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26/03/2013 at 18:47
How do you cope with your body post birth?
Now, when I write this I whole-heartily love my babies and wouldn't change them for the world. I know I have done well in losing baby weight, weighing less than I did before my babies and I know I had 2 babies in the space of 15 months.
I just feel rubbish about my saggy belly. I have been in tears about it the last few days. Everyone keeps saying how well I have done and how great I look, but my response is you should see me naked!! My stomach is awful, I have saggy skin, which I still have some weight to lose in my opinion. I just can't see it getting any better. I have googled and everything just comes back as tummy tuck. Theres no way we would be able to afford that but trust me if we could I'd be booking in for new boobs and tummy tuck With big R I had stretch marks, I can deal with them they have faded lots and are quite bearable. However with baby R, I had split tummy muscles. I'm not sure if this is the reason for saggy tummy or what, but I carried very out in front with her.
I just feel rubbish, I have spoken to H but tbh hes losing patience I think. He keeps telling me I should be proud of myself...blah blah blah! He's just too scared to saying anything truthful but doesnt really know how to answer me at the same time.
I suppose I just need a kick up the bum to tell me how lucky I am to have my babies....
Am I normal feeling like this?!
26/03/2013 at 18:50
If your muscles split, see your GP. Certain exercises (like crunches) can make it worse. You may get some physio.
Tummy tuck is on my agenda. I'm saving already!
26/03/2013 at 18:53
Someone else told me to go to GP, but I didn't think they would do anything. I think I would just cry if I spoke to them about it and they'd think I'm crazy! I actually don't know any other mum who has a belly like mine..... I feel ridiculous!
26/03/2013 at 18:56
I hate my tummy too after having 2 c sections in 13 months, i was really lucky i didnt get any stretch marks with either L or B, and my tummy has gone down really well but im concious of my section scar.
Although my oh thinks it looks better after having B, he jokes they gave me a tummy tuck at the same time as after L i had this horrible flap of skin above my scar but that seems to have gone since having Bobby, but i still dont like it ;-( mind you i havent excersised or dieted yet im determind to start soon as i know once summer is here i will get depressed about weight etc.
26/03/2013 at 18:57
I think it's perfectly acceptable to feel the way you do, it doesn't mean you are ungrateful or don't love your babies. I can't advise on the tummy area as I've always been slim but with a tum that won't shift (well to be fair if I ate less chocolate and did a few sit-ups it might!). After my first I pinged back into shape within two months and was slimmer than before I had him as I wasn't going out drinking and eating fast food all the time. A is only one month but I already feel that my tummy will be harder to get rid of this time. It feels saggy :-( I plan on doing the 30 day shred when I'm ready and can find the time as I want to build up muscle but not lose weight anywhere which means I will have to start eating really well. I have a few small purple stretch marks this time which really don't bother me yet the new patches of thread veins on my legs make me really upset and I'm considering getting them lasered at the clinique opposite where I live
26/03/2013 at 19:04
Like you, I now now weigh less than before I had F and am slimmer than I have been in a long time. Before F, I didn't exactly have a flat stomach and now it's certainly no better but weirdly it doesn't bother me now like it used to.
Our bodies go through so much during pregnancy and birth, give yourself a break lovely. That said, it's completely normal to feel this way but perhaps a chat with your GP might help? x
26/03/2013 at 19:32
I'm the same. Back to pre baby weight. Totally different shape. I'm ok with it atm as I'm mainly in clothes that hide it but the c thought of putting on a bikini makes me feel sick that said I'm going to do it and I'll show e I'm proud of every curve etc. As you say the baby is the most important thing.
I'd give it time to improve. If it doesn't I'd see the gp its less about how you look and more how you feel you look right?
26/03/2013 at 20:14
Don't have a third child or you really will be screwed! My stomach is so ruined now that I hate going out without J in case people think I'm pregnant...
27/03/2013 at 13:37
Thanks all. I sat down and spoke to H last night and he didn't realise how much it was upsetting me because from where he is, he thinks I'm fine, it doesn't bother him. But he doesn't have to look at himself everyday! I think I'll carry on dieting and exercising to see if it helps. I will make an appt with GP, in a few weeks. I need to look into it alot more and make sure they can actually help first. Yes, I would say its more about how I look when I would wear swim costume, I will NEVER buy a 2 piece again but about how I feel aswell.
Mooey - Don't! I'd love a third but I really do have my hands full at the minute! It's fine when I'm pregnant its just after!
Thanks all PJ xx
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