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30/03/2013 at 14:44
without us. my mum and grandad bought it for us and its been stored at my grandads house. theyve gone round there today to do something else and mum just text to say her and dad were putting it all together to check all the bits are together.
hubs is going to be really narked because he'll see that as being his job. where is he today? where he is moist saturdays that hes off work - football. what to do...
30/03/2013 at 14:51
It's just building a pram, they've saved you a job. Plus seeing as they paid for it I think it's their perogative to build it of they want to, they probably think they are being helpful.
Don't even bother making a big deal of it to your H xx
30/03/2013 at 14:55
My dad did the same. I was grateful as he checked everything was there and working, saved us doing it and let him feel really involved in my pregnancy. My dad was super excited to be getting a granddaughter so it was lovely to let him be involved. I don't think you should make anything of it to your H and he doesn't have a right to be annoyed by it. Like Hep said, they bought it.
30/03/2013 at 15:45
Pretend you don't know, then when you pick it up it'll be a 'surprise' to both you, I cant imagine your H will make a fuss in front of them?
30/03/2013 at 16:56
Going against the grain here but that would naff me off a little. They may have bought it but that, imo, makes it a gift. I wouldn't give someone ready assembled lego. I can see that it's all very exciting but if anyone touched my pram before me I would not be a happy bunny I know grandparents want to be involved etc and perhaps I am a little jaded by my experience of exILs assuming that "we'll buy the pram" meant "we will go shopping and look at all the pretty baby stuff and choose it regardless of what your needs/tastes are".
I wouldn't make a big deal about it though. I'd just inwardly feel a little robbed that I didn't get to do it myself. Perhaps unreasonable of me but there you go.
30/03/2013 at 17:04
I'm with cg, I probably wouldn't say anything but I'd be a bit p'd off that I'd not got the chance to do it. I'd also probably be annoyed as I'd not had the chance to see how it goes up and down and I'd worry that I'd struggle getting it into the car. Can u take it to your house and have a play?
30/03/2013 at 17:12
I wouldn't say anything, but would've been a bit gutted not to have put it together with H
30/03/2013 at 17:34
Well I dashed over there to join in, and good job as the three of them didn't have a clue what they were doing. I've come home with the car seat bit of it to keep here. Mum says its unlucky to have the pram here and I couldn't be bothered do disagree with her. I'll play it down to hubs. At the end of the day if he was that bothered he shoulddve done it in the last two months its been sitting at grandads. He works most Sundays and goes to all the home games (and local away games) he can on Saturdays. His priorities, he has to deal with the consequences I suppose.
30/03/2013 at 17:42
Glad you got to join in.
What absolute nonsense about the pram Storage though, bad things happen because they do, not because you choose to store a pram at your house.
30/03/2013 at 17:46
Agreed!! The only reason I didn't like buying stuff early was the thought of having to take things back! I once had to cancel a friends wedding when her fiance died in a tragic accident. Having take dresses back to shops and cancel flowers was horrific, I can imagine dealing with baby stuff post miscarriage is pretty *** too.
30/03/2013 at 18:34
I would have been quite miffed and may have said something along the lines of 'oh, that's a shame, we wanted to do it' but I wouldn't let it get to me.
However, if it were my ILs, different story!
30/03/2013 at 18:42
Well this is the trouble, its his inlaws. He's home now and after raving and moaning at me, I told him it wasn't my fault and he's had two months to do something and hasn't. He doesn't like home truths. Apparently if it was his parents I'd be livid. If something of mine was at their house and I wanted do deal with it myself I would've made the effort to do some not leave it two months and then moan about them doing it. Grrr. I'm cooking dinner with real rage now.
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