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12/12/2017 at 15:11
We’d like to ask you, now that you’re pregnant, how do you feel about smokers? Do you get cross or upset by family members who smoke, or people who smoke outside shops or pubs, creating clouds of smoke?
Since falling pregnant, has your attitude to other people smoking changed? And if it has, how do you deal with it?
We’d really like to hear how you feel about smokers, since getting pregnant. Please do tell us by posting your reply on this thread.
12/12/2017 at 16:00
I used to smoke before I was pregnant, we planned our little man but I got pregnant so quickly I hadn't quit by the time I was pregnant BUT the minute I found out I was pregnant I quit on the spot, before I was pregnant I didn't think anything about smoking but now I can't stand it! I find it so disrespectful when people smoke around me and urghh outside the doors of the maternity ward!...not going to lie iv given some looks to pregnant women smoking! I have 0% will power and I managed it because I wanted to give my little man the best start in life...don't understand how they can carry on smoking knowing the risks :(
12/12/2017 at 17:22
ive always had the mentality that if you want to smoke- fine- just don’t force it on other people. Ie: on your unborn child or on others. I think smokers should absolutely carry on and smoke in deaignated areas, to keep it away from people who choose not to. Why should I have to breath in carcinogenic smoke because of selfish people? I don’t sneeze or cough in people’s faces- smokers should have the same etiquette.
12/12/2017 at 17:29
My Husband and I both smoked in the past and gave up.
i get really annoyed by someone smoking in close proximity to me. My Husbands friend who is also a work colleague picked me up for a work trip a couple of days last week and literally he had just put out his cigerettte before getting in the car so the smoke wasn’t really of his breath eww 🤢
on night we told my parents wer Pregnant, after we had eaten, my Dad who uses a vape to cut down but still smokes lit up a cigarette in the same room as me, this made me mad and upset. I asked told my Husband it was time to leave. My Dad apologised and said he had done it mindlessly. he Put it out as soon as I said about it. I left the room for a long while then felt I had to go back in. If he does it in future I will limit my visits more than I do already and my baby will not go to their house alone or for any length of time. Thankfully my Mum is a non-smoker and if it was down to her my Dad and Brother (who also lives with them) would be too.
12/12/2017 at 17:38
I agree with the above comments. I work as a Neonatal nurse and see first hand what drug and alcohol abuse does to a baby in utero. Some mothers (such as those who have found themselves human trafficed into the UK and are controlled by drug addictions) really do have my sympathy and I can understand why it is near impossible to give up their addiction as it is forced upon them. Same for mothers who suffer from horrific mental health conditions and require strong medication to control this. But those who are just a general smoker/drug user/alcohol consumer and do not stop entirely or almost entirely when pregnant really annoy me. I think it is one of the most selfish acts you can possibly carry out. Same for people who smoke close to a pregnant woman, somebody having a ciggie a good few meters away from me doesn't bother me, neither does walking past people in town who are smoking, after all it is their choice and they have a right to smoke if they so choose and I have put myself in their company. But to spark up right next to an expectant mother is selfish and -at this stage of pregnancy- I wouldn't happily vomit in their lap as the smell makes me feel horrendous!
13/12/2017 at 11:37
I just can't see eye to eye with mums who smoke during pregnancy. I try to sympathise but as an ex 15 a day smoker who quit the day i had that positive pregnancy test I just can't understand why some people can't just do it for their innocent baby.
As for others smoking, my friends are all great and won't smoke if im in their car etc. My husband smokes but does it in his own time not around me which I think is the way it should be.
Walking down a street past a smoker doesn't bother me, they don't know me and are entitled to do what they want. Personally though before I had a child I would always cross the road if there was a pregnant mother or children heading my way etc just out of respect.
I know of 3 people who have had baby's in the past few months who smoked as normal during pregnancy, and three went into labour before their due dates by about 3 weeks, and all 3 were a lower than average birth weight. It makes me so upset.
Dont get me wrong I am no saint, on my wedding day I had a puff on a cigarette, but it was my wedding day and to go from 15 a day to 1 drag on my wedding day in 9 months I think is something I should be proud of x
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