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06/08/2013 at 13:04
All along I've been hoping to avoid induction of labour. My hospital has an amazing midwife led unit and I was all geared up for a lovely natural birth. I was excited about it kicking off at home and staying here with my husband. Unfortunately my baby has other plans. I'm 40+7 and baby is back-to-back and not engaged. Midwife couldn't do a proper sweep this morning. I'm now booked in for induction on Sunday and she didn't expect baby to arrive on his own before then.
I'll now be on the delivery suite and I'm hugely disappointed and scared. I'm struggling to get my head around the fact I'll have to labour on a bed in hospital instead of at home or in a pool. MW said it might be more painful in my back because of his position, and could take a long time as he's not engaged (plus the fact that there are three other ladies booked in for Sunday which is more than they usually take). I don't feel like I'll be strong enough to do it without pain relief and generally I feel really upset with myself, scared, and totally unprepared for this type of birth.
Any positive stories welcome, especially where baby was back-to-back or not engaged (feel free to post a link if you wrote a birth story)
Also any general advice. What extra do I need to pack? What should I be prepared for?
Pain relief wise, I feel like if I'm on the delivery suite anyway I might as well get an epidural if I need it. Is that a really crappy attitude? I assume it's more likely I'll need something more than gas & air. Is that true?
I also read other interventions, e.g. forceps, are more likely?
Lastly, if you were induced because you were overdue, did you tell your family the date? I really didn't want anyone to know I was going into labour but don't think I'll be able to avoid it now. I hate that people will be phone-watching whilst I'm going through this.
06/08/2013 at 13:11
First of all, there's no reason why you won't go into labour naturally before Sunday. Secondly, if you really want to you ccan refuse induction for a few more days at least. Thirdly, being induced doesn't mean that you have to be on a bed, and if you are you don;t have to be on your back, you can be on all 4's, or leaning over the bed whilst witting on a ball.
Alex was back to back, although I didn;t know until I was 10cm dilated. I got to 10cm on just gas and air and the pool (I ended up with an emCS, he just didn't move down).
Baby may well spin round, have you looked up exercises/positions that will help baby move round?
Big hugs x
06/08/2013 at 13:13
No experience, but don't worry about it being not what you originally planned. I think most births don't turn out as planned, so at least you can mentally prepare yourself for it to be a Plan B rather than plan A. What matters most is that you and baby are ok.
06/08/2013 at 13:16
I wasn't induced but baby was back to back and didn't engage. I went into labour naturally the night before I was getting a sweep. 40+ 6 so not as far along as you.
There's still hope things may happen between now and Sunday.
Lots and lots of sex in the next few days I would suggest
Good luck and In the mean time think positive- this time next week you'll have your baby.
Don't tell anyone if you don't want- make something up, tell them you've said you don't want to be induced so because all is well they're letting you wait a couple of extra days.
Or tell them you're being induced next Tuesday then you can still surprise them!
06/08/2013 at 13:22
BG - I'm going to look up some exercises this afternoon. He's been in the exact same position since about 25 weeks though so not sure how likely it is I can shift him. I was considering refusing induction before this morning, but the fact that I'm no more favourable today than last Tuesday makes me think that he'll need to be pushed.
I know it's probably not as bad as I'm imagining - I've definitely developed a fear of induction (perhaps from scare-stories from friends) and feel like I'm worrying unnecessarily about it, but struggling to control myself or my feelings! I'm glad I can be a little active at least.
IDC - I agree, at least I know in advance that I won't be getting my ideal birth. Turns out I don't deal with it well so probably a good job to get advanced warning!
06/08/2013 at 13:25
Thanks JT - have booked my H in for tonight already! That's great she engaged voluntarily for you. Thanks for the positive story x
06/08/2013 at 13:30
Agree with what BG and IDC have said!
I was induced with Miss CV and I wont lie, it was a tough couple of days but pushing her out was literally the best thing I have ever experienced and I remember thinking immediately afterwards that I was really sorry I'd never get to do it again (I thought she would be a one and only). I am actually almost 36 weeks now with no 2 and it's weird to say it because I know it's going to be hard but I am really looking forward to getting to do it again. And I'm not some tough cookie, I am the world's biggest wuss, the thought of me dealing with labour was a big joke to my whole family.
Also, I dont know the ins and outs, but I was induced early at 37 weeks, so fingers crossed induction 5 weeks later might not be as tough - as in your body is likely to be more ready for it than I was? I think plenty of inductions go very smoothly - a pessary's enough to get your body to do the rest on its own. My body/baby was just *not* ready so I'd 3 or 4 pessaries, manual breaking of waters, the drip to start contractions, the full whammy. As I said, it was a long and tough couple of days but I'm very proud of how I handled it - lots of rocking on the birthing ball and breathing/relaxation. I did end up with an epidural but I dont think it's a crappy attitude to be open to one and in retrospect, I dont think I needed one - I had already been measured at 9cm (gas and air only) before even asking for the epidural and had a bit of a funny turn where I started to scream blue murder and that's when I got one. My midwife was newly qualified and an acquaintance who's a midwife thinks that I was probably transitioning at that stage and a more experienced mw would have just got me ready to start pushing.
You can do it xxx
06/08/2013 at 13:34
Oh and have you been using a gym/birthing ball? My induction only started to work at all (going from still completely unfavourable after all the pessaries to a couple of centimetres dilated within a few hours) when I found a gym ball and started rocking and bouncing on it (on the MW acquaintance's advice - she swears by it) . They're also good for positioning - I've bought my own this time round and have been using every night since 30 weeks. Really helped the backache too.
