pjs and from about 8 months he could find it on his own. I always leave about 3 dotted round his cot incase he's lying on his clip. It was a pain getting up in the night but I just had loads scattered around for him.
07/05/2013 at 08:36
I worried about this. But since E moved into her own room I find that she doesn't actually wake for the dummy. She'll fall asleep with it but it will pretty much always be lost before she wakes for her feed or in the morning. I'd love to know how to get her to sleep without it in the first place though!
07/05/2013 at 20:01
Well she used it for one nap today when she was in her crib, will have to see how tonight goes. She keeps trying to get her hands in her mouth so she might even end up a finger/thumb sucker. Not sure which is worse as at least with a dummy it can be taken away whereas my 4 year old is still sucking his fingers when tired or anxious.
07/05/2013 at 20:14
I am having this dilemma too. H has started giving P a dummy in the evening to soothe her but i dont want her to have one at night because of constantly having to plug her back in. However my main worry is that SIDS guidelines say if they have a dummy to sleep in the day they should have it at night too. My eldest is also a finger sucker and i dont want P to get into the habit too. Its a really tough call....
08/05/2013 at 01:06
J will have his as he's falling asleep and now often spit it out as he falls asleep fully- he just grew into the habit and will often make a sucking motion without it being there. I was quite keen for J to have one as read SIDS reccommended babies have one, there is some debate about this I found after giving it too him (as MM said some have said only if they are given one during the day etc).
I found it worse when he would be really unsettled and spit it out when we were walking around trying to calm him- dummy hunting at 3am was not fun!
08/05/2013 at 05:03
E eventually gave up calling out for her dummy in the night at about 4 months. She became really dependant on it to go to sleep until she was 2.5 years and it was a Godsend during teething! She gave her dummies to the Fairy and got a barbie in return. We didn't hear about the dummy again other than when she announced to everyone she saw that the fairies had taken them
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