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10/12/2008 at 14:31
I am still a newby to this forum and wanted to ask some of you vertern mums about pain releif in labour.
The problem is: I have an acute fear of birth called Tocophobia which the NHS, bless them, have chosen to ignore and allow me to continue with a vaginal birth despite my protestations. So I am no looking at complete pain relief as a lever to help with at least one aspect of my fear. And it gets worse, I was told yesterday; my baby is already 9lb 5oz at 38 weeks, I'm not due till 22nd December and positvely catatonic with fear now.
I have plumped for an epidural as oppose to pethadine since I would like to have some control of my mind but less pain which they have agreed to. They said they would not make me have to feel pain to push either so the epidural would be kept in throughout the birth process.
Please be honest guys, does the epidural work? Does it really take the pain away or are they just pandering to me.
10/12/2008 at 14:51
I had a epidural for both my sections, possibly higher dose but if they use it for a section it must work!! Also 2 people in my family have had epidurals for normal births and said they are fantastic my aunt even slept and playd chess she was so relaxed.
Best of luck xxx
10/12/2008 at 15:09
I thought it was a different kind of spinal block they used for c-sections never-the-less you have comforted me somewhat. Thanks!
10/12/2008 at 17:56
I had a epidural with both. I waited to long for for the first one. So with Ayesha my youngest I asked for it as soon as I went in. After I had the epidural in I went to sleep and they woke me up when it was time to push. I felt no pain at all you cant walk for a few hours after the birth but that was the only problem I had with it.
I suggest that you ask for it as soon as possible and have a shower or bath while you wait for it. If you explain your problem to the midwife thats on duty the night/day your in labour she might be a bit more sympathetic to you as a person rather than you trying to get through to the whole nhs. But trust me you will be fine. Ty and keep yourself calm and distract yourself as much as possible. walk and keep your mind active.
10/12/2008 at 18:06
Aww, thanks very much Linz0209,
So I just need to get myself to the hospital quick smart then to ask for the epidural straight away?
They don't help very much with parking do they, the good old NHS? However; the first twinge felt and I'm gone no; if, buts or whys and they are not sending me home unless it's a false alarm. If I have to I will protest in the main reception area... ha ha ha
Thank you very much, you have all alleviated my concerns much more than my consultant or midwife.
10/12/2008 at 18:58
Best of luck to you with this. Ive only ever had a spinal.
My sister was due 24th dec but is now due a section nxt wed(17th)
10/12/2008 at 22:05
id assumed it was a spinal block with my first my my midwife i had 4 lola, born 2wks ago, told me its an epidural!? and i could sit myself up and get comfortable within an hour of leavng theatre dont know about walking as i wasnt allowed for 24hrs but with a newborn to look at and adore that time will fly!
Wishing you loads of luck xxx
10/12/2008 at 22:28
11/12/2008 at 08:55
That's good advice about printing off info about Tocophobia and I'll take that onboard.
11/12/2008 at 19:18
I had an epidural with my first but they wouldn't administer it until my waters had broke which they had to do for me. Also I was told they would only be able to do it as long as the anaethetist was free and not in surgery. Luckily for me as it was 2 am so he was free, but bear that in mind.
Hope you get the birth you want.
Take care, xx
11/12/2008 at 22:04
Hi There Zoe,
They have also warned me about the anesthatist not being available straight away too but I fully intend on screaming the shop down until I get one. I think I might die if they don't give it to me, 9lb 5oz - NO WAY.... God I just want to get it over with!
Thanks for the heads up though.
13/12/2008 at 12:01
13/12/2008 at 12:04
13/12/2008 at 12:26
Hi Laura and Linz0209,
Really? I find it incredible that the NHS can make such mistakes, not to mention worrying mothers sick that their child is either small or large when it could be rubbish in the first place. Personally, I think they tell us too much, why can't they just say they don't have an actual size but the baby is within normal size ranges (if it is of course).
I'm a student nurse myself and quite shocked by my treatment of said professionals when they know full well I have a very real phobia of childbirth and pregnancy. Imagine telling someone like me that my baby is over 9lb already and no you won't be getting a c-section (something I would cope better than birth as I have watched a couple when on training placements?) I think mothers should have more choice over the way they give birth, it's our bodies and our babies not the property of the NHS, all this talk about 'well if an anesthatist is available then you can have an epidural' WHAT THE...?
13/12/2008 at 12:36
13/12/2008 at 12:41
Thanks for your kind words. I know it will all be a storm in a teacup after the event - it's just the build up...
It must have been quite a joyus occassion for you to realise your baby was not a Downs sufferer after being told otherwise. I can't imagine how that must have felt.
13/12/2008 at 12:51
it was weird. I really didnt mind. I knew she would be happy. But it was a relief to know that she didnt have to spend most of her life in and out of hospital. She did have to be followed up with scans etc following her birth but It really was ok. They do tend to scare you. I agree with your prev post that they tell you to much. Luckly I just to work in Alder hey hospital and my mum is an ODP and works on delivery suite so between us we usually realise that they are ott at time and try to take it with a pinch of salt. I know what you mean. But if this helps. When I was in labour with Ayesha and BEFORE i had the epidural I was in no pain at all. I went to have the a shower and the time alone was great. I had a "feel" underneath coz I knew something was going on nd it felt so weird.After that I got nervous just becausr I knew it was close. But my husband kept me occupied. He would just chat to me and have a laugh together. You cant stop it so try to enjoy it and if I was you I would avoid doing any research now. unless its calming methods. if you dwell on it, then it will feel worse. GO for a dinner date with a friend. someone who wont get you nervous and try to get excited about seeing the baby rather than the birth itself. And also if it makes you feel better I am actually looking forward to the birth this time so it cant be that bad and you do get over the pain straight away.
tbh I would be more concerned with the fact afterwards you have all kinds of icky things going on. lol - youll soon know what I mean
13/12/2008 at 13:06
Lol... I'm not even going to ask you about afterwards, I think I'll spare myself thanks very much. ha ha. Since your mum is an ODP I can imagine you have had some pretty interesting stories too.. medical staff are just fantastic for livening up conversation.. ha ha
Glad to finally get to speak to someone who not only has been through it but agrees on how I feel the NHS excacerbate things.
I keep thinking that I have started but nope, nothing, getting all sorts of funny symptoms like very low aches, frequent trips to the loo and not for a pee and generally just pains around my abdomen. I feel like my stomach is going to burst if she doesn't start making headway soon. In some ways I am looking forward to having others take over for a few hours so I don't have to constantly think - what was that twinge? or ouch, have I started?
You have really brought me down to earth a bit about all this so thanks very much.
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