06/08/2013 at 13:38
Thanks CV, I really appreciate your response. I'm glad you had a positive experience despite it being tough xx
06/08/2013 at 13:40
Yup, I've got a birthing ball. Rocking on it now :) I've been bouncing a lot and hoped it would show in the sweep today. I think the fact I've not progressed from last week is another reason I'm disappointed. I'll keep at it though.
06/08/2013 at 14:53
Here's my birth story, though O wasn't back-to-back - mumdrum.com/.../dumblespuds-positive-induction.aspx
Please don't be scared or worried about the induction, I felt the same when I had mine, to the extent that it pushed my blood pressure up. It does mean that you'll get to meet your LO sooner than waiting around for labour to start naturally. There are also other pain relief options so you don't have to go straight for the epidural, only if you feel you need it. TBH, the contraction pain when I was being induced is comparable to when I went into labour naturally, it just happened to ramp up more quickly. You don't need to tell anyone either, that's entirely up to you too. Do take some magazines/books and some snacks, in case there's a lot of waiting around for you.
In any case, LO might move round and you'll go into labour naturally before your induction. Hugs and good luck xx
06/08/2013 at 15:11
I've been induced with 2 out of 3 of my babies. My natural labour was the worst out the 3 and the one that ended in forceps. My 1st labour was waters broken and synto drip. I did have an epidural but I wasn't fussed about a natural birth and wanted any pain relief going! 3rd labour I was induced with prostin, baby not engaged. Baby was born after an hour labour and no pain relief. Not all inductions are bad - I requested an induction 3rd time as my natural labour wasn't great
06/08/2013 at 15:12
Thanks for your reply DS, much appreciated xx
06/08/2013 at 15:14
Wow Ally, an hour! Interesting to hear about natural being worse. Thanks x
06/08/2013 at 16:09
Just had to crash in here to say that I cannot believe you are due any minute now! It seems like only weeks ago we were chatting away on the TTC threads, it's crazy to think that was before MD even existed!
Wishing you all the best for a nice easy labour, will be keeping an eye out for your BA, xx
06/08/2013 at 16:15
Hi pw, sorry you're feeling so stressed. I had a very positive induction - labour was 10.5 hours from very first twinge, which began 4.5 hours after pessary was inserted. Have posted my BS recently so it's probably a page or 2 back if its of use - am typing left handed on phone as I feed! I did have a very open mind about pain relief though - I was in it for a baby, not a medal! As it happened I didn't have anything at all but didn't have any hang ups about it or fixed plans about labour which probably helped my attitude. Just think, you will meet your baby soon, it doesn't matter how things get kick started, just that they do :)
I also didn't want anyone to know so I didn't tell them I was being induced - you could say you had refused induction? My mum was ringing daily for updates - total pita, so I slyly rang her that morning to get it out the way then I'd had him by the time we were due to speak again!
06/08/2013 at 16:26
Hi. I was induced for my 1st and it was so positive I begged to be induced for my 2nd. My induced labour was actually quicker than my natural, 2nd labour, and things started very quickly and were over very quicky, although I did end up with a ventouse delivery. Yes, the contractions were more intense than my 2nd, but i got to pushing with my tens ( hated gas and air), but they didn't believe things would have progressed so quicky and gave me the epidural i'd asked for, then checked and discovered I was fully dialated and in fact ready to push. All over with in about 11 hrs.
My 2nd was back to back, had been for a while, and i'd spend ages on a ball trying to move her, for her to do so then move back. (She's still bloody minded now!) I went into labour, naturally, 7 days overdue and things were progressing nicely, dialating quickly again etc. but they couldn't decide on the position. Only at pushing was it confirmed that she was now sideways and why I wasn't able to get her out on my own. They told me I was to have a c-section, but i asked them to try to get her out manualy if possible. She was manually turned (not nice, but worked) and forceps used (again, not a nice experience). S came out screaming with only 2 tiny marks on her head. So overall it was traumatic at the time, but the outcome couldn't have been better. Therefore, baby can move during labour and i did go into labour naturally with her being back to back, but if you do have to be induced, there is nothing to fear about the process. If the baby is still back to back, i'd recommend an epidural as it could well mean a prolonged pushing stage and if it does end up needing forceps or c-section you've ready to go. (But that's just me, i have no issue with avoiding pain. Lol.)
06/08/2013 at 17:15
My birth story is on here in the real life stories, and I know how you feel as this exact time last year I was in your shoes at term +8 and I was desperate for my homebirth and against the clock! Went into be induced at +12 like a woman on death row, but long story short (as you can read my tale on here!) I had a smashing labour and birth pool delivery within 18hours of propess insertion with no pain relief but the water. Fingers crossed for you, I was out of my mind this time last year with people mithering and me stressed about induction xx
06/08/2013 at 17:57
Rose was back to back and I went into labour naturally 6 days late.it was a long labour but I didn't need a c section.good luck
06/08/2013 at 18:12
Hi PW - I actually refused induction. It did lead to a massive argument between me and the consultant. I was determined that if there was no medical reason he could find, I wasnt going to agree to induction. I had monitoring on a ward at 40+14 and a scan to check placenta was okay and plenty if fluid around baby. The consultant wasn't happy so I agreed to review situation with him at 40+18. I went into labour naturally at 40+15 and she arrived quite quick in the end! (Midwife arrived 9am, I was 4cm, I had a baby by 2pm). So definitely ask if you can push induction back a few days, give you every chance of going into labour naturally - if that's what you want - the ward where the monitoring was done was lovely. The midwifes all told me to home & have sex!!
Also the spinningbabies website has some exercisefor tturning back-to-back babies - worth a go I reckon!
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