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03/09/2013 at 18:39
I'm just after your thoughts and experiences if I may?
Z is 6 weeks old, and since my H went back to work I've made sure that we get out and about everyday, mainly so I dont go stir crazy! I'm generally out from 10-2/3ish, either seeing friends/family or at a group. I met up with two friends today, both on ML and both have two children. They seemed to suggest that as I'm always out Im preventing Z from falling into a natural sleeping/eating routine, and that as shes always out and about in the car or pram that this is settling her and im making a rod for my own back and all that.
To be honest it never occured to me as something that could be a problem, although I can kind of see their reasoning. I see it the other way in that she's not tied to the moses for naps, sleeps anywhere, and if she doesnt want to be settled not even the car solves that one I have learnt!!
So, thoughts ladies please?
03/09/2013 at 18:42
With Zoe I was very much the same as you are, we had no routine at all and it never caused problems with her sleep. Orla is more likely to end up in a routine just because we now have the constraints of the school run but at the moment (also 6 weeks) she just gets carried around wherever Zoe needs to be.
03/09/2013 at 18:44
I never had a routine for my son, some days we were out all day and he slept whilst we were out (usually in the sling) or we'd be at home and again he'd sleep when I thought he needed to. When he was older and just on one nap a day I tried to have that at home just because I enjoyed sitting down in the peace and quiet!
03/09/2013 at 18:52
I was always out and about with A and she has always slept brilliantly. When I was pregnant with L she was 9-18 months and we didn't go out quite as much but she still napped really well and naturally woke about 7am, bf in bed, porridge then she went back to her cot for another hour or so. With another 2-3 he nap after lunch and bed for 7pm.
L on the other hand spent more time at home and has still never (at 3 yrs 6 months) napped in his own bed or fallen asleep without me!
03/09/2013 at 19:51
I have been out a lot since h was about three weeks old.. I actually found it easier to cope this way even though everyone said I was brave for going out.. H is now 13 weeks old and we still go out a lot but we do have days at home and he sleeps just as well at home as he does out in the car seat.. Granted its easier to settle him when your driving or pram pushing but once asleep he is fine.. He sleeps through from 7.30 until 6am too so it can't have done too much harm!
03/09/2013 at 19:57
Like you, I was often out and about and it never bothered A nor I that he didn't have a routine. This one will have no choice but to be out and about as she'll have to fit in to some extent with A's life.
I honestly don't think the words Newborn and routine are supposed to be used in the same sentence.
03/09/2013 at 20:11
We were very routine driven with the twins so by 6 weeks they were pretty predictable. However, with my eldest I would say getting out and about helped instigate a sleeping routine as she always fell asleep in the buggy en- route somewhere so I then started leaving the house with a view to her sleeping on the way to wherever we were going. That way she got used to sleeping at certain points of the day
03/09/2013 at 20:20
I wish I'd never heard of routines! I used to just go about my business and if F slept, he slept. Now I feel like he should be sleeping and I feel like it is a constant battle to get him to sleep. I even find myself avoiding going out to try and get him to nap and it is driving me up the walls. I say continue what you are doing. A baby who will sleep anywhere is surely more flexible than one who will only nap at home or nowhere in my case!
03/09/2013 at 20:29
I never bothered with a routine and a newborn, I would go out regardless if they were asleep or not. My two like to fall asleep in the buggy or car and through most things.
03/09/2013 at 20:33
So they think you should stay at home just so your baby sleeps at a 'correct' time? Rubbish.
A sleeps no differently whether we're out and about or not. I might be able to get a longer nap out of her in the pram, but unless that is past about 4/5pm (which it never is), its very unlikely to have any kind of impact on her night sleep
03/09/2013 at 20:53
I'm actually going to try for a week not being out single every day as he will sleep in the car on route but wakes as soon as I uncllip his seat and generally won't sleep when being pushed for very long so he is falling asleep for 10 mins and woken up and if we are doing several things in a day in and out the car he is constantly being disturbed and doesn't have a decent nap whereas he sleeps better at home. I need to start working again from home soon and can only do it if he gets a regular nap time. If he slept well out and about I'd love that and wouldn't go changing things.
03/09/2013 at 21:09
We've been out and about nearly every day since L was born, for my sanity rather than anything else! He has always fought sleep, but been much easier to settle when not at home for some reason. At six months he now has his own little routine of three set nap times a day which he created himself. Our days are now 7 - up, 9 - nap, 12.15 - nap, 3.45 - nap, 7 - bed. Naps are only 45 mins long, but he is really happy on this routine and it fits around us having a morning activity and an afternoon activity, and I wonder whether that's why he follows this pattern as it fits with what we tend to do. I would say at Z's age she will be happy to sleep anywhere, as long as you can get her to sleep while you're out I can't see a problem. She will change her sleep patterns so many times at this stage that it really is more important to work around making you happy!
03/09/2013 at 23:02
We had zero routine, he's found his own loose routine from 6m. Weaning and switching to formula feeds helped a lot as they always have rough times but even now I just wing it after his morning nap anything goes! I find that no matter what I've done in the day he'll always fit his two naps in and be ready for bed at 7/8pm. I had no routine to my life before he came along so I stood no chance of it once he was here. I'm lucky he's so laid back, hope its as easy when he's at nursery!
03/09/2013 at 23:09
We didn't really get into any kind of routine until she was 6 months ready for me to go back to work but there's nothing wrong with that. I really hate the phrase rod for your own back
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