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22/09/2014 at 08:02
Just wondering whether your partner made changes to make sure he was ready for birth and how long before due date he made these changes. Thinking things like not drinking when out, keeping phone on in meetings etc. Think H is pondering this, especially as baby due in the xmas party season.
22/09/2014 at 08:32
My H is a builder so he can have his phone on him all the time anyway. From what I can remember he stopped drinking when I was around 38 weeks. We're not big drinkers anyway. Can't think of anything else he did in preparation!
22/09/2014 at 08:49
My h doesn't drink much anyhow. He kept his phone on him and charged. One thing I would suggest is when you pack yours and baby's hospital bag go through it with your H. I did mine independently so he had no idea what was in there. So after giving birth when I was exhausted and in pain I was trying to describe things to him, reassure him they were in there he just had to look more carefully etc. it would have been easier if he'd seen it all go in first.
22/09/2014 at 09:39
H has already told me he will stop drinking on 2nd Jan 2015. I'm due on 18th Feb haha! My mum had my brother 9 weeks early though so there's always a chance baby could arrive unexpectedly. He keeps his phone on him anyway, but I will have all his desk and administrators numbers too in case he's in a meeting or out of reception (which happens sometimes in some of his buildings - he works across 5).
I don't know when to have hospital bags and stuff ready? Around 25 weeks maybe? Simply because I am a worrier and like things to be done!
22/09/2014 at 09:41
Echo what Raincloud said about packing the bag. Having H searching through the bag while I was in labour because I wanted my lipbalm wasn't the best situation to in. Otherwise I can't really remember.. Sorry. Though he is a teacher and with M being born in the summer holidays I didn't have to worry about calling him away from work.
22/09/2014 at 10:27
He stopped drinking a month before my due date & was very cautious of his parking at work ie making sure no one blocked him in.
He also didn't go to any away matches of his local football team.
22/09/2014 at 11:04
My h doesnt tend to get drunk at all really (well recently anyway) he drinks but not excessively, he goes to the football amd will have 2-3 beers max or if it's his turn to drive to football then he doesn't drink, so Iv never asked him to stop drinking. The night I unexpectedly went into labour with Isaac he'd just ordered a takeaway and poured a glass of wine and wasn't amused .
I'm a bit twitchy as he works 1.5 hours away now and is often away in Germany/other parts of the uk, he's in Bristol for 2 days this week. He's cancelled all his meetings abroad for now but really has to go when baby should be about 3 weeks old which is fine by me as I'd rather him reachable now, he has to go to Surrey (I think????) when I'm 36 weeks and currently there's a few plans either my mum will come for the 3 days which I'd rather not tbh as I don't need the stress, il go with him for a day or 2 (have spoke to some old hitchers who will meet me), or il just be at home and phone a friend if needed.
My hs secretary is aware of the situation and if he needs to be pulled out a meeting then that's fine, also Iv to phone h/his secretary if any concerns at all. I fainted the other week and h was easily contactable.
He did want to go to Moscow for a champions league game when il be 36/38 weeks (potentially section week) and I did actually umm and Ahh about him going but came to my senses and told him an out and out no lol.
22/09/2014 at 11:16
My H doesn't drink often but will have the occasional after work boozy night (city boys, bah) which he curtailed once I got to term. He still went but didn't drink as much. He kept his phone on him at work but typically didn't have any signal when I tried to phone him to tell him my waters had broken. He'd only given me his desk phone number a couple of weeks previously, luckily!
22/09/2014 at 11:47
Rod, my hospital bag was packed around 34/35 weeks but as I had so few maternity clothes I put some things in last minute, as I was going to the hospital last minute! I wouldn't suggest being that last minute!
22/09/2014 at 14:32
Thanks all. V helpful.
22/09/2014 at 21:20
I'm due on 17th December and Hs Christmas party is on 13th, he isn't drinking. He is also stopping work travel (out of the country) at the end of October. As for the bag, knowing me I'll pack it when my waters break
23/09/2014 at 09:42
Rod my mums coming up to take me hospital bag shopping in a couple of weeks!
As for drinking hubby is driving an hour away for his friends 30th in early November at around 26 weeks that's his last drinking session until baby comes!
23/09/2014 at 10:07
I now have business support numbers for the 2 offices my husband mainly works in and his boss' mobile no just in case!
23/09/2014 at 12:04
My H only stopped drinking (enough to be over the limit - there was no way he'd give up completely!) about 2 weeks before. We live close enough to the hospital (and the taxi rank!) that it wouldn't have been a big deal to have got a taxi if anything happened before.
He's always been hopeless at making sure his phone his charged and I had a massive go at him when I was 37 weeks as he'd had a big golf day and his phone ran out of battery and he was late home. I had no idea where he was so I got really upset at him and told him that he had to make sure that his phone was fully charged and on him the whole time from then. We also made sure the car was full of petrol (H has a habit of leaving it run right down to the very end).
I could be quite relaxed about things as I live a 5 minute walk from the hospital and I have both sets of parents within 5 minutes.
My bag was packed with the basics from about 32 weeks, but I did keep adding things as the weeks went on.
23/09/2014 at 12:30
23/09/2014 at 13:50
My H isn't a big drinker but he stopped completely from about 36 weeks I think. He is pretty much always contactable at work anyway, and I had a few colleagues numbers just in case. However, despite this, I went in for induction in the evening at 12 days overdue, and once I was settled on the ward H was sent home and told to come back when visiting hours started at 11am unless they rang him to say otherwise. I rang him at 7;30am when my waters broke, no answer. At 9:30 contractions started at an unbearable intensity, still couldn't get hold of him. 10:30 went into delivery, still no answer. He finally appeared at 11:30, just as I reached 10cm dilated! His reason? He's gone to his mums and left his phone at home...if I hadn't been in so much pain I would happily have killed him!
23/09/2014 at 16:32
R was due 17th December so H didn't drink alot leading up to this date but if he did we made sure my dad hadn't had a drink the same night. Drink was only a few cans at home generally.
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