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04/04/2013 at 08:46
M has started having nightmares, not every night but every few nights she has always slept through from being about 10 weeks old, only ever waking if a noise woke her or she was ill/teething.
but since we had C in december she wakes every night, sometimes C wakes her, sometimes she just wakes up but we can usually settle her witin 5 minutes, tuck her back in and put her music on.
but the last couple of months she's started having nightmares, i can hear her shout no, no, no or i dont want it she then cries, sometimes when we go to settle her she's doing all this in her sleep and sometimes she's awake, it then takes ages to settle her and she wil then wake up another couple of times.
has anybody had simular? any tips on how to prevent these or what to do?
05/04/2013 at 13:41
05/04/2013 at 14:19
Yep, we've been there. It's apparently quite common around this age as their imagination starts developing.
Have you tried leaving a light on or giving her a night light? We found this and leaving the door open really helped. Also you might find it useful to buy her a 'special guardian' cuddly toy - perhaps a character or animal she already loves? Then it can be brave and look after her and keep her safe all night.
05/04/2013 at 14:26
we have a night light and always leave her door open, i will try the cuddly toy though - thank you.
05/04/2013 at 16:18
Is she def awake? Just wondering if they are nightmares or night terrors. The latter of which occur during sleep, they won't settle as such because they are not awake and therefore are a little different to deal with x
05/04/2013 at 16:27
No i don't think she is awake, i think she only wakes up when we go in her room to settle her.
05/04/2013 at 16:44
If they are night terrors they sleep through the whole "episode" and have no memory of it when they wake. It is also nearly impossible to wake them whilst it is happening. They often scream hideous blood curdling screams and can sit bolt up right wide eyed and staring and may fight you if you try to touch them. Night terrors usually occur at a similar time and are usually in the first few hours after going to sleep. They are much worse to the the parent than child,they don't even remember them.
There is not muh you can do when it is happening if it is a terror, just make sure they don't hurt themselves but essential let it run it's course, it will suddenly stop and they will return to normal sleep. Trying to wake them can make it worse and if you do succeed may unsettle them. If they continually happen at the same time every night then you can gently rouse them just before the usualy time (about 10 mins) and this may break the cycle. They commonly start at toddler age and can come in phases and then go away for a while. My eldest sometimes suffers from them.
Nightmares usually occur further into sleep during REM sleep and in that case the child will usually wake up from the nightmare and be distressed by it and remember it. In that case some practical things can help, a night light, a special teddy to keep the bad dreams away, we give out eldest "good dreams" (lots of kisses on her forehead at bedtime) to make her feel better. And lots of cuddles and reassurance when it happens. You can prevent them just help her to deal with them.
Hth a bit x
05/04/2013 at 20:17
I've been having this with O recently. He's got a night light and we keep the door open. We give him lots of kisses and cuddles when it happens and he does eventually go back to sleep. x
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