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28/03/2013 at 12:36
Ok- I've had a broken 3 hour sleep where h took over and only gave her to me for feeds on the hour so she couldn't smell milk in between . Managed to get her to sleep with me for 3 hours this morning and i managed to get her into co sleeping position so I could dose. She has feed twice this morning and have got her to sleep after second feed. I honestly think the problem is the sleep fighting and then she is over tired. So in preparation for tonight how and when did/do you get new born to sleep. There has to be some tricks we have missed
28/03/2013 at 12:43
I follow a routine at night time normally, he will have his last feed at about 10/11pm while sat in the bedroom with dimmed lights, read a book quietly, then put him in his cot awake,and let him self settle. I use a mobile with a heartbeat sound which I only use at bedtime, alot of the time he will lay awake for a while but will eventually drop off. Often in the evening, he will sleep downstairs from 8pm, and i'll offer a feed with him half asleep when we go up to bed
28/03/2013 at 13:18
We also do the last feed of the day in our room with the lights low. I put a hot water bottle on the mattress so it's warm and snugly when I put him down. I try and let him fall asleep on me (he usually feeds to sleep) and then carefully transfer him (I know I he will have to learn to self settle, but for now, needs must!). Good luck HF. I am finding he goes down well at this time (about 7pm), so I also go to bed then. The rest of the night is more challenging!
28/03/2013 at 13:27
Slumber bear, swaddle and dummy. They were my life savers. I always tried to put him down in his basket but 9/10 he would end up with me. He's a brilliant sleeper now, I think you just have to battle through the first few weeks and do whatever works at the time.
28/03/2013 at 13:28
Forgot to add I also give a dummy when he first wakes at night as half the time he doesn't take a full feed and just wants comfort, he normally spits it out as soon as he falls asleep
28/03/2013 at 13:46
As a matter of interest, when did you start introducing routines?
HF- Does she sleep during the day? My life saver this past few days has been a swing similar to this as M will sleep in it for 1-2 hours during the day and gives me a bit of freedom so I can just relax or get some sleep if needs be. It's a bit more snuggly than his moses.
I really would not try to stress to much about it, she's still only little and with time this is what I have come to learn and put up with. The only advice I have which works for me is to make sure she's in a deep sleep before you put her down.
28/03/2013 at 14:05
We still don't have much a routine Pinky, I just follow O. If I'm at home I'll tend to bath him around 7 then have a bit of tummy/nappy off time on the rug downstairs, this usually wears him out and he's ready to sleep. Since 8ish weeks he's got himself into his own little routine of being tired around 9pm and he will be sleepy then right through until morning, usually waking up for a feed or two but goes back to sleep after.
28/03/2013 at 14:24
For me so far E usually has a feed later in the evening anywhere between 8 and 11 say, after one boob I will wind,and check / change nappy then back on the other boob to settle her, she will then usually need winding again to get comfortable then I will cradle her in my arms till she goes to sleep - rocking, cooing as necessary when she is in a deep sleep I will then put her down upstairs and I will go to bed then too she wakes every few hours and I will repeat the boob - wind - nappy - boob - coo to sleep. this usually takes between 45 mins to an hour each time she wakes. She will not sleep if she needs to burp so I don't even try and put her down unless she is very sleepy and comfortable. Hope you can find something which helps HF xx
28/03/2013 at 15:56
To be honest we did what you are doing. When he was asleep H stayed in the living room with him, while I went to bed about 8/9, then brought him through when he woke up for his next feed. After the feed H would change him and then settle him to sleep. Oh, and swaddle tight with his arms in!
After a couple of weeks we discovered that it works better doing the nappy change before feeds, otherwise he brings milk back up.
Now H is offshore (and A is 5 weeks) I get up, change him, feed him, then wind him and sit with him upright for about 15 minutes before putting him back down. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't. He now likes to sleep with his arms above his head too, so I swaddle underarm.
are you getting any sleep during the day? That's the only thing that got me through the first few weeks!
28/03/2013 at 17:11
Hf feeling your pain!!! I need to know how to get them to sleep longer! Baby LG does not sleep more than 3 hours a time which means I get about 2.5 hours a go. I am going to ask H to take amby nest upstairs this evening to see if she will sleep longer in there than co sleeping. (Bassinet has been given up already!) last night was awful but think she is going through a growth spurt as feeding ever 1.5 hours! Her only saving grace is she sleeps in between - although I was threatening to name her "screech" last night.
28/03/2013 at 18:43
Thanks everyone. She had been a lot easier to get to sleep today and the bf is getting easier every time. Tempted to go and buy a dummy just incase. But have midwife tomorrow so will speak to her if we have another session of being awake for 6 hours. Otherwise will be walking to 24 hour asda at silly o'clock in the morning! Really hoping for at least some sleep from her tonight
28/03/2013 at 19:14
Well if we are both up we will have to meet up on here!
28/03/2013 at 20:04
For us the lifesaver was the swaddle and dummy, and also a lullaby.
E doesn't like there to be any light whatsoever in the bedroom when she sleeps.. Must be very dark. The second the lamp is on she sturrs. She also didn't mind the cool but reacted to a big quick drop in temp, so our heating is now on constant,
3 hours for such teeny babies is actually really very good going, I know a lot of people who've had a lot less. Growth spurts can be difficult too though. Missus sent me a fab growth spurt chart which was a picture simple format which helped reassure why she was so unsettled,
You just have to keep trying things to see what works for your baby (though you may find that what works one day won't the next). Other things we tried were cuddling to sleep, shhhhh'ing to sleep, leaving her alone put down but happy to drop off herself (she is one for her own space, and this is the approach we take in the day), bouncy chair, vibrating chair, raising her crib mattress with a towel underneath, lining crib with fleece blanket, keeping her face level with bee so she could see me if she opened her eyes white noise app....
28/03/2013 at 20:10
Ah and no routine here other than what E imposes on herself, we're totally babyled, we feed on demand, sleep when she either self settles on her Play gym or when she cries and I know to out her in the carry cot away from stimuli. Every week - 10 days her routine changes as to what she's up to. We said once 12 week growth spurt is done we will try a loose routine but tbh what she does now works for us, she likes to sleep early, which means u night actually get to see my hubby of an evening etc which suits me fab.
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